Instant abortion regret - is there any going back??????

[Amch]

Crying my absolute heart out and too inconsolable to explain the situation.

I took the first tablet (medical abortion) a couple of hours ago. I tried to talk myself into being fine with it, took the kids to bed and broke down completely. Can the baby survive if I don’t take the second lot of tablets? Should I make myself sick? Although it’s already been a couple of hours in my system.

Words can’t explain how bad I want to go back in time. I can hardly breathe.

I have no advice here - could you call 111 and get some medical advice?

Can you not ring the number they give you? They should be able to advise. I’m not 100% sure but I feel like I read a few stories on here where people didn’t take the 2nd tablet and carried on with the pregnancy. I don’t know if it’s recommended or not but I would ring the provider you have gone with to talk to someone at least

Get some proper medical advice asap. 111 maybe?

Edited to add: Thinking of you OP. Whatever happens you'll get through it.

I am so sorry that you feel like this. My heart breaks for you.

I too was in a similar position and absolutely regretted my actions. It totally crushed me.

I can't give you any medical advice. I know that google will tell you your baby could be fine. Can you ring the helpline? Do you have a contact number to call for the procedure to get some advice?

I really wish you well.

Yes - there is a chance but you need to get a prescription for progesterone I think - google ‘medical abortion reversal’

Can you vomit the tablet back up

Dont take the second one

I don't know about making yourself sick, but I know it is possible for the baby to survive if you don't take the second pills. Most of the time it sadly won't, but there is a not tiny chance.

I've heard of quite a few babies being born following that situation, and they've been born healthy and well.

From recollection, I think the baby survives about 10% of the time.

A friend of mine didn’t take the second tablet. I think she had to take progesterone tablets but everything was fine. Her little girl is two now.

I can find out more if you want me to

Are you having cramps / pain?
When I had a termination my body knew it was losing something. Even though I had thought very hard about it and it was the right decision.

Medically I think it's advisable to take second pill. Is there a helpline you can call bpas?

Thinking of you

I started the abortion process and I regret it. Can a fetus survive mifepristone?? www.mumsnet.com/Talk/pregnancy_choices/4246594-I-started-the-abortion-process-and-I-regret-it-Can-a-fetus-survive-mifepristone

Oh god OP I'm so so sorry to read this. Thinking of you xx

Thinking of you. Be kind to yourself. Posted a link above as I remembered a similar thread and people posting their experiences. Perhaps it may be helpful.

Yes ideally you should take progesterone within 24 hours of taking the first pill but even taking it up to 72 hours after the first pill babies have been born healthy

If you call 111 perhaps they can arrange an emergency prescription of progesterone?

Hopefully, but just to be aware, 111 etc do occasionally just tell people to take the second out, rather than understanding that it may still be possible to save the pregnancy.

You must ring 111 straight away.

Thank you.

At first I thought it was just hormones but as the evening went on I just fell apart. Nausea (and throwing up) have already started (always get it v bad) and so I felt SO rough and weak all day today (all whilst looking after 2 under 4yo). I perked up a bit this evening and so was in a better headspace and started imaging what he/she would be like (too late though - already took first tablet).

I’ve found out that there is a chance of ‘reversal’ (albeit a small one) but as PP have mentioned I would need progesterone on prescription. Just going to go and call up the clinic helpline now but almost scared to do so in case it’s an answer that I don’t want to hear.

Maybe I need to prep myself and type out the reasons I wanted the tablets to begin with…

• I already have 2 young children and due to DP’s job I am basically raising them as a single parent
• I have a health condition so worried what the exhaustion of having 3 would do to me
• We live in a small flat (imagine family of 5 in a small flat….)
• We’d need a bigger car
• I had extreme guilt that my two would feel left out and not be able to have much 1:1 time with me (especially in the early days with the hours and hours of breastfeeding)
• I cosleep with my two.. I could not co sleep safely with 3!!!
• I always suffer horrendous morning sickness, this would really effect my parenting
• I am generally just so tired as it is

Sorry but I think it’s important that I mentally prepare myself that my chances of reversal are slim and that I need to change my thoughts and block out some feelings.

Don’t ring 111, ring the number they give you with the medication.

I do think you need to prepare for both potential outcomes OP but hope it works out for you x

@Amch - do please try to remember why you made the decision in the first place. You thought it was for the best, and nothing's changed. Please take care.

Call and get emergency assistance.

In answer to your worries

• I already have 2 young children and due to DP’s job I am basically raising them as a single parent

That is tough, but in for a penny in for a pound. Talk to your Dp about how 3 means he needs to carve out time to help

• I have a health condition so worried what the exhaustion of having 3 would do to me

Maybe hard going for a bit but it will get easier and the love you will get back will improve your heart health

• We live in a small flat (imagine family of 5 in a small flat….)

Things change, as time goes on it's likely you will find a bigger place if not it's still manageable until the baby is 3

• We’d need a bigger car

Yep.

• I had extreme guilt that my two would feel left out and not be able to have much 1:1 time with me (especially in the early days with the hours and hours of breastfeeding)

They won't if you can include them as Mummy's helpers or just co sleep with them

• I cosleep with my two.. I could not co sleep safely with 3!!

Totally fine, humans have co slept as a family with more than 3 for millennia

• I always suffer horrendous morning sickness, this would really effect my parenting

Mmm that is a bit of a worry

• I am generally just so tired as it is

You'll be as tired as tired can be for a while. You will have 3 kids though. Amazing 😻 sleep later

Gosh I hope this works out for you

Good luck

Ring the number they gave you and explain to them. Its too late to throw it up, it would have been absorbed hours ago but there is a possibility that it could survive it if you get yourself on progesterone quickly.

However none of your reasons have changed. Is it better to not allow this pregnancy to develop for the sake of your existing children? Only you know the answer. I'm sorry you're going through this. I hope you make peace with whatever you decide.

@Amch I was on your other thread and very concerned for you. How are you this morning? Did you get any help last night?
Sending a big hug. 💓

Thank you all for your replies. Thank you @heldinadream . Really not in a great place to be honest but i’m still in the ‘process’ so I think it’s going to be a case of allowing myself some time to reflect, accept and heal.

In terms of ‘reversing’ the process, sadly it wasn’t what I thought. I could have waited and arranged a scan to see what/if any damage had been caused by taking the first tablet but sadly I already started bleeding pretty heavy. I have been sick 5 times today and which hasn’t helped. Already exhausted.

I am going to do stage 2 of the process in a couple of hours because A. The bleeding is heavy enough for me to believe a reversal is possible & B. It’s only been 2 days of throwing up and my little ones are suffering already from me being so out of action. I need to pull myself together for them and like I say, just accept it and try to heal from it mentally. I have learnt a lot from it so far, it’s just very sad and I never thought I’d feel so much pain.

Thank you for checking in - it really does mean so much x

Oh OP, I'm so sorry x.

Be kind to yourself and please try to arrange some counseling to help you process this.

Ah I'm so sorry. Take care of yourself as much as you can (I hope your DH is stepping up). Wishing you healing and wellness. 💙