Does my expartner have a right to our unborn child?

[Mistydaym]

I moved out of my ex partners house when his parents physically assulted me. Since then ive been homeless with our toddler and now found out im pregnant. We've tried to make it work but he keeps defending his parents and think they have done no wrong.

I've told him to leave me alone, I want to continue this pregnancy in peace. Does he have a right to me or the child as of now? When the child is born will he have a right? How do i navigate this.

In order to understand it all I’d really advise you to get legal advice as your situation sounds complicated, but I hope you are ok. Your local citizens advice centre will have info on family solicitors that give half an hour of free advice, and as I mentioned, women’s aid is really worth contacting.

Not in the grand scheme of things no

The judge will be on the side of the child….not the parents….has he ever harmed your toddler….have you reported all abuse?

If his parents laid hands in you if anyone attacked me I’d report it to the police.

surely then if he allows contact to his parents it won’t be viewed positively by the courts.

Here's a link, you might find some useful info here, and Women's Aid are always a shout. Sorry, this sounds so difficult. Hoping you and your toddler can get to safety asap.

@Kitkat1523 not to the police. To a counsellor and SS.

Hi
I think you need to really take a bit of time to fully understand what rights he does and doesn’t have. You are asking strangers on the internet and will potentially abort based on their advice which you have no idea is accurate or correct.

I don't understand. So this man and his family can make life a living hell for me and our child. My toddler wittnessed his parents attacking me and its upset them. He hasn't helped a penny since i've moved out and doesnt have dc ft since he works. And then ontop of all of this he can have claim to both kids. Insane

Not necessarily.
An allegation between adults does not mean the child is in danger.
Especially with no police evidence/ court involvement.

Honestly OP it sounds like abortion may be the nest for all parties.

Yes, because he's the father.

@Sammie1990 tbh I don't think I can have another baby anyways given im supporting us money wise and have no where to live.

@Allthegoodnamesaregone1 didn't want to have to get rid of the pregnancy but seems I have no choice. Just a lovely parting gift he left me with

If that’s how you feel then that’s your choice. But don’t let the advice on here lead you to your decision. Why don’t you contact citizens advice for some advice it’s free.

@Sammie1990 i've done it before and it was useless. I've already spoken to the council and there isn't much help for me. The pregnancy will just have to go

His family have nothing to do with any rights…forget them…..you honestly don’t know what your ex will do after the baby is born…,,it’s a risk you will take

In the UK you have responsibilities not rights.

In the long run not putting his name on the birth certificate does not impact his parental responsibility as he can apply to the courts for a mandatory DNA test.

Sorry no I meant advice about what rights he has rather than anything else.

I get it OP. I terminated a pregnancy because I couldn't be promised that the violent father would never be allowed access.

Okay thanks everyone, i've got all the answers to what I need to know.

I will be getting in contact with an abortion clinic first thing. I'll be damned if I have another child with a man who hits me and his parents that attack me.

social services are involved already as well?

tbh i agree abortion sounds like the best option, better contraception and also moving away. Contact cms for financial contributions as he hasnt contributed so far, but how long can you actually have been gone if youre 5 weeks pregnant?

It's pretty basic. As the father he can go to court to gain PR as a given and then have all the same rights access as OP.
He will then be able to obtain a CAO and set out his time with the infant.
He will have a say in medical, education and other such matters.

I’d be reporting the assaults to the police for a start! And starting a CMS claim for your toddler.

I'm sorry you are going through this.

Realistically it is bloody hard to get courts to agree to not allow a father any time with his child.
Because it's not so much about his right to his child as it is a child's right to both parents and courts are hugely reluctant to deny a child that even when they really bloody should!

You will have a massive fight on your hands.

You're probably doing the right thing op.

In my situation after I terminated my pregnancy my ex went on to have 2 more children, and is now in prison for 9 years for violence towards them and their mother.

I don't regret my decision.

Does he know about the pregnancy? I would perhaps not say it was your choice but just that you lost the baby as he might use the information against you later when your toddler is older and your child might not understand the predicament you are in.