Would they let me take it home? Possibly sensitive..

[Anonbigbob]

Following on from my other thread, turns out I'm going to have to travel 300 miles to get the termination if I do go ahead with it. Which makes it even worse for me as the thought is making me sick yet everyone is telling me it's the right thing to do. I still can't make my mind up, I'm trying my best but I can't think straight.

I've been searching on Google but I couldn't find anything about whether they let you take baby home with you. The Bpas website only says they remove it as soon as possible but I don't think I could just leave it there. I would want to take it home to bury where I want. I've been told it's 'creepy' and weird that I want to do this, but my heart is attached and leaving it behind would break me apart, I hope someone else understands. It'll be 15 weeks, so a late term medical termination.

Medical would be better if you do want to have the remains intact although there's obviously no guarantee of that. What an awful situation for you

Of course you can take the remains home, they belong to you, not the clinic. Just make it clear that is what you want to do and take a suitable container with you.

As for people saying it's creepy and weird of you to want to to it, it's no one else's business but I don't understand why you told anyone - apart from medics - about it in the first place. It's entirely your business.

For what it's worth, in your position, I think you have made the right decision.

Sorry I didn't mean to sound like I'm judging you I should have worded it why did you wait? Is it because your having doubts?

@headsaway123 No I know you're not, I went to the clinic at 10 weeks as I was lucky to get an appointment a few days after I got a positive test but I was past the maximum limit. They said anything further on I'd have to travel 300 miles to get it done, then I'd have to get a gp referall. It's been an absolute pain to arrange but bringing another person into a life where I'm mentally unfit would be unfair on it. I think I had doubts for about a day but everyone reminded me it's just hormones and that I need to think of the consequences of bringing it into the world without being stable. I'm currently 13 weeks but the appointment time would be a minimum of a 2 week wait which is pretty ridiculous

Just a prime example of how messed up our nhs service is that your having to go so far when I'm sure it's difficult enough for you to have to keep
repeating to health professionals your situation. You've made your decision but make peace with it. Don't beat yourself up over it because that's not going to be good for your mental health either