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I'm giving birth to a very poorly 29 weeker tomorrow, any advice?

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Alb1 · 01/04/2017 19:47

I won't go into too much detail as it can be a little quiet on here and I don't want to pour my heart out to no replies Blush

Il be exactly 29 weeks tomorrow, the baby is very poorly and it's been made clear her chances arnt great if they deliver her. But we also don't have any options to help her if we leave her in utero, so she's clearly going to get more sick and die anyway. The doctors arnt giving an opinion of what they think is best so it's all been left down to us, although they said if I was past 32 weeks they'd deliver. So we feel we need to deliver as surly even a tiny tiny chance is better than no chance. Our last baby was stillborn to the same condition (we were told these things don't happen twice, we had absolutely no idea, and nither did the doctors, that it could reoccur) but we didn't find out until hours before she died last time so we couldn't do anything, this time we've been trying for over 4 weeks and have exhausted all options other than delivery.

Don't no what advice I'm looking for, has anyone else had a baby against the odds and how did it go? I think with the doctors not being able to offer an opinion I want to feel like I'm not making a selfish or wrong decision somehow Confused

OP posts:
paddypants13 · 04/04/2017 08:41

Congratulations! Does she have a name yet? I'm keeping everything crossed for her.

Remember to rest and give yourself time to heal. Flowers

ButtMuncher · 04/04/2017 08:48

Congratulations Op - thinking of you all xxx

Frazzled2207 · 04/04/2017 08:52

Brilliant Congratulations! Wishing you and your family all the best. Xxx

squirre1 · 04/04/2017 08:55

Congratulations!

OpalIridescence · 04/04/2017 08:58

Aww so pleased for you, wonderful your little DD here and fighting. Even the crying is wonderful!

Pulling for you and your little one in the days ahead xxx

Phalarope · 04/04/2017 09:00

Oh congratulations!

Starlighter · 04/04/2017 09:03

Congratulations! Flowers

My friend had her daughter at 28 weeks and she's nearly 4 years old now and thriving! Wishing you all the best xx

TheVeryThing · 04/04/2017 09:07

Congratulations, that's wonderful news. Wishing you the very best.

Moussemoose · 04/04/2017 09:09

CongratulationsFlowers

Babieseverywhere · 04/04/2017 09:12

Congratulations on the birth of your daughter. :)

LuchiMangsho · 04/04/2017 09:13

Lovely update. Made me cry! I found it hard to send out proud photos because I didn't know how people would react (and because my FIL told me not to send out 'photos like that'). So if you feel able to, there are lots of preemie mums here who would love to see photos. If you feel able to please keep us updated. We are also here to answer any questions you might have.

ithakabythesea · 04/04/2017 09:14

Congratulations on your daughter. Like many here, I have been thinking of you and am so delighted by this news. I know it is a long road, but what a positive first step. Everything crossed for you and your wee girl x

3boys3dogshelp · 04/04/2017 09:21

Yay! Congratulations!! Flowers

taptonaria27 · 04/04/2017 09:23

That's fantastic news, thanks for the update and congratulations

SolomanDaisy · 04/04/2017 09:24

Congratulations! I hope she does well.

FifiLeBoo · 04/04/2017 09:27

Hoping everything goes well for you and your little one.

My daughter spent 6 weeks in NICU when she was born and has had 3 long ICU stays since then. My top tip is to get a notebook and keep a diary of things that happen and your feelings at the time and what doctors say etc. It's all quite a blur at the time and this helps to keep things clear. It also helps to read back on it and process what has happened.

You can also use it to note down any questions you may have and the answers you are given

Flowers and unmumsnetty hugs for you

FruitCider · 04/04/2017 09:34

Congratulations OP! Flowers

ShutTheFridgeUp · 04/04/2017 09:35

The hugest of congratulations Flowers

SingToMeInFrench · 04/04/2017 09:36

Congratulations Flowers

Glossolalia · 04/04/2017 09:39

Congratulations! What a lovely update to read.

I have been thinking of you and hoping that you and your baby girl are ok.

Flowers
SuffolkBumkin · 04/04/2017 09:41

Thinking of you. There have been some really heartwarming stories on here.

DramaAlpaca · 04/04/2017 09:51

Congratulations Flowers

gfw01 · 04/04/2017 09:52

Fab news Smile

Kevinbaconsrealwife · 04/04/2017 09:52

Thank you Lisette , far scarier for my DH and family bless them...not going to go into it as its Alb ( and her daughters 😀) thread but thank you for your kind words....xx

JimWithTwoNoses · 04/04/2017 10:00

Congratulations Op, I hope your little one progresses well CakeBrew

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