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[FraggleRock77]

I cannot find the most recent thread about you and Fee? I do hope everything is ok? Is it me that can't see it or am i going bonkers!!! X

Magpie, I go in circles like that: in general I want to believe the best of people and I am fairly robust, so tell myself I'll post no more than I can afford to 'lose' (if posted to a troll), but then it is really upsetting when the trolling is for one reason or another too close to the bone.
The I go all cynical for while and hardly post anything at all, or only look at S&B until I feel more full of the milk of human kindness again.

I just prefer to believe people as my default and to accept that I might get it wrong from time to time

Well I feel a total fool. I messaged her for well over a year. I have had two very early prem boys myself, when I was sick and in hospital with my youngest (24 weeks) mumsnet was a lifesaver for me, several women even popped in to visit me. I guess I just wanted to return the support.
My posts I guess could sound a little odd sometimes my personal circumstances are hardly usual so I always try to give the benefit of the doubt even when things don't always add up entirely.
I feel a whole lot more cynical now :(
I'm really sorry I didn't twig earlier and people got hurt on other threads.

Mama1980
I hope you don't feel bad for too long - I thought your posts were v kind and thoughtful.
And as Dixie said some unknown lurker may have benefitted from you sharing your experiences.

We're just feeding her disorder by discussing her further. I guarantee she has already signed up as a new user and is reading this thread. Unless she gets help she will likely be back in another form, if not here then elsewhere.

If anyone is looking for more on the subject have a look at the documentary Catfish.

en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Catfish_%28film%29

It's quite fascinating if you can take a step back how people's minds work.

Very good point Dixie.

Mama1980 to you.

I bet you are right, MissM.

Please don`t feel bad Mama1980 even though we all had our suspicions for a very long time.......almost two years there was just that little niggle that she could turn out to be for real with some of the things she was saying. But sadly she just kept dropping herself in it, we started questioning her then she would turn things and say we were wise and she was hearing what we were saying..........then the next post she would be off again. Sick lady. She even posted a post to us from her dh!!

I haven't been on mn for a while, but pop by every now and then to check the prem board. I totally believed in Apollo and Artie and sobbed absolute buckets when Halo had measles. Weirdly, I was always doubtful about her life away from children (she was supposedly a proofreader but never seemed to write particularly carefully, and had some sort of ice hockey playing career despite multiple, almost chain, pregnancies) but never thought the babies were fictitious.

Mama1980, don't feel a fool. I had suspicions for such a long time, but just felt awful for even thinking it, and we had her for such a long time on the multiples threads. You just don't want to believe that someone could lie about all of that, and for so long. I am sorry you got hurt.

Swanhildapirouetting, come back to the d'y threads some time! We'll put the kettle on :)

Thanks Chops - actually I desperately need a cup of tea atm having driven for hours today and had a lot of head in hands moments with teenage children.. But feel a bit guilty as have not made any dinner yet of any description for said hungry guitar strumming puts hands over ears children..so better stop Mumsnetting.

She was a troll . I used to feel pretty low reading her posts cos ive only got one and how hard I find it and she always seemed like a superwomen and I felt like a crappy mummy .

Bloody hell. Only just came across this. I messaged her several times (I have a dd who was cooled) and I remember thinking that it didn't all add up as some of the details were 'unusual'

Bloody wars. Bit stunned.

Feeling like an idiot now.

I had my prem just after the the latest twins were meant to be born. Her posts were a source of inspiration and hope and I even nominated her for secret santa because she was having such a cack time of it.

Bump - please dont feel like an idiot......she was very clever.

Its only because I am, sadly, on the bereaved Mums thread and have been seriously trolled at least 4 times that I did not trust even the first post she added. Its kind of a weird feeling that I sometimes read the first few words of a new poster and think 'something is wrong here.' xxx

I ruddy knew it - for all the reasons most of you have said! But I often gave her the benefit as I thought it was just difficulty in relaying information in her 2nd language.
I'm annoyed as at the time I thought it was a bit too much like my DS's story, hence why I think I only posted once.
mama1980 you have always been a massive help to me with your support.

Just shocked that someone would make that stuff up. Am a serial lurker on the board and have cried more than once over what she must have been going through. Some seriously weird ('f'ed up) people around,

Bumpandgrind - totally agree with Shabs. Also, don't feel bad about the secret Santa thing, she didn't participate in any case, as obviously she didn't want to give out her real address. x