Medical abortion- so scared please advise

[Password17]

Hi everyone,

I recieved my pills today and took the first one around 12pm. I've felt physically fine, made no difference. I'm absolutely terrified of taking the next set tomorrow. I've barely slept the last few days. I have been reading alot online and while there has been some positive stories, alot of the horrific ones are on my mind. I know it is different for everyone but I'm so scared.
The trouble I have is I am doing it alone. I live at home and no one knows. I cannot tell my family at all. I'm struggling on deciding when to take the second set of pills to be honest. I'm not sure if I should take it during the day and just brave it and maybe pass it off as bad period pain or at night and just have more peace of mind that no one will worry. It's really quiet sad that's where my head is at. I am 5 weeks and 1 day. I have never been pregnant before and my period pain is usually quiet mild. I was given 2 codine tablets at 30g but I also have co-codamol at home. Should I start with co-codamol (8g codiene) to begin with and then hours later take the codiene if needed. Can I take ibuprofen with co-codamol. I'm so scared

@Lozz22 Thank you for sharing. That whole process can't have been easy xx

@Password17 i bet you’re going out of your mind. Fingers crossed for the next 24 hours. My pills have just arrived.

@Lozz22 Thank you for sharing. That can't have been easy xx

@Winnie20 I really am. Never wanted to bleed so bad! Best of luck! Are you taking the first one today?

I’ve taken the first one about half an hour ago. I feel ok so far. I’ll take the others tomorrow afternoon I think.
How are you getting on?

@BuffaloCauliflower sorry just seen ur message no idea how I missed it. I really hope so. All sort of things going through my mind atm x

@Winnie20 that's good. Yeah I didnt really have any side effects with the first one. Hopefully all will go well for u xx

Hi @Password17 how have u got on today?

Hey @SunnyDays3 yeah I am okay, light bleeding honestly it's what I would have at the end of my period so I'm very confused and worried it hasnt worked. Dreading doing a repeat of phone calls and waiting again if that is the case tbh and it sucks u have to wait so long before u can be sure it's worked cos I'm 5 weeks atm
How are u doing?

@password17 I know the worst part will be the wait, fingers crossed it has worked for you!! I’m doing ok, getting the first tablet tomorrow then second set on Saturday eeeek u have no idea how much relief this is going to bring me! Just hope nothing goes wrong for me 🙈

I just called back 😭😭😭 she'd booked me in for a check up as not sure it worked. I cant stop crying 😭😭😭 the appointment isn't until 1st June. I can't believe il have to wait so long and so this all over again

@password17 omg that’s terrible it’s such a long wait 😓😓 as if the stress isn’t bad enough. I just hope the worrying is for nothing and it’s worked. Do u still have any pregnancy symptoms today? X

That's just a check up if I have to have an appointment after that then will have to book aswell 😭😭😭 I cannot believe it. I will be so far along and I literally have no one I can tell for help. I don't know what my body feels, I dont know what is pills and what is pregnancy symptoms 😭😭

I was worried about just hiding this bit from my family I have no idea how I will do what else needs to be done aswell without them knowing. I dont understand why I didnt bleed much. I did everything exactly as it said

Mayb could be just coz ur not that far on so when you passed something last night that could very well have been it! Try to stay positive sending u hugs xx

I'm so upset. I really thought this would be over. I think the chances were 1/100 and now everytime I read about other options I place myself thinking that the odds are not in my favour. I dont know what to do. I ended up telling my friend and shes been great tbh and I feel relieved I have but I dont know how much I have in me physically and emotionally to continue. I know I absolutely need to do everything to sort this but I'm just very tired. The waiting is the absolute worst bit and I'm so scared more things will go wrong. I really cant afford it especially as I dont want family to know

I’m glad you told your friend and that she’s supportive.

Op I think if you think you were 5 weeks that is very very early on and there is likely not much to pass at all. I would try not to worry.

OP from everything you’ve described it sounds like everything has gone to plan, there’s nothing to indicate it hasn’t worked. You’ve even described some clots, why do you think it hasn’t worked? Were you expected loads of blood and pain? It really is very early for that, there isn’t much to lose. Trust me.

It's because there wasnt that much bleeding, there were some clots I think 3 in the toilet but I never had loads of blood on any pads. It was minimal. My period is usually more. The cramping lasted some hours and the next day I didn't really have any cramps at all. I still dont. The bleeding even the very next morning is so so light like I can only really see it when wiping theres not much on the pad at all. Also the fact that the nurses on MS on the phone wer like it could still happen after I explained it makes me feel like it didnt work. She never gave any reassurance it might have

How is it going OP? Thinking about you.

@QuidcoQueen thank you means alot. I've just been trying to calm my mind over the last few days as not much else I can do. Just trying to wait until the appointment to see really xx

Just thought I should give a bit of an update. I managed to get an earlier appointment as the waiting was making my anxiety just go through the roof. I went in today and they did an abdominal ultra sound and she said she couldn't see anything. She said that could also be because of the level of gestation so I also has a did a pregnancy test (urine) it came back a faint positive so she said that it was most likely it did work and not to worry. It was a high sensitivity test so she said if I did the low one which they gave me it would probably come back as termination was successful. I feel such relief I cannot even explain. She said to still do the test in 2 weeks time (the one I was originally given) and she also gave me a high sensitivity test to just reassure me still. It has hands down been the most stressful time in my life especially with corona going on etc. I cannot tell u all how comforting it has been reading all of your replies and feel like I owe you all so much so a very sincere thank you ❤ MS have been absolutely great and I cannot fault them in the slightest. I will still do the test in 2 weeks just to be completely sure but feeling so much more positive and relaxed. Looking forward to a good night's sleep today xxx

Thanks for update and glad you are feeling less stressed about it all.

Hi OP, I have just read through all of this and I am currently at the stage where I have taken all the pills, over 24 hours ago, and have had very minimal bleeding! I feel like it has not worked too. Just wondered what happened at your scan as I have been booked in for one tomorrow. I’m hoping it shows nothing left as I am around 4/5 weeks. Also have you re done the high sensitivity test at home? Thanks in advance x

@CJB17 so sorry. I know what it's like to be going through all this. Defo good u got the scan booked. When I went for the scan she said nothing showed up and I did a high sensitivity test which showed faint positive. She also said not to worry about loads of blood as i was early on like u 4/5 weeks and she said even then you cant expect loads of bleeding. I then did the low sensitivity test at the low sensitivity test at week 3 and it came up as termination successful.