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11 year old boy

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Felic23 · 26/07/2020 21:14

Just a quick question as Im wondering if this is just my Son...
At around age 11 is it 'normal' for boys to almost constantly make stupid noises, talk in silly ways generally act very ott and quite annoying ESPECIALLY when something is being asked of them.
I thought that was all behind me with the toddler years over but apparently not!?
Can anyone relate? x

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blibblibs · 26/07/2020 21:16

You're not alone 😔 mine has even taken to hissing which really winds me up

JingleCatJingle · 26/07/2020 21:21

Yes, the word puerile is meant for 11 year old boys.
It gets better.
And then they become teens and it gets worse.

SpeedofaSloth · 26/07/2020 21:23

Oh yes, totally.

WhenDoISleep · 26/07/2020 21:24

Not sure, but I am also the proud owner Hmm of an 11 year old specimen who has been especially like this this week, having been fairly sensible up til now, so much so people normally comment on how sensible and mature he is. This week he has been coming into whatever room I am in and making weird and strange noises. Plus the exaggerated reactions to being asked to do anything he doesn't particularly want to do and just generally being quite annoying.

I'm putting it down to the major change of leaving primary school and going to secondary - the realisation that he is getting older and that means he is starting to grow up along with the strangeness of the last few months.

Halfling · 26/07/2020 21:25

All of this coupled with most remarkable hissy fits over the smallest of things Angry

Howcanwehelp · 26/07/2020 21:27

Yes I have two 11 year olds so have it in stereo. Silliness and back chat but also kindness and loveliness. I'm putting it down to the school change and hormones.

slipperywhensparticus · 26/07/2020 21:29

mine made me a cup of tea! he has spent 7 days driving me beyond madness with the noise making but the tea was very welcome

shelikesemwithamoustache · 26/07/2020 21:52

My 11 year old boy makes ridiculous noises most of the time. It’s rare he speaks. Any minor task required of him is normally met with an exaggerated roll on the floor together with hissing and growling, often with shouts of “I’m not listening” and “I hate you”. He’s also started squeezing spots on his nose and smells really bad most days. He eats for Great Britain and would spend 24 hours a day looking at pixelated screens (of any variety) if he was allowed.

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Felic23 · 26/07/2020 22:48

Thanks for all your replies, I feel better knowing its not just him. As you said @WhenDoISleep mine has also always been so sensible and mature, very well behaved ect so this is new and I thought a stage but is lasting quite a while. I think big changes such as leaving primary school and changing football teams may all be part of the change in personality! Im trying to be patient and calm but bloody hell its it's annoying and very tiring x

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Felic23 · 27/07/2020 09:26

What does everyone do as in do you react- tell them to shhh or stop being silly etc or is it best to ignore?

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SpringSunshineandTulips · 27/07/2020 16:17

Mine makes silly faces too! Really winds his sister up with those 🤣

FTstepmum · 27/07/2020 18:15

My DSS 10 does it all the time (deffo linked to his ADHD) and my response is usually a kind and firm "Okay, okay, okay; enough silliness now. My head needs a rest sweetheart."

It sometimes works...

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Felic23 · 27/07/2020 18:52

@FTstepmum thanks I will that!

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youvegottobekidding · 04/08/2020 22:23

Oh god it’s not just mine then! My ds just turns nearly everything I (and his dad and his older sister) say to him into an argument, you can actually hear the tone in his voice become louder and louder.
And he does a high pitched scream, sometimes, when he thinks he’s being funny.
If he crosses the line, becomes disrespectful then phone and or xbox is taken away for ever how long we think is necessary. To be fair he does say sorry & realise he’s being unreasonable fairly quickly.

Dorobie · 10/08/2020 23:36

Wow! I’m so glad I’ve found this thread! I thought my nearly 11yr old was weird as fuck! But turns out he’s normal 🤣

ShoppingBasket · 10/08/2020 23:41

So mine is normal, I've been getting a bit concerned about him 😂 he has taken to speaking like Yoda when not answering me back with sarcasm. The sarcasm is my fault. He acts the idiot one minute and next he is cuddling up to me. Bizarre.

Seriouslymole · 11/08/2020 10:16

Very relieved to have found this thread. I have an 11 year old boy who is driving us all to distraction at the moment. He's always had slight anxiety issues and you can tell when he's revving up for a big kick off by the increase in ridiculous noises he makes. Last night he had a kick off from 2100 until midnight as he realised that he had to read a book for the start of secondary school. He's a good reader, relatively bright and incredibly articulate, which makes the arguing more and more difficult. I'm pleased to say that I did manage to keep my temper last night but it was a close call.

He now of course is absolutely knackered and being vile. He's currently in his bedroom making ridiculous noises and singing "I hate my life" and asking why he has to live in a family. I'm finding him harder and harder to like, which is not an easy thing to admit.

Dorobie · 11/08/2020 10:18

Oh dear seriously... that sounded hard work last night.

My ds tells me he hates his life often too 🙄

zafferana · 11/08/2020 10:21

We had a rough year with our DS from 11-12. It's a year of stress (11+, SATs), followed by a huge change (end of primary, starting secondary), and all that makes for challenging times. Since midway through Y7 he's improved a lot and actually since lockdown he's been a joy! He just found it all very stressful and this past six months has allowed him to decompress. Hopefully, things will improve with your DS once he's settled at secondary (but give it time - I thought my DS would settle quickly - but it took several months).

Seriouslymole · 11/08/2020 11:21

I suppose we always knew this holiday would be hard as he does get anxious about change. He is now refusing to come out of his room, refusing to get dressed, shower, anything. I have literally no idea how to deal with this. DH has said he can stay in there.

Dorobie · 11/08/2020 19:18

Is there anything he’s interested in to entice him out? Maybe buy a garden toy for the sunshine... slip n slide maybe?

Seriouslymole · 12/08/2020 11:10

He finally sorted himself early yesterday afternoon after a particularly horrible altercation - he burst into tears and then was very apologetic. He is now as nice as pie. Came out for a run with me this morning. He is off electronics for 2 days (phone and TV) so we'll see how it progresses. Sorry for hijacking your post OP!

AlwaysLatte · 12/08/2020 11:17

You've just described mine. Talks lots of nonsense, makes daft noises (in a more resonant voice now he's 12). I think he's like a Labrador puppy that's as big as an adult but very silly!

AlwaysLatte · 12/08/2020 11:20

@Felic23 mostly I ignore. Eg one of his annoying things is calling me 'woman'. Only meant as a joke but I'll ignore it. So 'woman, get me a glass of milk' gets completely blanked, until it becomes 'only joking. Could I have a glass of milk please, Mum?' Wink

AlwaysLatte · 12/08/2020 11:21

@Dorobie
Grin