Honour:-"So Ampere, what should parents say to children who are in a state about SATS, unable to sleep and crying about wrong questions? The average ability 10 year olds feeling upset because they can't do the questions your very able older child struggled with?"
No, as I stated, DS was upset because another boy of equal ability to himself told DS he's 'failed'- what? I don't know and nor does he- which is why I said I wished there were SATS in Resilience, and private tutoring in 'apt retorts'. I was, of course, joking. I do have a young and immature DS but I am more than aware that life owes him no favours. The 'Don't worry, darling' litany doesn't necessarily do them any favours, and it is surprising how many DC will rise to the occasion if required. As blametheparents tells us, try the modern 11+ if you want stress!
I have never suggested DS cannot sleep- in fact, he sleeps the sleep of the just! He knows SATS are important but they do not define him or our relationship to him. He won't be suffering any mental or physical health issues as a result. In fact, I'd go as far as to say that if my DC were falling apart to this extent (mental/physical health issues) at this level, I'd be looking at alternatives to main-stream schooling for them, like HS, maybe. Such DC will absolutely not cope with the secondary school environment and GCSEs.
Yes, there is usually 'a way through', but experience tells us, if a person is at all able to do so, it's a bloody sight easier to get it right first time around!