So upset, possible failed surgical abortion

[Sunshineworshipper]

I had a surgical termination just over 4 weeks ago. I already have other health problems including interstitial cystitis and inflammation of the bowel, amongst other things. We wanted the baby but was just really bad timing. I am living with the grief and guilt. Docs said I wasn't a candidate for medical due to my health and would need a surgical.
Had surgical at 9 weeks. They were VERY pushy about contraception (which I can understand as I cost them £). I didn't want anything as they never agree with me, mirena had rotated and strings went missing causing very painful removal. Implant affected moods etc.
I wasn't getting out of long term contraception so I agreed to copper iud.

I ended up getting kept in after the surgery as I had tachycardia for 8 hours and white cell count went high. Very scary.
Ended up back in a few days later with a bad uti/kidney infec. Got an ultrasound and the guy said he wasn't a gynae and didn't know how a uterus was supposed to look after a termination (no joke).

I got out with antibiotics then the past 3 weeks I've had severe cramps like labour pains. Black blood, and not feeling right. I took a test last night and it was positive.we haven't had sex in 5 weeks, not since the termination. Phoned hospital and they told me to come in asap. They tested and it was positive so I now need to go for a scan tomorrow to look for possible remnants/retained products of conception. The doc said it was likely since it's been over 4 weeks and was a surgical.

I told the doc I wanted the coil out ASAP as I felt my body has reacted bad to it with the cramps etc, also severe anxiety since it was put in. She was very resistant and kept saying but you're best protected etc, my partner was shocked at yet again how pushy they are. I broke down and basically said get this effing thing out of me now, this pain isn't right. She was saying oh wait for your scan etc. Anyway, when she went and had a look she was like "oh". It was DISPLACED and was sitting in my cervix. Hence the agony, near fainting, anxiety etc. It wouldn't have even protected me anyway. I thought, I KNEW something wasn't right.

Has anyone else been through this after a surgical and what happened? I just feel so low and guilty at the thought of it all. It's been very traumatic.

P.s. Sorry it's a long post

@mcdog thank you. It really has been awful and I think this is going to trigger some bad mental health for me in the coming months to be honest. I have always had underlying anxiety/depression and managed to get off medication last year and was doing good. I think this has just put me back to square one mentally x

I know I’m late to discuss this but I just wanted to tell you you are not alone. Last year I found out I was pregnant but just like yourself we wanted the baby just bad timing. I had only just started back at work after a really bad bout of depression and anxiety after my first child. I went to the clinic who scanned me and they advised I was 5 weeks pregnant, from what I worked out I was 7 weeks but with them being the medical professionals you believe their word. I decided to have the local anaesthetic termination at what the sonographer said I was 6 weeks pregnant. again like you I was pushed into having the coil even though I was scared of it moving or getting stuck. Once the op was over I was advised it was successful and that she can confirm that I am no longer carrying. It broke my heart, I grieved for this baby and just started to feel better. But 3 weeks later my body was still changing, my boobs were tender, my stomach was getting bigger, I still felt pregnant. I took a test and it came up as positive. I rang the clinic who shouted at me for doing a test before the 4 weeks and that I should just “chill out over the weekend and if I feel too bad ring again Monday”. However, I went to the doctors because I really wasn’t happy with their service and the doctor referred me to the assessment unit at the hospital. I did another test and they confirmed that the level of hormone in my body matched that I was still carrying the baby. The doctor wanted to have a feel about to see if he could feel anything as it was 1am by this time and he confirmed he could feel something which felt like a sac. 10am the next day I went for a scan and the scan confirmed I was still pregnant. Still carrying a healthy little baby, whilst having the coil fitted, but the shock was that I was 11weeks and 6days pregnant. So the original sonographer had actually calculated wrong how far gone I was. I was actually 7 weeks pregnant like I said, not the 5. So when I had the first op I was actually 8 weeks pregnant. This in itself was traumatic the fact that they measured it wrong. I was then told that they were unable to remove the coil so the best thing for me to do would be to have a second termination but this time I would have to be put to sleep to have it done. So not only did I grieve for the baby, I had to go through this whole thing again due to someone’s negligence. This affected my whole life, I lost a bond with my first child because I felt disgusting in myself. I was angry at what had happened. I just didn’t know what to do or feel. I did get a solicitor involved and it is still going through now, I understand it was my decision to make however, it was not my decision to undergo the procedure twice for the same baby. I hope you’re feeling ok now and your anxiety and depression are under control. You’re strong for making the decision in the first place so you know you will get through this x

Hello I’m just looking for abit of advice so thought I’d comment on this thread! I’m having a medical abortion tomorrow and I will be 8 weeks and I’m absolutely petrified ! I have read so many horror story’s and I don’t know what to expect x

Hi lillilx how are you today? Hope everything is ok.

Hey thank you for replying I have gone ahead with my medical abortion now I’ve just got back home and I’m very scared about what’s going to happen xx

@lillix I had a medical abortion earlier this year at 17 weeks. I remember being very scared too but the midwives and docs were very caring and understanding. The pain wasn’t too bad either, just like really heavy period cramps. It took quite a while for me as I was quite far along but hopefully it won’t be too long for you.

Thoughts with you 💐

I had my medical abortion at 4 o’clock yesterday afternoon and it’s now 8 o’clock the next morning and I’m still convinced I haven’t passed the pregnancy I’m starting to feel somethings wrong. I started bleeding at 9 last night x

Hey ladies I had a Surgical abortion 5 days ago I still feel pregnant still feel sick . My belly bump is still there erm positive tests too the lines are very dark could I still be pregnant ?