Male teachers in primary school

[anawee23]

Hi Ladies,
Just wondering if you would like to give me your opinions on male teachers in primary schools and whether you think there are enough of them, feel free to be honest and straightforward.

I am currently training to be a teacher and have the task of researching and discovering what parents and adults in general think about Male primary school teachers and whether there is a connection to the bad publicity and the fact that there are less than female teachers?

I have done all my research regarding statistics and facts and figures, but would love to know how the general public and parents feel about this matter/topic.

Thank you for participating, I look forward to reading your replies.

Male with female.

There's no way your school would agree to your request, and if you tell them the true extent of your paranoia, the cause for concern for them would be you and the effect your views may have on your dd.

Again, your opinion, you say what you think. I don't care. I don't care what you think I should and should not do, what I should and should not read. What you think I should and should not share with my child. I don't care 😀

I know how to protect my precious child. That's all that matters. I'm happy with my life.

Yep. Works both ways. I'm glad if it does. Because that is the world we live in, sadly.

@feenie you seem to be certain of a decision of every single school by every single headteacher in the land. Why? How are you so sure? Have you asked? There is something called parent choice.

It isn't my opinion - it's exactly what would happen in any school if you told them what you've told us.

As for not caring what anyone else thinks - you are the person who upped an old thread to post your extreme views. You need help.

feenie you seem to be certain of a decision of every single school by every single headteacher in the land. Why? How are you so sure? Have you asked? There is something called parent choice.

Not when it comes to class teachers - no school would let you choose based on the reasons you've given here. And the cause for concern thing - that would be in every school's child protection policy.

Following the sexually deviant behaviour of one boy in her class, I asked my daughter's teacher to select female learning partners only. The request was granted. Why would you think a parent would not be given that choice? He put his hand up girls' skirts. H was eventually expelled. What would you have done?

Well if we are trying trade insults, then I will call you naive and gullible

I haven't insulted you - I feel very sorry for you and your poor dd. To answer your question, the situation with the 7 year old boy is obviously horrendous, but I wouldn't ban my dd from ever having a male teacher because of it.

My understanding of school policy is based on fact. Your behaviour is a cause for concern with regard to your dd.

I’m quite worried that based on that one boy that you think all boys are the same. I say that especially as a mother of a son who is almost that age.

Well again whatever you think you are entitled to. My behaviour isn't a concern to anyone, except you.

@Rightgirlwrongplanet1

I think almost anyone who is reading is concerned about your behaviour to be honest, I'm also concerned about the messages you're sending to your poor DD and the anxieties she might develop as a result.

@Rightgirlwrongplanet1 - I would be completely happy to have a male nanny, childminder, nursery assistant or primary teacher for my child as long as they were well qualified and showed empathy and care.

At the school where I work, the extremely high level of concern you are displaying about your child being around men/boys would cause us great concern for the emotional wellbeing of your child.

We do not allow parents to request certain teachers for their child, and would certainly not agree to a child being taught by only female teachers throughout their time at school.

Your level of concern about the possible abuse of your child does seem to be quite severe. Is it something you would consider discussing with your GP?

@Littlefish haha! GP? That's a joke

@icecreamface can we knock it on the head - this idea that I share these thoughts with my daughter? . She doesn't know. She's only 7!!!! Would you share concerns about sexual abuse with your 7 year old? 😳 well neither would I!

Third, if we have no choice, then I will coach my daughter on how to keep herself safe at school. Not to be left alone with him at school or on field trips . Not to get in a car with him and whatever else comes to my mind.

There is no way that your DD has not picked up on your extreme anxiety! If you don't feel safe her being ever alone in a room with a man then she will know naturally assume men are dangerous and to be feared.

Following the sexually deviant behaviour of one boy in her class, I asked my daughter's teacher to select female learning partners only. The request was granted

So they already know you're anxious to the point where your dd isn't allowed to work with any other boy - children choose their own partners all the time and also work in groups which will obviously be mixed gender. I find it difficult to believe that any school would collude with such a request, but if so, they will have to keep stepping in and manipulating your dd's choice. Even if she doesn't notice now, she soon will.

No, I'm not joking with my suggestion that you might want to talk to the GP about what appears to me and several others on this thread to be an irrationally severe level of concern about possible abuse of your child by almost any male child or adult she comes into contact with.

I agree with others that it is impossible that your dd won't pick up on your high levels of anxiety.

As I said, if your child was at the school where I work, we may be considering a safeguarding concern for your child due to your irrational concerns. It simply is not normal to have your level of conviction that all men in schools or childcare are potential abusers.

When I was at school there was a girl who displayed sexual behaviour towards other girls (and worse than you describe). I have no idea why, she left the school after a few years, but looking back I suspect she was being abused herself or had some kind of developmental issue. What would you do in that situation - have your DD avoid all other children?

In any case that kind of behaviour is so incredibly rare it's obviously irrational to focus on it to the extent that you are. Your daughter will need to interact with boys and men in her lifetime.

@icecreamface

There is no way that your DD has not picked up on your extreme anxiety!

How do you know what goes on in my house?!

teacher agreed to request. She didn't ask any questions. Teacher for 30 years. Daughter was asked who learning partners were. She confirmed. They were all female. This didn't cause anyone any anxiety. It's you who are anxious.

@icecreamface you have diagnosed me with "extreme anxiety" are you a doctor? Have you read my medical notes? What evidence do you have that I suffer from this condition? Piss off

@rightgirlwrongplanet - your 7 year old daughter is not allowed to work with any male children or have any male teachers. ‘Extreme anxiety’ is the very kindest way to describe your condition.

As a primary school teacher, I’m horrified by your views and feel deeply concerned for the safely of my male colleagues. If you are going through life actively looking for risks that are not there it is highly likely that at some point you will make a false accusation about a male teacher. Even when false, these accusations can end careers and ruin lives.

As for your daughter, she will grow up with a distorted view of men that will prevent her from forming meaningful relationships and, paradoxically, leave her more at risk of becoming involved with abusive and controlling men.