advice on termination.

[LouiseAZ09]

hi. haven't done a proper post yet. I just wanted some advice really. I had a abortion yesterday for a few different reasons and my experience was traumatic and hurtful. just need some advice on how I should feel

It sounds like you've been through the wars, poor thing.

I don't think everyone just 'gets over it' - sometimes there are physical reminders, but a lot of the time it seems to be mental ones. I had one in October and I was worried about pain and bleeding etc, which in my case, were both manageable - However what I didn't expect was just how emotional and guilty and literally, wretched I felt afterwards.

It sounds like the actual termination was horrific and I'm really sorry you had to ensure such a traumatic experience, especially as you may have to go back.

Maybe if you do have to go back, look at the general anaesthetic option if it's available? I had the general and I'm really glad I did as I don't think I could have gone through with it, if I wasn't asleep.

Really hope things get better for you soon

thank you both for the posts. I have no one too turn too. I am on tablets at the moment which I got given this afternoon at the hospital to stop my bleeding as I lost so much blood Saturday and Sunday, I am back into the hospital tomorrow for a scan to see if there is some still left. if I have to go to theatre again I will definitely be put to sleep. I can't do it over again. thank you

I had an abortion last year and felt exactly the same. First few days I felt traumatised by the actual abortion procedure, then the guilt kicked in.

A year later and I've just started to forgive myself and realise I made the right decision at the time. I am also early 20's and already have a 3 year old already.

Sounds like you had an awful time. Be kind to yourself, you've had an awful experience. And yes, definitely insist on a general anaesthetic if you do need another op x

It doesn't surprise me that you are experiencing complications, you were treated dreadfully, and how on earth could they have imagined that the procedure was effective when you were treated like that!!!

I am so sorry op...you will start to mend soon! I hope that you don't have to go back into surgery.

If you ever feel up to it, perhaps a strongly worded letter to the organisation might help you, and may prevent this happening to another poor woman.

my scan shows more clots inside my womb. which I should pass naturally in the next few weeks with medication. as for how I feel. relieved to know what to expect. once I'm better and not emotionally drained. I am writing a letter to the clinic with my partner. I hope no one else ever has to go through with this

Oh love, no wise words, but a gentle hug from an older woman you've never met. You will get through this. You're strong, stronger than you think, even if you don't feel it. Your little boy has a very fabulous Mummy .

Good luck op! I hope that you start to feel better soon.

You honestly won't feel like this always!

Another hug from someone who has been there.

You've been treated appallingly, op. I'm in my 40s, so my friends and I have had plenty of life experience and several terminations between us. Not one of us has had such shoddy treatment - I really don't think this is the norm at all, at least not in England.

The feelings you have are understandable. Not every woman suffers as much emotionally, and that's understandable too. But it's very early days. From discovering you're pregnant to the termination, with all the hormonal ups and downs, it's bound to be exhausting. You've made a brave decision - I sincerely hope (and fully expect) that one day you'll be able to look back and understand that. Just as I did.