Medical abortion.

[Kardelen]

Hello.
i realised I was pregnant not long ago. Completely unexpected. Failed contraception. I feel so bad and guilty. I already have a 15 month old, and returned back to work not too long ago. Live with our parents, as they are not at the healthiest stage and I take care of them. It’s been extremely difficult already. Had a traumatic birth first time round, and a few months later one of my parents had gone through cancer.
now I am worried sick, I need to decide what I want by tomorrow. I am so scared of taking the pills and keep thinking I am going to end a life… scared of the bleeding, scared I will have retained tissue which will mean I need surgery… but I can’t tell anyone this.
i am honestly devastated and don’t know what to do. I feel so guilty for the life that’s growing in me. But I don’t think I am even mentally stable to look after another baby. I pay a family member to look after my first while I am at work… and sometimes he stays with my parents but I know it’s very hard on them and I feel bad. I’m at a job where I can’t really take a career break, as I will be removed from the register. I’m so clueless. I’m worried of killing something so innocent… but how will I look after? And what would people say?

@Kardelen I've got a feeling different providers do different things. So some allow you to take it at home and some want u to take it on the spot.

I think so

It's okay whatever your decision you know best~ good luck x

Hi OP

I hope you are doing ok today, I have recently gone through an abortion and it may have been my post you read about (seeing my baby at 8 weeks). I have read almost everyone’s posts on abortions and haven’t come across anyone who had to go through what I did except one other person so I’ve come to the conclusion that I was part of a very small percentage of people that this happens to.

I’m not going to lie, it has been hard since and a lot of mixed emotions but I think that has been heightened due to seeing what I did. At first it was extreme guilt and regret but now almost 3 weeks later I’m still very much emotional about the whole thing but feeling slightly better than I did at the start ( also hormones aren’t as strong now which is helping).

I’m sure whichever decision you make will be right for you and your family but what I will say is that you will probably have emotions to deal with either way and it’s impossible to prepare for it, just focus on the positives whichever way you go.

Everyones journey is different and I truly wish you luck on yours xx

Hey! I hope you are feeling ok. I have just found out I am pregnant too and I too am not ready. I have my first appointment in clinic on Monday and I am so nervous for the pain I’ve been reading! Have you had any of your pills yet? I’m so scared as I can’t take much time off work and will worry that I’ll need to call in sick as the pain may be so bad!
sending you lots of love and support! 💕

Hey OP going through the same now, would nice good to chat if you can ?