Medical abortion- so scared please advise

[Password17]

Hi everyone,

I recieved my pills today and took the first one around 12pm. I've felt physically fine, made no difference. I'm absolutely terrified of taking the next set tomorrow. I've barely slept the last few days. I have been reading alot online and while there has been some positive stories, alot of the horrific ones are on my mind. I know it is different for everyone but I'm so scared.
The trouble I have is I am doing it alone. I live at home and no one knows. I cannot tell my family at all. I'm struggling on deciding when to take the second set of pills to be honest. I'm not sure if I should take it during the day and just brave it and maybe pass it off as bad period pain or at night and just have more peace of mind that no one will worry. It's really quiet sad that's where my head is at. I am 5 weeks and 1 day. I have never been pregnant before and my period pain is usually quiet mild. I was given 2 codine tablets at 30g but I also have co-codamol at home. Should I start with co-codamol (8g codiene) to begin with and then hours later take the codiene if needed. Can I take ibuprofen with co-codamol. I'm so scared

Hi there, I haven't been through the same situation before but didn't want to read and run. You can take co-codamol with ibuprofen, just not with paracetamol. Sending hugs, I hope all goes as smoothly as it can

Hiya. I had a medical at 5 ish weeks.
I took the 2nd pill and within a couple of hours I had what felt like a bad period pain.
I had no big clots but it was uncomfortable.

I went to work 24 hours later. Felt a bit grim but like you I didnt want anyone to know.

Personally I would complain of bad period pains and feeling rough in the morning to the people you live with. Take the pill then stay in your room as much as possible.

You could take it at night but it might keep you awake so you'll feel even worse the next day and arouse more worry staying in bed.

Good luck.

I'm glad Glitter answered about the pain relief. I wasnt sure.

Do you have a hot water bottle? That will take the edge off.

I only know one person who has taken the pills and she said it was like a very bad period. I think take them at night, take the painkillers too and with any luck you will sleep through it. I'm sorry you cant tell your family but there are lots of nice people who hang around mumsnet in the middle of the night just looking for someone to be kind too so you will be able to post on here for support x

@Glitterbubbles Thank you. I think I will take ibuprofen with it aswell just to minimise the pain as much as possible. I appreciate your reply :)

@QuidcoQueen Thank you, I'm so emotional right now, just so many different thoughts at once. Not been sleeping and just crying, mostly with fear. The lady on the phone told me its like giving birth so that really scared me. What u said brought me alot of comfort. I hope its nothing more than bad period pain and goes the same way you're did. You give me hope

@Playdonut honestly just reading your replies making me cry but in a good way. So grateful theres people who are supportive who I dont even personally know xx

@QuidcoQueen yeah thankfully I have two hot water bottles. Usually my monthly companions when needed

It will really be absolutely fine, don't worry, the lady who said it's like giving birth is a misinformed dick. Nothing like giving birth believe me! Stomach cramps and you'll be fine to move on with your life and not look back. Be kind to yourself, it's OK to be scared but no need, and take care xx

I think when they say it's like giving birth they mean that the pain comes in waves and not constantly. My friend who had the medical abortion doesnt have a high pain threashold at all (once she cried when she banged her funny bone 😂) and she said it was like a bad period as I said. Xx

Thinking of you.
It's a shit situation to be in. I was so angry at myself for not using contraception right.

You will get through this.
The pain will be over and you can heal mentally.

Thank you ladies. I think I will just brave it. @Skinnyunderneath honestly it was when she said that I was like omgg all them stories online are so real. I was quiet shocked tbh. I really just hope so, cant wait for it to be done xxx

@Playdonut your friend sounds like me!!

Thank you all cant tell u how much I appreciate it. I think I'm just going to brave it and do it when the 24 hours comes in so that will be around mid day tomorrow xx

It doesn't even come close the pain of giving birth. Like the others said I think the person in the phone meant that it comes in waves, not constant pain.

Which means it's easier to hide.
If you get a wave of pain once it's over and you're comfortable again do the things you need to do, nip to the kitchen, loo etc and show your face if required.

@QuidcoQueen I know it's like I'm mad at myself for being in this situation. I guess no one wants an abortion just not the pregnancy. Yeah that's what I'm looking forward to most, having this over with and then just trying to move on in my life. Xx

@QuidcoQueen did u throw up at all? I mean I've been nauseous but not thrown up but read taking the pills orally can make u feel more sick/ throw up

No I dont think I did. It was a decade ago so my memory isn't perfect but I'm pretty sure I just felt sick but wasnt. X

You will move on. I occasionally think about it but I still know I made the right choice for me then.

Yeah I think that's the thing that is keeping me going- knowing it is definitely the right choice for me. Just hoping it goes okay with no complications etc. Will let you know how it goes xx

Please do. Thinking of you. X

I wanted to wish you luck. I’m waiting for my abortion pills to arrive (they should be here tomorrow) and I, like you, cannot tell anyone and I’m very nervous.
My main concern is being in pain and bleeding heavily and having to hide it.
I hope today goes ok for you. I’ve been advised to take the pain relief at the same time as the second set of pills and keep topped up.

Yeah that's exactly what I'm worried about. The nurse on the phone told me to take pain relief an hour before the second set of pills. I'm due to take them soon as it will have been 24 hours. Tbh I think the waiting has been the worse thing, I just want it over with now but still so scared. I'm a bit worried about taking them vaginally incase they fall out or I dont do it right so I'm going to take them orally xx

How are you doing OP?

I took the tablets two weeks ago. Was terrified. It’s nothinh like the pain of birth. You will probably bleed pretty heavily so get some old towels and big pads ready. I found a combo of paracetamol and the nurofen with codeine kept the pain at bay.

Lots of luck x

After you put the tablets in, lie down until the cramping starts and make sure you’re near a bathroom.

Honestly, for me, the anticipation of it all
Was far worse than the actual
Process x

Thank you @sunandrose did u find it better to walk around the house while bleeding or lay down?

Honestly putting my heart at a bit more ease. I will take them in an hour or so from now. How long did u bleed for?

Honestly, as every one says, it’s just like a bad period. I am a total wuss and I coped fine and I was further along that you.

Your will be fine with some normal pain relief. Personally I’d just take something like ibuprofen or paracetemol and see it’s that’s enough. You can always take the codeine later if you need it, just read the labels very carefully .

I avoid the codeine because makes me very constipated, which is worse that the period pain.

Is there no one you can confide in in RL who can support you ? You sound quite alone.

@Password17 good luck today. I’ll be going through the same in a few days. I am also worried about the tablets falling out so I plan to take them orally. Just more worried about having to hide heavy bleeding than anything else really but I know this is the right decision.
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