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3+ 4+ 5+ 7+ support thread 2015

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mumteacher · 25/11/2014 19:07

I started the below thread last year and have had so many people find it useful I thought it might be worth doing it again.

I have had a number of messages asking if I have any spaces in my classes. I'm really sorry but I have been at full capacity for some time now.

However, I do appreciate that this is a very stressful time of year for parents who have children sitting these private school assessments in January. So, I'm hoping that by setting up this support group thread I can help by answering some questions you have about these assessments.

Hopefully this thread will also contain some useful insight from the experiences of parents who have already been through the process.

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efrieze78 · 26/11/2015 15:47

Anyone else waiting for outome of 7+ of CLSG. The waiting is killing me. Why do they need almost 2 weeks to deliberate. Argh!!!!

t1n333 · 27/11/2015 10:34

I am watching this thread..getting increadibly nervous about the upcoming 4+ assessments!

Ofelia15 · 27/11/2015 22:50

t1n333 Where are you sitting your LO? How old is he/she?
We will be sitting our DD in Jan'17, so still have a year ahead. After reading all messages regarding 4+ assessments I first was feeling on the verge of panicking. However, after talking to one very wise mum here, I now feel it's time to calm down and just do whatever I can to get my DD ready, and then it will be up to a school to decide if she's right for them or not. There's only so much you can do really. And I'm definitely and honestly not hiring a tutor :)
Also if you get too stressed about the whole process, your child will pick it up rather quickly, and you don't want that!

Puravida99 · 06/01/2016 14:08

Hello - my daughter had her Habs assessment this week and not sure how it will go but I would love to know what to expect at second round Habs for 4 plus. I know that we are with her in the interview but is she asked questions or what does she do while we speak to the head? Thanks in advance and good luck to everyone.

DuchessOfWeaseltown · 06/01/2016 14:49

Can I ask quite a general question on here?

We are about a year away from the time when DD will be assessed for Reception entry at a particular SW London school. So a long time in many ways. But I am just wondering what sort of thing we should be expecting.

For example: letters and counting. DD currently has literally no interest in either of these, so I have no intention of pushing it (she's a month off 3. I am pretty sure assessment will be when she is roughly 3.11). BUT is there any point over the next year at which I should start to encourage her a bit more? Or ask her pre-school to encourage her, more likely, as she is more likely to do so there!

I suppose I'm just starting to feel a little concern on this front as I have spoken to other parents who are beginning to encourage letters/counting (even phonics, which I think is crazy at this age, no?) with a view to school selection.

Our DD is (sorry I know it's an MN cliche) very obviously an extremely bright child (Dh's family genes, I can take no credit!) - phenomenally verbal, imaginative, creative, questioning etc etc. I suppose what worries me is that if she really continues to show no interest whatsoever in getting a hang of letters/counting etc, she is going to suffer during assesment, if other children have done so.

The ratio of applicants to places is minimum 4 to 1.

Quite apart from the fact that I think on any given day it is surely difficult to assess a 3+ year-old (?) though I know the staff feel pretty confident about their ability to do this, I just absolultely love this particular school. I was very anti the assesment idea in general until I visited the school, chatted to current parents and just really feel it would be a great fit for DD. Creative, zingy environment which I know she would thrive in.

So, should I be worrying about getting her to learn more 'formal' stuff over the next 9-12 months, or should I just wing it, as we are currently doing, on the assumption that EITHER she'll suddenly decide she really wants to learn letters etc OR just not worry about it at all and work on the hope that her natural brightness shines through?

We tend towards the, er, not-so-pushy style of parenting, but in SW London I do occasionally worry that our laid-back approach might do DD a disservice!

mumteacher · 07/01/2016 09:35

How much do you want your daughter to attend this school?
If it's we don't mind so much we have a great plan b then 'wing it'.
If it's a school you really want then it might be an idea to help facilitate learning a little.

Doesn't have to be aggressive just leave a few alphabet puzzles and other phonic/ number games around. She'll soon start to be interested and then you can take her lead.

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DuchessOfWeaseltown · 07/01/2016 13:44

mumteacher, we have an OK plan B but I really love this particular school.

Will stealthily leave alphabet type stuff around as you suggest... she is picking up three or four letters - s, o and i, randomly - and can count in a straight line easily to 10 and a bit beyond, but actual 'counting' anything just turns her right off... I think she hasn't really grasped the fact yet that these boring-looking letters that don't mean much to her right now are eventually going to enable her to read on her own... she's always trying to be 5 steps ahead of where she should really be and a runner before she can walk iyswim so I think she needs to gradually realise that there is actually a purpose to all this!!

pamaromi · 09/01/2016 07:26

Hi Mumteacher,

My daughter has sat her assessments this week and is been called for interview. Could you please be able to help her with that?

Many Thanks.
Kind Regards,
Pamaromi

mumteacher · 09/01/2016 10:28

I won't have time to check this thread and the current 2016 one.
Could you please address you queries on
www.mumsnet.com/Talk/primary/2533579-3-4-5-7-support-thread-2016

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Mask235 · 09/01/2016 11:05

Hi there mumteacher,

Hope you are well. My daughter has been called for a second assessment at NLCS. She is born in December. I was hoping you could please guide me asto what they expect. We are really hoping that she gets in so any advise would be very very helpful please. Please can you guide us?
Thank you very much.

herdingmonkeys · 14/01/2016 16:35

Hello mumteacher, and anyone else who can help.

My 3 year old daughter will be doing the entrance assessment for Forest School's 4+ in September/October this year. How can I help her prepare? She is not at all academic, but a charming and confident girl. I have never attempted to teach her to read - I work full time so all the time we spend together is playing silly games and larking about Blush

My husband and I are desperate for her to get into Forest, as we live extremely close to the school, my daughter goes swimming there once a week and loves the pool and the school grounds, and I have heard good reviews of the school from other mums. We would not be disappointed if she didn't get in, but I would like to guide her in the right direction, so they are able to see what a lovely girl she is (and if they still don't want her, their loss!)

Thanks for your help X

smooshraspberry · 06/02/2026 21:06

Following with interest

Isthisright220 · 06/02/2026 21:17

@smooshraspberrythere’s a 2025/6 thread which will be useful for you

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