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Pregnancy choices

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Feel like I’m being forced to abort

39 replies

Jaysmum2009 · 17/06/2020 12:25

Hi ladies, iv not being seeing my partner for very long and I found out I’m 5 weeks pregnant. My partner has 2 other children from another relationship. After I found out about the pregnancy he turned very cold. Little reply’s and he seems very distant. He blocked me for awhile on wassap. So I saw him for a short period yesterday and he told me to be fair. He said I was to abort as it wasn’t fair to his two sons. I feel like I have had no emotional support from him and not once has he asked me what I want. Should I do I ladies? Part of me wants to but part of me doesn’t I’m so unsure. Do I want to bring a child into this world and get accused of trapping the father? Thanks for reading ladies

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gamerchick · 17/06/2020 13:19

Unfortunately they don’t come with ‘I’m a dick across their four head’ which is a shame

He did, he refused to wear a condom. That should have been your first clue! Now on top of this you should go for a STI check.

Bin him off, the relationship is probably over now anyway either way. Get support IRL elsewhere and make the choice for yourself. Just be prepared to go it alone and make sure you put in for CM. He needs to grow the fuck up.

gamerchick · 17/06/2020 13:20

And I've reported the spammer

Reedshoes · 17/06/2020 13:30

After reading your update about him refusing to wear a condom, it confirms to me even more that he’s a selfish prick. How dare he blame you?!!

Please forget about this immature, selfish creature. Focus on yourself and what you feel like you can cope with.

Don’t make a decision based on his wants or wishes. He won’t be around or if he is it’ll be a fleeting monthly visit.

Take care if you send OP whatever you decide to do

Reedshoes · 17/06/2020 13:30

Of yourself

GalwayGrowl · 17/06/2020 17:29

I can never get my head around people using no contraception and then being surprised at getting pregnant.

FurbabyLife · 17/06/2020 19:57

@MrsOrMiss I say that as someone who had 7 children only 1 planned, the first one. In the end I was sterilised

How did you manage to have 6 unplanned kids? I’ve gotten to my mid-30s without even a single pregnancy scare.

june2007 · 18/06/2020 00:21

Condoms don,t always work.(Thats how I got DD and I had the map.). But I was engaged to my now husband and we had both decided we did want children together at some point.

thequeenoftarts · 18/06/2020 00:42

Do what you want to do, ignore him he is a waste of semen and brain matter. Just be aware you will be doing this alone, if that's okay with you then happy days.

Namenic · 18/06/2020 02:37

So sorry you are going through this. I hope you can get counselling to help you make a decision. I hope you can get support so that you don’t feel pressured.

Gingerkittykat · 18/06/2020 03:28

Is he involved in his other kid's lives?

Can you realistically do this alone?

Don't let anyone tell you what to do here.

JustJayne69 · 18/06/2020 03:45

Why did you not take MAP, I would have thought that was the common sense thing to do !. Ultimately the decision is yours but I would consider your options closely because I don’t think you’re gonna get much change out of sunshine boy. Good luck.

Ginandbearit1 · 19/06/2020 17:36

OP I had an abortion after a similar circumstance to you, I had only known the man a couple of months, he was also a dick. He bullied me into aborting, but I stopped talking to him for several days before so I could decide whether it was the right decision for me. I had some counselling over the phone and one of the main things she asked was whether I felt I wanted to have a baby in these circumstances. Which was the least worse option - coming to terms with the abortion or coming to terms with an unplanned pregnancy and difficult/absent father. I had young children from my failed marriage, I decided to abort when the pregnancy was 6 weeks. I think about it often, I found it a very hard experience.

Please do the right thing for you, dont let him bully you either way. You're welcome to PM me.

HelmutShmacker · 19/06/2020 17:44

How did you manage to have 6 unplanned kids? I’ve gotten to my mid-30s without even a single pregnancy scare.

I've got four children. Three were unplanned. Two I conceived on the pill, one was conceived whilst I had a copper coil in place. With the baby i tried for it only took 4 weeks of coming off the pill. Some people get pregnant very easily, believe it or not!

faithfulbird · 23/06/2020 19:49

He wants you to abort because it wouldn't be fair to his sons? What does that mean? He needs to have the snip if he doesn't want more children. I don't understand why it wouldn't be fair to the other kids? Something doesn't feel right.

Now it's happened. It's your choice. Do what feels right for you. Just think about whether you could do it alone because this man seems immature and doesn't really know what he wants. How's your relationship been prior to this?

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