9 year old broke up with boyfriend

[lizajayne]

Rd age 9 has had a 'boyfriend's age 19 since they were in year 2 and year 3, usual stuff of kids playing at boyfriend and girlfriend when really just good friends, he has missed her o the cheek but that's it, he has has had other 'girlfriends ' at the same time and she either didn't like it or said they were just friends but they always made up. A few days ago he was dancing with a mutual friend of theirs and said ' I'm definitely not cheating' in a jokey way, she wasn't happy and broke up with him the next day. Today he came round with his mum to give her a card but she didn't want to speak to him and ripped the card up and threw out the window. Don't think the mum was very happy, but I feel like I can't force them to be friends, it's her choice after all? He was also saying to her the other day that he was going to make her jealous by 'dating' other girls. He'll be going to a different senior school to her anyway next year so it was always going to end somehow. But now I feel like the bad guy for not making them make up?!

But now I feel like the bad guy for not making them make up?!

You are completely and utterly ridiculous. And this stupid and inappropriate malarkey should have been nipped in the bud by you rather than being encouraged in the first place. You need a hobby to occupy yourself instead of living this nonsense to being some excitement to your life.

Is it? I'm on my second 9 year old, know lots more and work in a primary school. None of this is familiar to me. Seems way other the top. Dancing with other girls, talk of cheating, kisses - wtf. This started long before 9 too.

OP, you seem to be taking this very lightly. As others have said, this isn’t normal and you should be firmer than how you’re coming across.

I read that whole thing thinking the boyfriend was 19 and was a family friend just pretending to be her gf or something. Even at the end I still thought he was 19 with his having other gfs. But judging by the comments he's not?

You're being absolutely ridiculous with this. They are in primary school, why are they talking about cheating etc? And why are you not shutting it all down? Far far too young.

Is this another one for the Mail Online?

Tbf that would be an even weirder scenario

I find there is a lot of talk like this when they are around 11 based on previous experience, but I have a 10 year old and none of them talk like that. I always hate it when people ask small children "do you have a girl/boyfriend" or take photos of toddlers being toddlers and call them bf&gf.

Presumably they are watching stuff like Love Island and thinking it is normal behaviour

You think you shoud encourage her to make up the other Mum brings him round with a card.

Your poor kids.

It's not an episode of Love Island OP, it's your child.

What the actual FUCK are you doing allowing your nine year old little girl have a boyfriend?!?!

My 7 year old also has to deal with this shit too. I’ve spoken to school about it but they said there’s not a lot they can do. She told me on Friday that her boyfriend cheated on her. Then asked me what cheating was. Nightmare.

Least you've spoken to the school. The OP seems to be enjoying it!

I'm a primary teacher and if a child tells me they have a boyfriend or a girlfriend I squash the idea immediately. It's not something I can tolerate never mind encourage.

As a mother to a 7yr old girl I actually feel sick that anyone is allowing a 7yr old INFANT to have a boyfriend??? What is wrong with you? My 7yr old still plays with balloons, wears dungarees and occasionally still even watches the odd episode of Peppa Pig & Bing ffs

Really hope 9 year olds are not watching love island.

Where have I said I’ve allowed it? Stop being so fucking hysterical.

He'll be going to a different senior school to her anyway next year so it was always going to end somehow.

In two bloody years! Honestly I can't even imagine a grown woman allowing this for a bloody minute. Why didn't you say 'no you do not have a boyfriend. You are nine'.

@PashunFroot Where in your post did you say you don't allow it? You've just posted on this thread saying your child has to deal with this shit too? Doesn't really sound like you're not allowing it, does it? How & why does your infant even know what cheating is? That's the real concern here

Ergh I’m not even going to engage with you. I’ve seen you posting like this on other threads too. Nuts.

I really think you need parenting classes if you think that any of this is OK. And I'm not saying that in a bitchy way. You must have lost sight of what is appropriate behaviour for children of nine.

I'm unapologetically advising you to get a grip of your parenting. There is no way a 9 year old CHILD should know anything about entertaining relationships, kissing and all this drama. Sounds like she's allowed to be exposed to TV and social media which is well in advance of her years and emotional maturity.

Wtf? My 9 year old DD is climbing trees and playing tag with her friends. A 'boyfriend' and breaking up with someone would be so far from her radar. I can't really recognise this from anything I know about 9 year olds

Really weird to see the OPs responses to be honest.

Perhaps less giggling at the daughter being “a drama queen” and a little more focus on good manners and age appropriate behaviour?

Maybe less time watching Love Island/EastEnders/soaps might be considered too.