What on earth was going through my DS3's mind???!

[survivingthechildren]

DS3 is 11. Old enough to know better, basically.

Today he got in some sort of scrap with DS2(13) over who owned what possession. It got a bit ugly so they were both sent away to cool down, and the item was discovered to be DS2's (it was a bloody school bag of all things, but it was from DS1 and has all kinds of signatures and labels, and is therefore the height of cool). Now if only they could summon up this level of enthusiasm for other areas of their education

Later this evening, after coming home from the shops, I notice that someone has KEYED THEIR NAME ONTO THE HOOD OF THE CAR.

What. The. Fuck. Was. DS2. Thinking.

This was definitely the work of DS2, as the guilty look on his face told us as much when we confronted the DC. He was trying to make a point, that just because something has your name on it, doesn't mean it's actually yours.

And so he keyed his name into our car.

I am beyond furious. I cannot even fathom why he thought this was sensible, what on earth he was thinking?! Sometime he has such lack of understanding for consequences I despair.

Is anyone else's 11yo this immature? And what can I do about it?

Must be a DS3 'thing'. Our DS3 wrote his name on our car too - he's only 6 though, and it was with a stick, and not in anger (though it still scratched the car), but we were less than impressed. I think making him pay towards it is the way to go [your DS3, not ours - he only gets 60p a week, it would take a long time!).

I'm sure your ds has no idea how much it costs to fix a scratched car bonnet. I couldn't begin to guess at it myself. It could be anything from £50 to £500 afaik; I imagine he has even less knowledge of such things than I do.

I know this is so not the point, but you've got to admire his reasoning in that writing your name on something doesn't make it yours and using the car as an example. Admittedly, the execution was a little flawed, a post-it note would have been better, but still...

Also just seen how old this thread is Is he forgiven yet?!

haha didn't realise people were still reading this until I saw it pop up in the forum!

Yes, he's done his time and we've put it in the past. Had a good chat the next day when I'd- he'd calmed down. He wasn't to happy about the consequences (see prior post) but knew better than to complain!

Happily we managed to get friend of a friend to repair the car at a cheaper cost, which DS3 paid for. So all done and dusted I guess, but have to say that DS will be treading of thin ice with us for a few months yet!

Phew, glad it all got sorted!