I think at applications level, at least, there is a 'default' position. In my last five years as a tutor at what MNers consider a 'good' university I wrote (looking at the now redundant files I'm trying to tidy out today) 37 PGCE references: 20 for men and 17 for women. Of these only six had bothered to get experience of both age ranges, of which one was the only man who opted for primary. I wrote 11 references for women applying to primary places, of which one had tried both age ranges. And, it should be noted, the fact I had done a primary PGCE before returning to complete PhD and then lecture, meant I was probably more likely to get primary applicants (and PGCE ones) than my colleagues. I'm not commenting on how applications were handled, but I think there is pretty good sense of default positions coming through. And the personal statements make you weep: I dipped in and you can almost always identify gender: men claim 'subject specialisms' to pass on (as if an Oxford 2.1 makes you an expert in anything, what a waste of an education if they think that) and women claiming to love nurturing and developing children.
When I look at colleagues now I think men have different reasons for entering the profession, have often thought about it more, and I know aspects of my teaching style are shaped by the confidence of always having been a man viewed as rather bright. I can't for the life of me identify whether or not this necessarily makes me or them very different at what they actually do. There are three colleagues who make me sick with envy-and all are women in classroom positions, not male leaders.
I am, however, bothered by the 'gender role model' thing and the acceptance rather than hostility to the idea that gender need be a key identifier even for young kids. Our school merges four reception into three YR1 classes, and the Head has already approached me to say some parents of boys want me to teach them and would this bother me-to which I said 'yes' since I fear I'd disappoint that sort of parent, and because it's f'ing rude to the women I work with. I will be studying the class allocations closely...
If you are thinking 'role models' it's not the individual teacher-pupil relationship, conditioned by so much else, that bothers me, but the overwhelming sense for the youngest people in our lives that women doing all the actual bloody work whilst men act as fun leaders-its the same picture pre-schoolers see in children's centres, shop floors, cafes, and, if Dad is the only carer who comes in from a full-time job, across their whole lives. And it may be the reason they'd see the same if they pop their heads round the door of Mum's office. To me the real problem with gender in schools is not the lack of male teachers, it's the lack of female heads.