what seeker has said BUT it is hard, ihave 3 school age children at the moment, two of whom are always good, work hard and do well and one who does brilliantly academically but struggles with this behaviour, he is very impulsive, easily led and been assessed for add recenlty with camhs involvement etc. my ds1 has commented that he gets stickers and lots of praise from school when he is good, whereas he is always good and doesnt get the same recognition.
firstly ds1 is now at high school so the systems are very different, and when we went to his parents evening he was praised by each and every teacher, called a model pupil, is excelling academically etc and we made a point of praising him for this as well but have also explained to him that it is different for some children, takes more effort on their part to behave or do well and that yes he should be gratfeul that he is naturally bright nad find things easy.
it is hard to balance it tho as we have been praising ds2, who recently had two whole 'green' weeks and ds1 's attitude was that he doesnt even need to be on a 'chart' to get red or green depending on his behaviour and is always good so why should ds2 get praise for being good for two weeks.
and i agree with the poster that said the children who are good do not realise the sanctions etc that the 'naughty' children get, ds2 has had to miss playtimes, has had to go and see the ht etc this passes them all by and also passes ds1 by.
incidentally both school the primary and the high school have a 'house point' system which works well the children are given points for behaviour, helpfulness, their work etc lots and lots of reasons and so there is a good chance for all the children to get them, ditto stickers in the primary school and they have a 'star of the week' which ds3 who is naturally well behaved has got as well as ds2 who finds it hard, so it seems that both are being rewarded, albeit in slightly different ways in that ds2 has had his own 'chart' for his behaviour.
i can see that its hard for children who are naturally 'good' to understand why those that are not may seem to get more rewards, i know ds1 struggles with it, he moans about hte disruptive children at school and i have explained that he is doing the right thing by keeping his head down and ignoring it, and that thesee children may have reasons he doesnt know about that explain their behaviour and the school are doing their best to help these children and he is helping by setting a good example, he does see the sanctions some children get as well. but i think he does find it hard to understand that not everyone finds things easy as he does, which is something we are working on!