Letting my 11 year old get her nose pierced, very worried!

[Saffan]

I have a 11 year old daughter who is very sweet and sensible. Two whole years ago she started wanting her nose pierced, I said no way and she has kept bringing it up almost every day since then!

Four months ago I asked her what she wanted for christmas and she said her nose pierced. I ended up agreeing that she can have her nose pierced for christmas between christmas day and new years but she'll get no other presents. So now it's 5 days before christmas and I've only got her half a dozen little things and I'm panicking!

I'm not worried about the piercing, she's very sensible and I have one myself. Just what are people going to think of me!? People are going to stare at her, then at me and think I'm a terrible mother, she's only in primary school. My DH thinks I'm blowing things out of proportion and is no help at all.

I'm sure I don't want to stop her now but what do I do? What would you do? I just can't sleep I can't stop thinking about it. What would you think about a mother letting her 11 year old pierce her nose? What should I do?

[Bunbaker]

Where has the OP gone?

[Buzzardisnotina4birdroast]

It was a 'first post' bun

[Saffan]

Hello, thankyou everyone. This hasn't really helped at all.

I'm just going to have to make her wear a stud in it and not let her have anymore for a long time.

[TobyLerone]

What 'help' were you expecting?

If you can't/won't say no to your child when she demands something entirely inappropriate, I'm not sure what you want us to do.

You asked what people would think of you. They told you.

[Alibabaandthe40nappies]

What did you want us to say?

'Oh yes you sound like a fabulous mother, how liberal and amazing you sound' - something like that?

[LittleBearPad]

So you aren't going to say 'actually dd, you're 11 years old. It's too young for a nose piercing. You'll have to wait until your 16/18'.

This is what you should do.

[ballroomblitz]

I certainly know my kids primary school don't even allow studs in the ears, the local secondary schools only one stud in each ear so I don't think it's very practical. Piercers here wouldn't touch a child with a nose piercing.

Sorry but I would also judge and this is coming from a person who has body piercings. There's a big difference between a 16 year old and an 11 yo.

Easy to say you won't allow her to have anymore for a long time after this one but you've already backed down once and she knows this.

[NicknameIncomplete]

You are still going to let her get her nose pierced?

My dd(9) has only just got her ears pierced. She had been asking for years to have them done and i waited until she was sensible enough to look after them.

My dn has a lot of facial piercings and it has hindered her career because she gets judged and treated differently. Do you want this for your dd?

[Fairy1303]

My nearly 9 year old has only just been allowed to have her ears pierced.

11 is far FAR too young to have her nose pierced and I'm pretty piercy myself.

I think if you found a piercing place who would do it, it would be one to avoid anyway.

Just tell her you've had time to think it through, you are sorry to disappoint her and she can't have it done as you have found out that it is illegal.

[TinselinaBumSquash]

I think it's a really, really bad idea, far to young and he's, I'd judge.

But...

If you do let her get it done, for the love of god don't let anyone pierce it with a gun. Some people still do, it's not good, not good at all.

[Oblomov]

Please tell me that it is a troll.
Op, you can't be serious?
Really?

[LEMoncehadacatcalledSANTA]

its not illeagal actually. Just a word of warning - i went with (and paid for ) my DD when she was about 13 to get her lip pierced. I figured i'd rather go with her and make sure everything was being done - we went to a tattoo artist/piercer so it was done very well. She ended up having several piercings, most of which have closed up now though - she moved on to tattoos and is covered in them, her back, her tummy, her neck and is pestering me for the money for a "half sleeve" for xmas. She is 23 now before you start up your flame throwers. But it definately started in that piercing studio. My DD looks amazing with her tattoos, she is a beautiful girl and is one of the lucky few that can carry them off without looking like "prisoner cell block H". I have tattoos and im less fortunate :)

If i am very honest, i think 11 is too young, i think my DD was 11 before i let her have her ears pierced but actually, ears, nose? its only fashion that dictates that we think nose peircings are more grown up than ears. I think they are very pretty on some faces, others look like they have a shiny mole!

[coldwater1]

My 11 year old, nearly 12, wants her ears pierced i've told her not until she is old enough to care for them properly. Hate children having piercings, says i who got her first tattoo at 16 and belly button pierced at 15! Lol If my daughter asked for her nose pierced at 11 it'd be a definate NO!

[ThunderbumsMum]

I don't know if I would judge. I wouldn't let my dd do it but I don't think that's the point - we don't all parent the same way.

hercules1 are you Katie Hopkins?

[IamInvisible]

I wouldn't allow it because there is not a secondary school within a 20 mile radius who would let her wear it.

[Bunbaker]

Saffan Have you actually checked whether facial piercings are allowed at the secondary schools near you?

[biryani]

People will judge, but personally I can't see a problem as long as she's sensible. If it's illegal then obviously not.

[FourAndDone]

Why not buy her a magnetic one from Claire's?
Seems very young for a facial piercing.

[Branunion]

What an idiotic thing to do to your child. If this is true then OP, you do realise it's not compulsory to get your child everything they ask for don't you?

[biryani]

I'm not really getting this. Why is nose piercing so terrible when ear piercing is accepted?

[lljkk]

You're being too sensible, Biryani. Think maybe you'd better hand in MN membership now...

[Ninasaurus]

I wouldn't until she was older as young skin scars more easily and I would worry it would get infected and leave a large scar or leave a scar even if not infected.

Just get her ears done.

[biryani]

lljkk I think it's a fair point, even if others don't! Why is a piercing on one part of the body different from a piercing on another part? I can understand objections on the grounds of practicality, but many objectors on here seem to be taking a very judgemental view.

At the end of the day, it's a tiny hole with ( probably) a tiny stud in it. What's the big issue?

[Branunion]

Well by that logic she might as well get her belly and nipple done at the same time.

Personally I think nose rings or studs look horrible and I'm not alone. The huge majority of people are used to ear piercing so it's not shocking. An 11 year old girl with a nose stud is very unusual. But hey, why let the square majority ruin you fun? Not sure where she'll get it done though to be honest, maybe they could tattoo a dolphin on her ankle at the same time

[pinkyredrose]

ninasaurus it's the opposite actually. Older skin scars easier than younger skin. Younger skin heals faster.