I've withdrawn dd2 from school to HE (her sisters remain in school). All through year 2 her teacher was raising concern verbally. Then her report came and every area had 'in line with expectations' ticked. Yet the narrative, once you got past the 'positive language' showed she was really struggling.
The language does a huge disservice, I think. 'DD2 is beginning to... With support from a TA'. In other words can't yet do it.
'DD2 has been exposed to....' in other words 'was in the room at the time'.
'DD2 benefits from discussing a task within a group before attempting to do it'. In other words 'can't understand the task without help.'
'Expected' for y2 in maths, yet can't reliably add and subtract numbers to 20. Can't understand money at all. The list goes on.
I think reports should be as my DD1's statement report is:
A list of objectives in a table, then a short sentence by each one saying 'met' or 'can do up to 14, working on 15-20.' 'Confident with digraphs, working on trigraphs.'
Then a narrative discussing her strengths/weaknesses overall.
For Ms kids without SEN, those objectives would be simply the learning outcomes for the relevant year group.
If DD2 had a report like that there is no way her school could have got away with saying she was at 'expected' level when she is so far behind.
We want transparency.
No fluff and cuddles are going to help when a child leaves school with no skills and the parents had no idea.
I do think that comments about how involved our generation of parents were have to take into account the age of the Internet. It only came into being in 1991, so most of our parents had no way of knowing that their child's schooling might have been vastly different from a child even 10 miles away.