WTF...DS3 nursey hav ejust asked me to collect him because he's not mature enough to cope......it's only his 5 session.

[LadyTophamHatt]

I'm not going to bother taking him back again.

They're shit.

What kind of nursery is it? How can a 3 year old not be mature enough for nursery? I don't geddit!

How old is he? What kind of nursery? What do they mean????

Sounds like shit to me

bloody hell, that's just weird!

Don't blame you, I wouldn't take him back either

oh did they call, that's bad!

Is he OK? Or are they just shit? I would've thought that as he's your third, he should be used to group interactiony type stuff?

Is it a nursery or a pre-school?

what a bunch of nobs

Going to collect him now.

Will take his "uniform" back and feel like trowing it in their face.

"YOu know they aren't all the same, he obviously still wants you"...."He's just not mature enough"...."we can;t give him the time"

WTF!!

NO...he's not mature enough he's 3 yrs old...

Nursey have a fantasic reputation, but bollocks to them, they just can't be bothered to try...

Sounds very dodgy - don't take him back. My Ds is 3 and not as mature as his sisters were at that age, but nursery love him for it because he's cute. And I love them for thinking that - that's how it should be. In fact I feel really angry on your behalf.

They are obviously shit LTH ... I did parent help at DDs preschool the other day and there were two 'newbies' who cried a lot ... the teachers were brilliant, walking around with them the whole session, taking turns to spend time one on one with each, went from puzzles to stories to the sandpit. One of them was just 2, the other was just 3. I was really impressed with the teachers. I asked on of them if it was their first day and she said, "Oh, no, this is his 3rd week, he is getting so much better!"

What did they do with your DS to try and help him? What is the ratio of teachers to kids? Our preschool has 3 teachers and 24 children aged 2 - 4 ... I don't know if that is a good ratio but DS's kindy was 3:42 so it seems pretty good to me.

I would say that if they're saying things like that about a 3yo, it's probably not the place I'd want my 3yo going.

Hope you find somewhere he'll be happy, LTH. You don't need this, sweet x x x

they are the ones with a problem not your boy

how awful

what kind of nursery is this?

so sorry LTH, that does sound very unprofessional. Hope you find somewhere better for him when you both feel ready.

A nursery that can't cope with a three year old? Isn't that like a grocer being allergic to apples? I would seriously think about reporting to Ofsted.

Turned your phone on then?

I would agree to try somewhere better

What does a mature 3 year old look like anyway? They're clearly prats. Sorry to hear this LTH.

whats wrong
does he Howl

Ds3 is just 2 and has just started. He loves it but is a little bit sad when I first go - the ladies there are fantastic they pick him up and cuddle him and engage in some full on play with him. This morning one took him and she was straight away engaging him saying. 'right, let's go and make some toast J, come on, here's the toast can you put it in the toaster for me, let's turn it up so we get it nice and brown, well done now how about some jam.....'

I'm amazed at the response you've got - I've never heard anything like it.

Is it nursery attached to school, day nursery or what?

Life is too short for ds3 or you to be miserable mate.You're doing the right thing.And no,you don't need the hassle.

"...."we can;t give him the time"
sounds more to the point. Poor little chap , hope you can find a happier alternative.

well..that went well.

i burst into tears almost as soon as I walked throug the door.

They dont sound very good to me. My DS has been going since he was 2yrs9months and they are superb. Was it a private nursery, im afraid anywhere that put 3 year olds in uniforms sounds a bit an*l to me!! DS2 goes to pre-school which runs in conjunction with the local primary, some children take MONTHS to settle in but they just give them a cuddle and distract them with toys.

DS1 took ages, I used to walk home practically in tears but within 5 minutes they would call and say "Hes OK now and chasing .....round the garden!!"

That nursery definitely ounds wrong for your DS3.

Is it a nursery or pre-school? I only ask because my dd goes to a Montessori school (since 2) and they are very adamant it is not day care, they are teachers not carers and they will call parents after 30 mins non-settling, because of disruption to other children.

My dd is very cautious, and we had to stay with her practically all of the first term for her to settle! They also have suggested to some parents that their children are 'not ready' and to try again another term.

TBH, I like the Montessori way (not for everyone I know!), and was glad when they did ask me to collect, as they kept to their word and I did not want dd crying longer than 30 mins.

If it's that sort of school (rather than care nursery) could it be that they have a different approach?

They also say no child is allowed to come in if they need calpol - if they need calpol they're supposed to stay at home. Just different rules that's all.