After Medical Abortion

[elaine31xx]

HI, I am probably over thinking this but I had a medical abortion 9 days ago and still 'feel' pregnant. Boobs are still tender (not as bad) and i am running to the toiler (but I am prone to UTI's) is this normal? I have had a a lot of bleeding which is now tailing off. I had abortion a few years back with retained product and ended up getting surgical so I'm probably just panicking - noone can have that much bad luck twice right?

Hi @elaine31

Hope you're doing ok.
I also had a medical termination 9 days ago.
My sore boobs have only just gone down and feel relatively normal now but I have heard this can take 10 days or longer to settle.
I've been having the same issues with running to the toilet for a wee! I wasn't really bothered by this as one of my pregnancy symptoms so took me a bit by surprise.
I spoke to my GP about it last week and as I had some WBC in my urine, she gave me antibiotics for a UTI. They helped with the pain and pressure I was having but I'm still having the urge to wee.
Spoke to my DR again today and she said she thinks it's most likely a result of everything shrinking back to normal size. She says it differs for everyone and sometimes this process can put pressure on the bladder. Also the hormones responsible for making us wee loads can take a while to reduce.
I'm still having some bleeding at day 9 but it's mostly just when I wipe and has turned brownish with the odd tinge of red. GP says this is normal and what they look for is that the bleeding is reducing.
It's such a long drawn out process isn't it?
Definitely never want to go through this again.
Feel free to message if you need a chat 😘!
Xxx

Hi @TKL04 thanks so much for getting back to me. I always get UTI's like its a constant thing so I think its probably a UTI and like you say my body getting back to normal.

I called the nurse this morning and she said basically the same as you. I think with my previous experience I am just terrified it hasnt worked and I need to go in for the surgical follow up!

Such a long process in some ways I wish i took the surgical option but then i didnt want to go into hospital or take time off.

I know its the right decision but god m mind is playing tricks on me thinking it hasnt worked!

xx

@elaine31xx
It's totally understandable, especially after your last experience.
I've been having the same worries - retained products etc so much so that every time I go to the toilet I'm worrying about what I'll see.
It's reassuring that we've both been told the same things by other health care professionals. Hopefully our bodies are just healing themselves. It's hard being female 🤦🏻‍♀️
How is your bleeding? Xx

@TKL04 very similar to yourselves only when i go to pee and wipe there is a bit of brownish blood not very red at all and not much. Other than that I feel absolute fine tbh. How are you feeling xx

@TKL04 how are you feeling now? Got tested for a UTI and dont have one but still running to the loo constantly and boobs had random veins appear yesterday :( other than that I feel fine. Need to take my test on Friday (2 weeks after) and im nervous xx

Hi @elaine31xx

So sorry I thought I'd replied to your last message.
I'm feeling alright. My boobs are pretty much back to normal now and I haven't been peeing as much in the last 24 hours. Felt a bit sick this morning and had a little panic but I think it's just from this headache I've got. Still having the brownish/occasional red bleeding but only on wiping.
I did a regular pregnancy test on Sunday (no idea why as it was only a week after) and it was positive still. I was told by Marie stopes to test at 3 weeks. Did you get given a special test to use?
I've heard of others who were still positive on day 11-12 post so I think it can take time to clear. Xxx

@TKL04 no worries. I just have the boobs and peeing constant other than that I feel fine. I think my mind is probably playing tricks on me. I not bleeding at all anymore so hoping that is normal! I need to take my test on Friday (weeks after after second tablets)xx

@elaine31xx I've got my fingers crossed it comes back ok for you. Let me know how you get on.

I definitely think the mind plays tricks on us.
I found when I was worrying constantly about needing to wee, I kept needing to go. Not sure if I was bringing it on myself by thinking about it.

Xx

@TKL04 probably exactly what im doing. Im working from home alone pretty much all day every day alone so I do think my mind is playing tricks. Fingers crossed for a negative test result.

When do u take ur test?

xx

I was the same. Home alone during the day on my days off from work and too much time to think haha.

Mine is three weeks after the tablets so I'll take it on 1st May! I wonder why some places say two weeks and some say 3? Unless they use different tests xxx

@TKL04 its so strange isnt it? mines is the 23rd i have a Check 4 hCG test? it says between 10 and 21 days on the label.

Its defo my brain playing tricks at weekend didnt even really think about it till i was sat at home alone.x

I've started thinking about it and now I need to go 😂.

That's the same test I have. Maybe different clinics use different time frames. I just checked on the MS website just incase I was wrong. They deffo say 3 weeks but if the test says 10-21 days I'm guessing it's just at the discretion of each clinic 🤷🏻‍♀️ xx

I hope I am doing this right as I have not posted on here before.

Hello everyone, I found out I’m pregnant today. I should be happy but I am conflicted.

I have 2 kids (one DD From a previous relationship, I am really good friends with her dad but we were too young to make it work) And another DD (18m) from my current disastrous relationship.

I was single parent for a long time, met my current partner and he was a godsend in the beginning. We had an amazing relationship and I got pregnant after a while of us being together. He went through something traumatic in my pregnancy and ever since has just been extremely difficult to deal with and just not very nice, I have tried to understand and be there got him but there is only so much I can take. I struggle financially now because of his lack of help (I was financially stable before him). He helps here and there financially but nowhere near what is reasonable although we live in the same house, he actually has savings but we don’t see them. We argue constantly and it’s just not a healthy environment (it is not blazing rows but there is nothing we can agree in anymore even if it is the simplest issue, it’s like we are now two different people but we were once so in sync). I was actually planning to leave him at the end of the month but I’ve just found out about this pregnancy.

Fortunately I have a forged a successful career for myself and although I will be leaving my current job shortly as it is no longer compatible with my family life, I have good job prospects moving forward.

The plan was to leave him, remain amicable for the baby but set my new life up for myself and my children. Now this baby just changes things. I definitely want to leave him he’s not for me at all and this relationship Is horrendous. And I am 99.9% sure that I want an abortion. He would be extremely unhappy if he found out so I would probably have to hide it from him but that makes me feel awful. He usually is the one who lies (he recently cheated and also gave me an infection to add insult to injury) and I feel like I’m as bad as him if I don’t tell him but also I feel like if I told him it would result in a barrage of arguments and judgement from him and his family. I feel trapped.

Please don’t judge me and I hope I don’t offend anyone but I feel super alone and don’t have anyone to turn to. I just want to run! Ideally if he was the man I thought he was to begin with I would keep the baby happily but I’m struggling with our DD who has just started somewhat sleeping through the night and he doesn’t come home until late and is unpleasant when he is here and not the most helpful, it’s like having another child!

Any advice would be appreciated, my life is a mess right now, only good thing is my children and career, I want to be free.

Sorry it seems that I have taken over a thread when I did not mean too. Can someone please tell me how to create my own thread? Sorry OP I’m new to this. I will delete my comment.

@Chezzerz - it sounds like maybe you should report your question in relationships, because it’s not just about keeping your baby but also about leaving your (awful sounding) partner. Here’s a link to relationships: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/relationships To start a new thread, there is a blue “down” arrow at the top right of the page. You press it and it gives you options and you should see “add a thread.” I’ve attached images, just in case.

Sorry, here are the images.

Thank you so much, yes I’m in a right big pickle lll

@TKL04 tested this morning and it's negative. Feel so much relief. The negative line half of it is faint for some reason but seems to have worked xx

@elaine31xx that's such a relief!! So happy for you! As hard as this whole situation is, it's good to be able to move on.
How are you feeling now?

Xxx

@TKL04 i felt so much better seeing that result! it was very faint so im going to double check with the nurse but im sure it was fine! i feel fine although im convinced i have UTI / Kidney infection still. how are you feeling? xx

@elaine31xx I'm so pleased for you. Did the clinic offer any advise about the faint positive?
I've still got a week until I do my test but just out of curiosity I did a normal one today and it showed a very faint positive. Could barely see it. So I hope that's a sign things are dropping as they should.
I'm still struggling with feeling like I have a UTI as well but my dips are now negative.
Booked myself a scan for tomorrow just to make sure everything's come out and I have no retained products. The anxiety this whole process has caused me is awful. Xxx

@TKL04 sorry I should of been more clear it was the negative line that was faint but nurse said that was fine.

I honestly think the UTI was all in my head as I was so stressed today I have been totally fine. Hope everything goes well tomorrow let me know how u get on xxx

@elaine31xx ooh I see what you mean. That's good news.
I think I'm doing the same with the UTI symptoms. It only seems to be when I'm stressing or thinking about it.
Will keep you posted on tomorrow 😊 xx

@TKL04 yeah I was worried I hadn't done it right or something but yeah like all say I've been totally fine. Defo mind playing tricks 🤣 hopefully all goes fine tomorrow will be thinking of you xx

@TKL04 how did you get on today lovely xx