Medical abortion advice/experiences

[ThatPeppySheep]

Hi all, I’m looking for medical termination experiences please. I’ve found myself in a difficult situation of needing a termination, we fell pregnant unexpectedly due to failed contraception with already having a 16 month old (due date would be the same as my daughters 2nd birthday), we don’t have the room or finances to go ahead which has been difficult to accept but come to terms with this now. I’ve had a NIGHTMARE experience with MSI and I’ve today, eventually got the pills almost 3 weeks after finding out I was pregnant. Luckily, I had an US on Wednesday and they could only see a 8mm sac with a yolk sac within and no fetal pole inside which puts me at around 5w6d today so will be taking the final pills 6w1d. I’ve read so many horror stories online about the pain being unbearable, passing out, throwing up, worst pain of their lives etc and I’ve got myself in a state but I’ve found some comfort in reading experiences on mumsnet and wondering if anyone could share please? I’m taking the first pill tonight and the rest on Sunday at 2pm. I’m keen to know how long the worst of the process lasted for everybody as I’m really worried I won’t be over the worst by my daughters bedtime as she’s not the greatest sleeper but due to other commitments, I can’t take these before Sunday afternoon. I’ve been given codeine and told to take ibuprofen and paracetamol and would like to know when people took different pain relief to minimise the pain? I’m genuinely so scared to do this!😩 my partner will be home to care for my daughter all day Sunday and will put her to bed Sunday evening but she usually wants me if she wakes in the night, he’s also taking the Monday off work, will this be enough time?

Bump! Xx

I have been reading about this to and am in the same position. The key seems to be taking the pain medication early, and a bit before 2nd pills in case you throw up. Hopefully as you are not too far along it will be less painful. Advice seems to be set a whole day aside for second pills some say starting at 8 can be over by 1 but can take until the evening. Hope you are OK, if you partner is with you maybe have a pain relief schedule ready to help stay on top of any pain x

thanks so much for replying. I really hope everything goes okay for you! I take the misoprostol tomorrow, ill be relieved once its all over🥲xx

Hi, I don’t know if you’ve already gone through this but my experience was extremely positive. If you need anyone to talk to if you’re still worried please reach out! Xx

Hi glad to hear it went ok sorry I didn't look online over the weekend. Hope it went smoothly for you, sending big hugs hope you are ok x

Hi, I have my appointment with MSI this week as they want to do an ultrasound. Do they issue the tablets there and then? And do you have any advise on what to expect in the appointment? They said to allow two hours 🙈

hope it all worked out for you. X

Hi lovely! Yes they should scan you and if they can confirm the pregnancy they’ll give you the tablets. I had a nightmare as they couldn’t find the pregnancy at the appointment, I had to go back a week later for a rescan and they still couldn’t see it so thought it was ectopic. I got the pregnancy confirmed a few days later (I was SUPER early at my first appointment as I’d obviously ovulated late so this isn’t a typical experience). You go to the clinic, go in, do a urine sample, they’ll ask you a bunch of safe guarding questions to make sure you’re safe and no one’s forcing you etc, scan you (you don’t see the screen or anything) and then get the pills and they run through how to take, pain relief etc. my appointments every time were no more than 20 mins. Everyone is so lovely, judgement free and caring. I had a really positive experience, almost completely pain free and the ‘pain’ I did experience was very mild. I have a negative test now so all worked! If you have any questions please reach out xx

I’m glad it all worked out and went smoothly for you in the end. I’m really worried that they won’t provide the tablets because I suffer with high blood pressure in medical settings (white coat syndrome) 😔 I’m going to see if I can bring the appointment forward as I’ve still got a week to wait, I’ll be 6 weeks then. Xx

I do too! I had to have an induced birth due to it as my blood pressure was high towards the end but ONLY in the hospital 🤦‍♀️ they never actually checked my bloody pressure in clinic and I had 3 face to face appointments with MSI. I don’t actually ever record seeing a BP machine. I’m also a higher BMI so would probably be the most likely candidate for BP check x

Hopefully, I’ll have the same experience! Although can’t see how they can refuse tablets when they can do over the phone consultations! 🙏🏼 I’m overthinking everything and just want it to be over with!

I hope everything goes well for you! I’ve had a look online and it doesn’t seem that blood pressure effects the process so hopefully it’s smooth for you🤍🤍

I went for my scan today and found out I have a twin pregnancy, which was a shock 😔however due to my circumstance’s I’m still going ahead with the termination and have taken my first tablet. Just hoping the second and third stage work as they should do. Feeling a little down that I’m going though this 😔

Im so sorry you’re going through this, I can’t imagine how hard it must be. I hope everything goes well. If you need to talk to anyone at any point, please reach out. You should be proud of yourself for doing what’s right for you and your family, it’s not easy to do🤍 x