Do I have a word with the teacher?

[Aliz07]

A bit of a difficult one! DD (year 6) auditioned for the school play. She hasn't been given a part. She's very upset as quite a few children who didn't audition have been given parts.

Every year she's auditioned but never been given a part. I think part of the problem may be that unfortunately she doesn't stand out. She's quite shy/quiet in class, has never been in trouble and probably doesn't register much on the teacher's radar, if that makes sense.

Part of me wants to speak to the teacher and ask why, on the otherhand I don't want to make trouble.

I'm quite sad for her. It's her last chance in primary school and she's left out yet again. She's very upset, especially as all her group of friends are participating. She just never seems to get picked for anything and she's feeling that it's not worth trying anymore.

What an amazing tale and a fantastic result !

I do hope today really really works out well for your DD.

Aw, just read the whole thread and so pleased that you and your daughter are being looked after and taken seriously. School sounds great. Hope your daughter has a lovely day today and well done to both of you for being calm and assertive. Best wishes.

Have been following this thread.

As a mum I think you are fantastic. The support you have given your daughter is commendable.

I am also very impressed with the school. They could have dismissed your concerns, but instead they have completely embraced your DD and her well being.

The very best of luck to you all
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Sorry, posted after I'd read about your initial meeting with the teacher which was far too soon! Have read the rest now and would like to say a resounding well done to your family! While I'm so sorry you've had to go through all this, you have, no doubt, saved many other children similar heartache in future.

I hope your DD enjoys the rest of her time in the school and has a happy and positive start to High School.

Have just read this thread - made me cry.

I am so pleased for your daughter and feel so proud of her for being so mature, even though I don't know her.

All the very to her for the last few weeks of school and into the future.

well done. I'm really glad that its worked out well. I suspect the Headteacher is grateful for your support as its damn hard to get rid of incompetent teachers. I've had to do it twice as a head of dept and parental complaints do help speed up the process enormously. Its wrong that sometimes it has to come down to that but that's the current situation.
Hope you and your daughter have a lovely summer to make up for it.

Thanks for continuing to keep us updated, Aliz, I've been watching with interest. I'm so pleased that your DD has been able to return to the school, and hope she manages to really enjoy her last few weeks. She has been incredibly brave and mature about it all.

There are obviously a lot of issues with this teacher and it sounds to me that the school are very grateful to you and your DD for raising the complaint. If the governor suggested that you take it further, I would do as they say. It's not that easy to get rid of bad teachers and the more evidence they have against her the better. And don't blame yourself. The blame rests firmly on the teacher who has chosen to act in the way she has.

Sounds like the school have just rid of one bad teacher . That's code for 'she's outa here!!!'

I love the care they have taken of your DD (quite right too!) hope the day went well.

This is the best possible outcome for your DD. She stood up to a bully and won; what better life lesson than that can you get??

I hope your DD had a nice day at school today Aliz

Sounds like your school have been very supportive, hope she enjoys the rest of term.

You and your DD have done so well in standing up to this bullying teacher, and hopefully have helped to make lifeeasier at school not only for your DD, but also lots of other young children too.

I hope your DD had a good day today.

I have just read the whole thread and am so angry and sad for your dd.

She is very brave for speaking up and making sure that no other children have to go through what she's been through. You must be very proud of her.

You should also be proud of yourself, you've handled it all so well, from the complaint to your wonderful support you've given your dd.

I hope she had a really good day at school today and the good memories she creates over the next half-term can go some way toward minimising the bad ones this horrible woman has caused.

I am so glad that this has been sorted out so well Aliz and hope your DD enjoys her last few weeks of yr6, they should be such fun times.

It's funny but these school productions can open a can of worms. When Ds was 9 he came out crying because he hadn't been given a part in the xmas play. It turned out he was off the day parts were given out and the dcs could chose if they wanted to be in the choir or have a small part. DS had not been well for a few months and was at the time being diagnosed with mri scans, ecgs etc thankfully turned out something that was easily fixed with abs but he was pretty miserable with headaches etc

Teacher was a bit FGS when I went to see her but it turned that he had been crying in class a lot and not happy at all, which was most unlike him but his teacher didn't really know that, she also hadn't realised that he hadn't been there to make a choice when the parts were handled out.
Thankfully she had the sense to go and see his old teacher and find out about the "old" him and realised this was a very different boy, not the boy who loved learning. DS loved talking to adults so she said he could come and talk to her for a few minutes at playtime everyday. He also got a part as the one of the 3 Kings because the original child was going to be away for the play and he was thrilled.
When it came to parents evening it was obvious the old DS was back to his usual enthusiastic self and she was raving about his abilities in science.

So it might seem petty to some questioning why a child hasn't got a part but as with Aliz07 it can often be a symptom of something else and thankfully in our case it didn't take a lot to fix it.

Hope your dd is enjoying school again. Did she get a part in the play?

Wow, what an enthralling read. I hope your DD has a fantastic last few weeks. She'll certainly never forget them! Well done, both of you.

Just want to update you all on this. DD is not doing very well :( There seems to have been a lot of gossip in the school about what happened and sadly she's got quite a bit of stick from other pupils, some very "bitchy" comments from a few girls culminated in her breaking down completely and I was called to collect her.

It's all been a bit too much for her to cope with, the school have been very supportive but she's at home. Our GP has arranged for her to see a counsellor, we're just waiting on the appointment coming through but she's not the happy girl we're used to at all.

She's very depressed and doesn't want to leave the house. We've tried a few things but the GP says not to push her at the moment. I'm very sad for her, she should be enjoying her last weeks at school but she's very withdrawn and sad.

I'm not sure what will happen from here. She's got a transition day next week for high school, I've contacted them and they're liaising with her current school to try and help.

We have made a written complaint and the teacher is officially suspended pending an investigation.

So that's it really, Unfortunately it wasn't plain sailing.

Oh, I'm so sorry, Aliz. It sounds like it might be best to put no pressure on your DD wrt primary school. Good idea to concentrate on gently introducing a more positive experience at secondary school. Hope it gets better for your DD.

So sorry to hear that. :(

Is the secondary school the only option? Are the people who were nasty to her going? If so, I guess she'll be worrying about that too.

Bless her, I hope she's OK :( Take care. :)

oh no sorry to hear that I had o hoped that she would have found it all resolved w teacher gone..

but well done for making official complaint best wishes for your dd