Medical abortion help me please

[Girl2020]

Hi everyone sorry I know this is not a great topic but I am getting my medical abortion pill in the post tomorrow and my anxiety is through the roof I can’t stop thinking about it and crying and thinking how will it feel and what if it goes wrong I just need some support please I feel like I really can’t cope at the moment
I can’t think straight or sleep and I really don’t feel I can take the tablets and I know I don’t want this baby I just fear the unknown

Thank you

Thank you very much :) I think I may do the same

Due to the lockdown. I think I might give myself a few days to get my head around it first rather than dealing with it being my wedding day and this

@girl2020 I think that's a really good idea. I am sure it will help.

Yes give yourself time . Don’t rush in to anything you don’t feel ready for . Hope all goes well xx

My partner is not being supportive at all and I know I don’t want a baby right now but I’m petrified to take this tablet. I really don’t know what to do ladies. X

Is your partner the person you were supposed to marry? How does he feel about the pregnancy and what does he think you should do about it?

Do you want the baby?

Oh sorry I can’t read! Ignore that last question!

Yes it is. But I’m not happy at how immature he is being at the moment and I know my decision to terminate is not right for me. He is not saying a lot. Just he is happy with whatever I do which isn’t helpful. I’m just more fearful of doing the abortion or if there are any issues

At 6 -7 weeks you're not very far along. I very much doubt anything dramatic will happen and shouldn't be much worse than your period coming. But if you don't want to actually have the abortion then that's another story. You shouldn't go through with it if there's a chance you want to keep it

You don’t want the baby but you don’t want to terminate.

Do you want him to make the decision for you?

It must be infuriating for you if he’s refusing to discuss it though.

Maybe you need to terminate your relationship!

@daisydaisydoodle I'm not sure that's correct. I had a MC around this time and you do pass something which isn't just like your period. It was probably a couple of inches round

@Daffodil21 Sorry I meant pain wise

Perhaps termination isn,t the right decision for you if you are delaying so much. Go back to why you were having the termination in the first place. Everything has risks but the pills at this stage of pregnancy are low risk in comparison to other options. Do talk through your fears with your fiancé.

Thank you very much everyone I just want to try and get my anxiety under control before I jump forward and but myself in a situation where I’m freaking myself out. I think when you read the leaflet of what’s can go wrong you can’t stop playing that over and then I think I do want children in the future and I am scared if I do this and can’t get pregnant again but I know I can’t just go ahead with something I don’t want and know isn’t right for us or the baby because I’m scared x

Hi @girl2020, I saw this thread pop up on the home page and I had to comment. I terminated a pregnancy in 2015. I found out when I was about 7 weeks and then at 9 weeks had the procedure (tablet) in hospital. I had heavy bleeding the first day but then it was just like a period. In 2018 I found out I was pregnant again (me and my partner have been together 13 years) and honestly I’d never been more scared I felt like you in 2 minds yes I want kids in future etc but due to previous situation I felt even worse and more petrified all these thoughts like you. Anyway I took a week or 2 to let it sink in I also spoke to my best friend and the initially shock and scare disappeared. We now have a beautiful little boy who is almost 1. I knew for sure in 2015 there was no hesitation me and my partner weren’t ready.

What was it like after the first tablet? X

I supported a friend last year, after the first tablet nothing happened (well it did but she didn't feel anything), after the others she had cramping after a few hours that lasted a day, then bleeding continued for a week.

@Firesidetreats1 thank you very much. Just hard with anxiety to bring myself to do it. I just keep wishing it all away which doesn’t help I know. X

I still have not been able to go through with it ladies I feel so pathetic. Every time I got to take the first tablet I can’t bring myself to do it and I start worrying and overthinking the whole process. Andy tips on how to calm myself?

I think you might need to get some proper advice/counselling on this. Can you ring your GP? The longer you dither, the more likely you’ll end up with a baby you don’t want.

I’m sorry you’re struggling, but if you want to end this pregnancy, you’re going to have to put on your big girl (period) pants.

How is your partner being about things now?

What is it that you REALLY want?

How are you OP? I found your thread earlier, I just had my phone consultation today and pills are on their way. What's your position now? I hope you're ok. You sound very unsure about the abortion.

@lostabutton what all do they ask you on the telephone consultation I have mine tomorrow then have to be referred to a clinic they won’t post the pills out in my area

It was very straight forward. Medical history/previous pg details. Then just dates/timings. Then she asked why I wanted the abortion but didn't probe (my reasons were pretty straight forward and sensible/logical and I am 100% certain). Maybe if I'd been less sure it would have been different. The pills should be with me in 2-4 days. I'm sorry it is less easy for you. If you're like me, you'll just want to get it over with. Good luck

@lostabutton I am petrified if anything goes wrong I have walked round all today not even being able to take the first tablet out of fear x

Yes I just can’t wait until it’s all over me for now I can’t see any light at the end of the tunnel. I am so depressed over this I can’t stop crying and barely sleeping or eating. I hope it all goes well for you when ur tablets arrive keep us posted x