I regret my abortion. how soon can I be pregnant again?

[pleaseforgiveme]

I had my abortion at 13+ weeks, the heartbreak and guilt is crushing me. the reasons were a combination of circumstantial and also medical from my GP, with regard to my mental health (I suffer from depression). i'm nearly 27.

my partner has been nothing but supportive over it all but it has broken his heart too. we are grieving and mourning our baby.

the pregnancy was unplanned but I loved my baby as soon as I knew I was pregnant. and that is why I can't live with the guilt.

irrespective of my mental health I just want to have a baby and to be pregnant, i'll never forgive myself for what happened..I feel as though I listened to 'reason' when I should have listened to my heart.

Its been 4 days since my surgery. which to be honest was completely traumatising and I am haunted by it all. i'm trying to arrange counselling and seeking support from friends and my partner,

my question is how soon can I become pregnant again? I don't want to wait for my period, I just want to start trying.

if anyone relates, how soon did they get pregnant after a surgical abortion and how possible is it to fall pregnant quickly?

i am sorry if this comes across as insensitive. its not my intention at all.

x

Hello, I am so sorry you are going through this. I really am not lying when I say I know exactly how you feel. I had a termination at 10 weeks in 2014 and it was earth-shattering for me and I've never been the same person I was before. I had a baby a year and a half later, she is wonderful and I now have 3 children in total. I thought I was healing from the abortion and thought I was coping. However last November all my emotions I had been ignoring crept up on me and hit me like a ton of bricks. Suddenly it felt like it all happened yesterday, I tried to just brush it all of when it happened but actually I was ignoring and delaying my grief. I feel like I should have allowed myself to slowly overcome it when it first happened. Please do what you feel is right but I would recommend some talking with a counsellor. Take it easy on yourself, allow yourself to hurt and heal for as long as it takes. Thinking of you and holding your hand through this. You will be ok xx

thank you so much to everyone for their kind and understanding replies. it is a better idea to wait and to have a planned pregnancy, i agree deep down. its what my partner and i want.
i just feel so very conflicted. i'll try and take time and to get better and to heal. the baby we hopefully have in the future deserves to have the very best chance in life. x

i'll try and take time and to get better and to heal This.
Take some time, work on yourself and your circumstances so that when you have a baby you are in the best place possible to give him/her a great life.

Its lovely you have a supportive partner and the counselling session booked. Best of luck

This is exactly how I felt, i had an abortion in june and nearly instantly wanted to get pregnant again. However as the weeks have past and I've been grieving I know I made the right choice. Although if I was given the choice I would take it back me and my partner have used this time to figure out what we want, I've had some lovely nights out with friends (a couple of which knew about everything), a fantastic holiday with my family, we've spent money doing up the house and decided to save to travel. All of this has made me feel like although I wish I could undo it I have time to create memories and enjoy my life right now before I eventually chose to have a baby.

Hello, how are you doing now ?.did you end up having a baby ?