For Multiple Mama

[FraggleRock77]

I cannot find the most recent thread about you and Fee? I do hope everything is ok? Is it me that can't see it or am i going bonkers!!! X

I feel for all of you who she upset.
Rereading some of her posts, she did always seem to be very positive and never moaned about the day to day moans of life! Her description of Christmas seemed very incredible, when numerous relatives arrived from Russia and she managed to feed them all and have half of them to stay with her! I only have 2 DC and Christmas was stressful enough. I am glad that it was a fictional family and all those children don't have to suffer.
Do people think the whole story was made up?

Yep....every last bit of it!!

I was another one who reported her after the last pregnancy test. Just one step too far for me. But I had followed her around the boards and I 'liked' her, IYKWIM. It was only when I realised she was hitting every single emotive trigger that I had to call foul. Multiples, prems, BDSM, SN kids, birth trauma (husband, who posted!), the world's quickest ever adoption (father), and YEs, I felt she was gearing up to abortion/miscarriage and bereavement of the 26 weeker. It was just too triggery, for too many people, in too many different ways. Very vampiric.

Why did she post normal things though like, pram, car seat advice and walking with lots of little ones?
I was suspicious when I found out she was only 23 though.

BDSM??? Really?

I very rarely advance search anybody (and actually v often don't remember usernames/NN - shocking memory for names), but I think now I will….

Such a shame for everybody who posts with a genuine problem - I suppose it all boils down to 'never give more (emotionally, financially, in terms of time and effort etc) than you can afford to lose'. I've said that many times before

23??

Good grief, I need a spreadsheet before I trust anybody ever again!

Pacific.......oh aye all kind of 'mucky goings on' LOL. Brother and hubby sleeping on a camp bed with Xmas thongs on have spent the last few months headbutting the wall in frustration!!

Oh, I saw that one

I have to admit that the "Xmas thongs" comment made me

yes! See that post she had about trying to walk to nursery with the dcs and how to do it? I was just these 'every-day' happy kind of posts that sat between what, for most of us, would have been very traumatic times.

God, it feels almost cathartic now. I could just never put my finger on it...

The bdsm stuff completely bypassed me.

I often post on preemie threads but my preemie, although I went into labour at 29 weeks, was a 32 weeker who needed minimum intervention really so the medical details bypass me.

In fact, I think I may miss a lot - must pay more attention in future.

How awful. I know that the law of averages means that there are long-term posters on here running entirely fictitious lives but still... That's a real surprise one (though I don't know enough about premature births to have picked up any holes in her story). I remember her threads. Though I was always a bit intrigued by the names!

It is vampiric and its beyond horrible for people who have trusted and shared - but I do feel sad for people who have done such detailed trollery. I mean, it must have taken a huge amount of research to write some of her threads. I can't help but think that people who create such detailed and dramatic fictitious lives are doing it because there is a gap in their real life that they need to fill. A lot of trolls you know are doing to wind people up, but one like these just makes me feel sad for the real person who felt they needed to create this second life.

I think the "twins" arrived around the same time as my second prem. It was the last "baby" which did not ring true. You have to just pity someone who does this though. It must be quite a lonely life to have the time to make up such stories.

I used to lurk on the Multiples thread having been there originally under another name. I remember when she first started posting thinking it was pointless posting myself any further. She simply used up all the oxygen on the thread. I thought the most telling lies were the ones about the impossibly smooth childcare arrangements, her father adopting so quickly (a single friend of mine took three years to adopt- so I knew that was all very odd) the father adopting instead of helping his beloved daughter with the existing grandchildren, the change in tone between slang like "gonna" and then perfect English like she was trying to be a breathless 23 year old one minute and then all fluent and mature the next??? And the incredible idea that you would move to Germany when you had a prem in UK and risk a dangerous flight etc? And weird little details like wanting to take her daughter to ballet classes once a week by plane!! But at the same time she was convincing in another sense. She was very eager to befriend everyone and listen to their troubles - it was like she was mimicking what real people did on the thread and picking it up as she went along.

I am so sorry for everyone on the Multiples thread that you had to put up with her and listen to her complete drivel and I think your warmth and "realness" absolutely shone through in comparison to her also your incredible patience with her presuming her innocent until proved guilty

Oh yes and they don't have pantomimes in Germany - another completely odd reference she made - she obviously had googled a local event and misunderstood what pantomime was in German terms. Unless it has changed - certainly dh is German and never went to the pantomime as a child.

I'm shocked. I posted on the Feliks thread. I felt for her.

I only came across her on the feliks thread. It was all absolute bollocks. The cooling (contraindicated in preterms), the lumbar puncture for brain bleeds (done at a much much later point if at all), the reason she gave for the bleeds (unlikely in a preterm), the type of seizure (never seen a preterm have a violent generalised tonic clonic seizure) and so on and so on. Someone with a little knowledge and access to Google but not enough knowledge to know which bits were believable. I reported at the time but I guess unless I send mnhq my cv they have no reason to believe me!

Oh dear. What a bizarre and awful thing to do. I completely believed the Apollo / Artemis stuff, but I agree what pp have said about the second baby not ringing true.

It's easy to see it was a load of rubbish in hindsight. MM always seemed very casual about things, and not at all bothered that Apollo seemed to have very complex SN. I really doubted that anyone would have another baby so sooner after the trauma of an extended NICU stay, let alone be watching Hallowe'en films, cheerfully making batches of cookies or worrying about your sex life while this next baby was in hospital.

I also found it strange that she never told her family about the baby how can you be pregnant and then in the nicu everyday and not mention it to anyone wouldn't they notice? I started to looking at the fee thread because of the mad sad story but found it amazing and a miracle that paramedics revived him. But when she said they noticed something wrong with his ears on an mri? Now I could be wrong but ive had many mris and seen the pictures I don't think you can see your ears on them I think they're deleting most of her posts now cos I can't see any of them any more looks like they're even deleting her posts to other threads

Since reading this thread, I find myself being really cynical about other posts/threads. I'm a generally trusting person and relatively new to MN (been here about a year). There's something about how such a prolific poster can have spun so many lies that's really hit me. Quite sad really!