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Medical abortion help me please

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Girl2020 · 07/05/2020 22:27

Hi everyone sorry I know this is not a great topic but I am getting my medical abortion pill in the post tomorrow and my anxiety is through the roof I can’t stop thinking about it and crying and thinking how will it feel and what if it goes wrong I just need some support please I feel like I really can’t cope at the moment
I can’t think straight or sleep and I really don’t feel I can take the tablets and I know I don’t want this baby I just fear the unknown

Thank you

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ofwarren · 07/05/2020 23:18

You will be ok. I know it's scary but honestly, it's generally over with quickly.
I had a missed miscarriage at 12 weeks and had to take the tablets to pass the contents. There was quite a lot of blood but absolutely no pain at all.
Some people say they get period cramps and some people say they don't bleed much.
Just remember, people take these tablets every day and it is very very safe.
Do you have anyone in real life to talk to?

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Girl2020 · 08/05/2020 16:31

Thank you very much yes I do my mum but she is scared also and she wants me to keep the baby so it a difficult conversation. She advised me to talk Kalms to try and help my anxiety so I’m in a good frame of mind to go through with the abortion

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Babyiwantabump · 08/05/2020 18:22

It will be fine . Just take some pain killers before the second lot of pills and have a hot water bottle handy .

It just felt like achey period pains to me and I couldn’t quite get comfortable for a little while . But honestly it’s not too bad .

Hope it all goes ok for you .

VaselineOnToast · 08/05/2020 20:24

The way you're feeling is totally normal. It's a stressful, unknown situation.

I felt the same way before mine. But the pain was just mild cramping. Hardest thing physically was the extreme flow of blood, but that can be managed.

Take care & let us know how you are

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Girl2020 · 08/05/2020 21:44

I hope all is ok! I am very anxious. It didn’t come in the post today so still waiting. What was it like after taking the first tablet and waiting the 24hours? The blood flow bad? X

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Babyiwantabump · 08/05/2020 22:09

After the first tablet there wasn’t any bleeding or anything. I was warned that it can make you nauseous but I wasn’t sick and it was fine .

The second set of tablets ( the 4 you put in your vagina) are the ones which cause the cramping and bleeding. But honestly it wasn’t too bad . How many weeks do you think you are ?

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Girl2020 · 08/05/2020 23:05

Roughly 6-7 x

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Girl2020 · 08/05/2020 23:10

What were you?

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ItsABitOfAShitFightMate · 08/05/2020 23:13

Best of luck. Be kind to yourself, have some treats lined up.

Let us know how you get on, if you feel up to it afterwards. Hugs.

Elieza · 08/05/2020 23:40

I just had what seemed like a normal period (mine were always heavy) with the usual period pains. I did feel a bit sick as well though. I put that down to nerves. I was terrified it wouldn’t work. It all went fine. You will be fine too. As others have said just prepare for a heavy period and cramps with paracetamol, a hot water bottle, and chocolate or cake for a treat after when it’s over and you can relax and get on with your usual things as best you can during corona. Flowers

Victoria2220 · 09/05/2020 02:23

Hi there. I had a medical abortion on Wednesday. I was 6.5 weeks. I also had pills through the post and was beside myself with terror. Well, its only been 2 days but the thought was worse than the deed and I feel so much better now its over.
I took the first pill and there was no bleeding or anything at all until I took the vaginal pills the next day.
After taking the 4 vaginal pills it was all over within a couple of hours. I took codeine and sat in the bath for a while to soothe the cramping. Then i went to the loo and felt a couple of clots and some blood slip out, which wasn't anywhere near as scary as it sounds. Then the cramping completely vanished. Bleeding like a normal period since then. You will be fine.

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Girl2020 · 09/05/2020 08:47

It’s all come in the post today and I can’t bring myself to do it. I have read the leaflet and the possible side effect are freaking me out. Says about hysterectomy and death! Wow!!!!! I am so scared ladies I don’t want this baby but I can’t do it.... I feel so sad

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Pinkyyy · 09/05/2020 08:50

I think you sound as though you're not 100% sure this is what you want OP and that's why you're struggling. Maybe take a day to think about it.

MINEareCRAFTy · 09/05/2020 08:58

Thinking of you. I felt the same. Just taken the first tablet about an hour ago.

I don't think it would be normal to not have any anxieties. Remember the risks of complications have to be low for the organisation to manage sending pills out to people. And even paracetamol can have side effects!

You are not alone, there are so many fabulous people on here who have been where you are or who are where you are now!

Let's support each other 🤚

bobstersmum · 09/05/2020 09:00

Definitely calm down and take time to think about what you really want.

Smidge001 · 09/05/2020 09:00

If you're freaking out about the side effects, don't forget that pregnancy and having a baby carries far more risk!
I've had a medical abortion and it was honestly absolutely no problem at all. I was warned about cramping but it was nothing more than a heavy period. I just sat on the loo for about 5 mins then put on a pad (I think I was advised not to use tampons) and carried on with my day. Really, as a previous poster said, it's just the nerves. If I had to do it again I wouldn't think twice.

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Girl2020 · 09/05/2020 09:02

Yes I know and it doesn’t help that today was meant to be our wedding day. And my nausea is so bad I have been throwing up the last few days. I know I don’t want children right now but I fear any complications and I can’t in the future. But I know from research this is the safest option. My anxiety is just stopping me from just getting on with it. I hope you are ok @MINEareCRAFTy x

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Girl2020 · 09/05/2020 09:03

Thank you for all your support everyone x

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LatteLover12 · 09/05/2020 09:04

Hey OP, I had to take these tablets several times in the space of 6 months a few years ago after complications from a mc.

I know you're scared but honestly, it will be fine.

My experience was just as others have described it. Not too painful and definitely no side effects.

You know you don't want to continue with the pregnancy so this is the best and safest option for you now.

Take care Thanks

justdontatme · 09/05/2020 09:05

Hugs to you. I had a medical abortion at about 6/7 weeks years ago. It was surprisingly straightforward & I felt fine the day after taking the second lot of pills. No side effects here. I now have 3 kids.

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Girl2020 · 09/05/2020 09:22

How did everyone feel after taking the first tablet 24hours before?

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ItsABitOfAShitFightMate · 09/05/2020 09:49

If you’re worried about vomiting, is it possible for you to get out to the pharmacy today (maybe ring them beforehand to ask) to get anti-sickness meds?

Also get ginger biscuits and peppermint tea.

So you’ll be ready to do it tomorrow if you still want to. I would take the first pill with a snack.

I’m sorry that today is so crap for you. Did you split up with the guy?

ItsABitOfAShitFightMate · 09/05/2020 09:50

Or is the wedding not happening only due to lockdown?

ItsABitOfAShitFightMate · 09/05/2020 09:51

Oh and all the painkillers. And CAKE.

Victoria2220 · 09/05/2020 10:34

@girl2020 for me taking the first pill was the worst part, because that meant I had started the process and I was scared about how I would feel once I took it. It took me 3 days to bottle up the courage. But once I took it i was absolutely fine. I had the pills in my house 5 days before I took them. I needed that time to get my head around it and i am glad I did. Maybe give yourself a couple of days.