Abortion

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I'm booked in to have an abortion in a couple of weeks. I'm having the two pills in one day. Has anyone been through something simialr? Cab you explain the process?

Lady on the phone me tioned a scan, consultation and monitoring. Do I have to have a scan?

Thanks

I can't comment on the procedure, as I had the surgical procedure. But I will say that it was the best decision for us at the time, we had a 3 month old and I fell pregnant on the pill. Ironically dp's sister also had a baby only a few months older, on the same pill and found out she was pregnant a week before me.
We actually went for the terminations together. That sounds so bizarre- but I remember the Dr saying you'll be surprised how many family members and friends end up here together.
Neither of us had counselling, we kinda of relied on each other. I asked ex dp a while ago did he ever think about the baby, and he said no he hadn't in years. Yet I think about it weekly. And sometimes me and sil will talk about it- but we both know we made the right decision for our circumstances at the time. For that we don't regret it, and we both went on to have more children.
So long as you have both sat down, talked about it and know it's the right decision for you, that's all you can do. But remember if you do have any doubt at all, you can stop it at anytime, up until it has started obviously. Even if it's because you need more time, you want to speak to someone, no one will shout at you for that. Take care x

Sorry you're going through this. You do have to have the scan but you won't see anything- if is done away from you x

I had a medical abortion a couple months ago. Had the two pills at the same time.

When i arrived i filled in a form, waited. Was called through to be weigh and then asked a series of questions. Asked why i wanted this etc. Mine was more about MH and not coping. Then they asked if i wanted a STI test, i did so had that and they checked for HIV. Also checked for Anti D which i knew i was anyway. She had to have the Anti D injection while i was there. I then went through to see the Doc and she scanned me to date the pregnancy. You dont see the screen or hear anything. She just asked if i wanted to know if it was a multiple pregnancy. They scan you so they know which treatment to you as you have to have a different one if your over so many weeks. She gave me a anti sickness tablet as my morning sickness was bad. Waited an hour then went back in. Took the oral tablet then inserted 4 tablets myself. She asked if i was ok, wanted to ask anymore questions. Then i was free to go. Cramping/bleeding started 2 hours after. It was quite painful but i managed with paracetamol and ibuprofen . I passed the pregnancy within about 4/5 hours. Had heavy bleeding and cramps until the next day. Then bled for about 3/4 days. My period came exactly 5 weeks later.

I hope it goes ok and if you need to speak to someone you can message me.

Thank you. I'm starting to worry about asking for time off work. It's a catholic very religious school so I can't exactly explain why I need a day off work?

I’m a teacher. Phone in sick with a D&V bug. I wouldn’t want school knowing my personal business with this.
Do you want to talk about your reasons on here? I only ask because you’ve mentioned being unsure and said that it’s not that you don’t want more children. Hope you’re okay.

Thanks for your reply @Hugepeppapigfan. I already have a toddler and I'm in my final year of uni. I have struggled with PND and anxiety and it's only now that I'm starting to get on top of things and enjoy my DD. On top of that, I had HG whilst pregnant with DD and I don't think I could go through all that agaon, not yet anyway. Especially being in a such a stressful year in uni. I've been accepted to start a teacher training course in September which I've worked so hard for. My wedding is also booked within days of my due date. It's really bad timing.

That does sound like a lot on your plate. I’ve never experienced abortion but others have mentioned that there is counselling offered and it would be worth exploring that. Lots of hugs to you.

inapickletoday
Please don’t think I was saying it to frighten you- I’m still relieved to have gone ahead with it, as I’ve since been diagnosed with permanent physical disability which would be exacerbated by the weight of a pregnancy and would have me in a wheelchair unable to care for the dc I already have- so not once have I felt guilt or like I didn’t do the right thing.
Your reasons are entirely personal to you, and believe me, not wanting to go ahead with it right now is enough. As said above, call in sick. You may develop a migraine... d&v might be better though, as it took me a few days to feel strong enough to get about business as usual. They don’t need to know the actual details, nobody has the right to that.
All the best, I’ll be thinking of you

I found out i was pregnant a week before Xmas and attended my local sexual health clinic 2days after i found out. My partner and i had already decided a termination was the best decision. Anyways as it was Xmas,new year i didn't get an appointment at the actual hospital til yesterday 3rd. They gave me a scan and told me i was 14 weeks gone with twins! I was so shocked the nurse told me to go home and discuss it with my partner as i would actually have to give birth! So we talked all night about this and agreed to go ahead with the termination. I phoned the nurse at the hospital first thing this morning and to my horror she said there is no spaces available etc and they don't do terminations after 15 and half weeks!? I am so confused now. I definitely want the termination but what do i do if the hospital won't or can't do it? I have told no one except my partner (who isn't dealing with this very well) apparently it's all so complicated coz it's twins. I really can't cope with all this. I went to the clinic in plenty time and obviously did not know it was twins. I'm anorexic so i hardly get periods so i didn't know i was pregnant. Help 😢

Hi OP, yes I had an abortion once, I was 8 weeks pregnant and took the 2 pills. I had it at the Mary Stropes clinic.

I was very nervous and worried but I had no reason to be. The people were so friendly and understanding.

A lady had to scan my stomach to make sure I was actually pregnant first and to see how far along. And then I was asked in private if it was definitely what I wanted (they have to double check incase you're being coerced into it). And then I had to have a small injection in my arm because my blood group was different from my partner blood group and if I didn't have the injection I'd be at risk of miscarriage in the future (I don't think the injection is very common).

I waited a few hours after the first pill and sat in a cafe watching TV and having lunch etc

And then took the 2nd pill and got a cab home. It just felt like a period, you know when you get a little bit of cramping? It didn't hurt at all. They recommend taking some paracetamol with you and also having a hot water bottle at home ready just to ease any discomfort. I then bled a few hours afterwards and the next day I was all back to normal.

They recommend not lifting anything heavy afterwards but I went straight back to work and I was fine.

It was the best decision I ever made. I was young and wasn't ready for a baby and I feel very lucky that Mary Stropes were there and helped me with dignity and empathy.

Also for anyone else reading that may be considering one.

You do not have to go to a GP first. You can self refer yourself by calling Mary Stropes.

I'm pregnant,decided on a termination before Xmas,then yesterday when they scanned me they said I'm over 14 weeks with twins! That blew my mind. The nurse informs me i have to actually give birth! And now there saying they have no spaces and they don't do terminations after 15 weeks with twins.so now i am a mess. I feel a bit angry as i attended the sexual health clinic a week before Xmas so they knew. It's nearly a grand to go.private. I have told no one and my partners no help. So confused 😖

I went to my local sexual health clinic the day after i done a home test (a week before Xmas) coz of Xmas etc i finally got scanned yesterday to find out its twins and I'm 14 weeks and 5 days! Worse still they don't have any spaces as i have to give birth and worse still the hospital don't do terminations after 15 weeks 5 days (coz it's twins) i am terrified i won't get a termination and a bit angry as the hospital have known since before Xmas. I have told no one.

Because i am 14 weeks,5 days and it's twins i actually have to go through a 'normal' labour. I am terrified 😨 my hospital don't do terminations with twins after 15 and a half weeks and I'm getting told they have no spaces! Times a ticking

19jabee83
Maybe you need to go back to the GP and discuss options, must be places closer that can help, especially if your own health is at threat, Have you thought about adoption? If you don't want to terminate or they won't terminate.
Obviously I don't know your age or your circumstances. But must be others to talk to about it. Maybe Samaritans.

Thanks for replying. I'm waiting on the nurse from the hospital yesterday phoning back to see if there is any spaces etc. My heads mashed.

Oh 19jabee83, this sounds very stressful, I am so sorry you're going through this :( That was very immoral of the sexual health clinic to not help you properly before Christmas and give you all the information you needed. Really be persistent with the doctors and explain that someone needs to make a space for you somewhere. You can't go through with a pregnancy you're not ready for because nobody is making a space for you. Hope everything goes ok x

Thanks so much for replying 😘 The nurse from the hospital phoned me half an hour ago,so I've to go in tomorrow to do the paperwork (then she'll get two docs to sign it off) then I've to go in Sat or Sun for the actual termination. I am relieved that its happening but terrified that i have to effectively give birth to two babies. I'm really scared. They'll really look like babies as I'll be just over 15 weeks by the time it happens. This all could of been avoided if they had me in quicker etc. I get the NHS is stretched but it's made things a lot more difficult than it should of should of been. I'm stressing 😨😲🙁😔 thanks again for taking then time to read and reply 😘

Sounds very tough :( It's going to feel stressful but it will over soon and you can move on, talk to a close family member to make sure you have a close support network and don't be afraid to ask for their support, I'm sure they'll be happy to help. I wouldn't advise telling friends as sometimes personal stuff like can be used against you later down the line unfortunately. Sending lots of positive thoughts your way nothing to be scared about x

My partner just said that when i mentioned telling a 'friend' he said 'she'll use it against you! I'm worried about how I'll get home after it,am worried how my partner will cope. #worriedabouteverything but relieved its happening. 😘

Hi, I wondered how you were getting on? I'm going through the same situation at the moment!

Hi,i had the procedure on Sunday,took the first set of pills on Saturday then into the hospital on Sunday morning early. It was twins sharing a placenta (which made it harder) i was in labour all day,had every pain aid available. It wasn't nice. They arrived at 10.30pm. I don't want to scare you but it was the worse pain in my life. I have a 18 year old and she was born within a hour so tbh i thought this would be similar but it was totally different. I was just over 15 weeks that's why it was so hard. I couldn't bring myself to look but my partner did. They where boys. It never really hit me emotionally until i got home. I went through all that to come home with no babies,but i know it was the right choice as my health is not good and carrying them was affecting me and that would of only got worse. I hope everything goes ok for you. Sending hugs xxx 🤗

Sending you hugs, you are very brave x

Hope your OK OP.

I had gone through the same, in fact it was the first time i visited this forum and everyone who posted was so supportive and helpful. I really needed that.

I honestly expected the worst, I was terrified. I had the scan and I didn't have to look.

Once I took the tablets I expected all hell to break loose. I went home and went for a nap, and the bleeding didn't start for a few hours.

When it did start, i lost the sack and that really was it. Bled a little but had worse periods. i was more out of it on the pain meds, high as a kite, that took the edge off the day.

I would say be kind to yourself, speak to someone if you need to. i dont regret what i did, but i also cry whenever i talk about it. Its just a decision i wish i didnt have to make, but one i had to.