Pregnancy post-MC, bring your cake but no more wine or tightie whities - Totally's Grads continued part 3....

[clareanna]

Alba- your wish is my command!!

Popping on before I call it smoggy to say all the best to jolls and muser for tomorrow

meita running up and down the stairs looking after a poorly mum did it for me! Best of lick with the waiting game...

Call it smoggy?! Bloody predictive testing! Meant all it a night...!

Anybody there? Need some hand holding.
Finally had sex with dh last night after 8 weeks abstinence... But have had really heavy bleeding. I have a friable cervix so know that I am prone to bleeding during pg- but have never experienced it this badly. Continued to bleed through the night and still this morning, but less now and getting darker which is good.
Mw has told me to rest and monitor it and will call back this afternoon. Feel so silly. Got a hellish day at work and as I'm in consultation for my job due to redundancies at the mo, I haven't told them I'm pg yet. Just don't know what excuse to make as to why I can't come in.
I'm sure all will be fine- I'm just having a total panic.
Good luck again to jolls anduser x

Clareanna - personally I'd probably go to my EPU. Bleeding really freaked me out even though I know it's a normal part of pregnancy for many women. I went along twice with bleeds and both times felt so reassured to be told the cervix was in fact closed. You aren't being silly.

Jolls - big hugs and hand squeezes for you girl

Alba - hope all goes swimmingly today

Meita - best of luck with the pineapple!

Sorry muser - meant to say fingers crossed for you too!

Oh Clareanna, you're not being silly, I'd be petrified... BHs and round ligament pain sent me running to the midwife for reassurance, bleeding and I'm sure I'd be into the day assessment unit like a shot. Though it does sound like it's your friable cervix and probably all just fine, you need a professional to confirm that for you and set your mind completely at rest. As for work, I'd just tell them you're not well, which you're not. You don't need to tell them exactly what's wrong, and they shouldn't ask. If they do, gynaecological problems usually invites no more queries, but if you think it's just a day, an upset tummy may be easier (kind of true, just not in the way they think). I hope the bleeding stops soon and you get some reassurance and much needed rest today.

Jolls and Muser, thinking of you both, I know how petrified I was for 12 week scan. Wishing you lovely happy news.

Meita, wow, so close to due date now! I hope you have something lovely planned for tomorrow, I remember I planned lunch with a good friend for my due date with DS (she would have been happy with last minute cancellation!) and I was so glad of the distraction, I went another 13 days after that! I hope you don't wait quite so long

BUnder, your 12 wk scan date isn't on the list -- but it's this week isn't it? fingers crossed for you

Liahgen, you've been very quiet, as has Osch, hope you're both hanging in there and doing ok, did you get your early scan Lia?

Dorcas, are those pains a bit better today?

SamB and Unbuffy, wishing you both good days today

Magic, another week completed!

TFLS, thanks for popping in, happy all well, don't stay away for so long next time!

and here's the list, just so I namecheck everyone, not up to Meitas fantastic catch ups!

Monday's list

Meita - baby#1 - (not telling) ? 39+6 wks, due 17th August
Boodleboot - baby#3 - 1DD {10} 1DS {5} - 35+5 wks - due 12th Sept
TFLS - baby#1 - 34+5 wks, due 23 Sept
LeeWT - baby#2 (DD1 2yrs) 34+5 wks, due 30th Sept
Louisesh - baby#1, 33+3 wks, due 1st Oct
Effilump - Baby#5, 31+2 wks, due 16th Oct
SamanthaB123 baby#3(2x DD's 11 & 9 yrs) 30+5 wks, EDD 20th October
Unbuffy - baby#2 (1 DD) - 25+2 wks EDD 27th November
HappyGirl - baby#1, 23+5 weeks, EDD 8th December
Zayja - baby#1, 23+2 wks, EDD 11th December
Goodluckbear - baby#1, 22+2 wks, EDD 18th December
Malteser1981 - baby#1, 22+2 wks, EDD 18th December
Gilda - baby#1 - 21+2 wks, due 25th December
BunnyBaby - baby#3 - 21+2 wks, due 25th December
LucyT66 - baby#1 21+2 wks EDD 26th December
sparklyrainbow - Baby#1 20+4 wks EDD 30th December
AlbaDeTamble - baby#2 (DS 2) - 20 wks EDD 3rd January - next scan today
toomuchteaching - baby#1 19+5 wks EDD 5th January - next scan 17th August
Redheadgal - baby#1 19+3 wks EDD 6th January 2011 - next scan 20 August
diggingforvictory - baby#4 (DS 1) 18+2 wks EDD 15th January
WestYorkshireGirl - baby#1, 17+6 weeks EDD January 18th
Dorcas111 - baby#1, 16+3 weeks, EDD 28th January
Clareanna - baby#2, one DS, 14+2 weeks ADD 3rd Feb 2011 next scan 1st October
LilRedWG - baby#2, 1DD, 13+5 weeks EDD 14th Feb
Muser - baby#1, 12+1 weeks, EDD 27th Feb, Next scan today
BUnderTheBonnet - baby#2, 1DD 11+6 weeks 1st March
Rayeraye - baby #2 one DD 10+2 weeks scan 12th August
Northerngoldilocks - baby #1, 9+4 weeks. EDD 17 March, next scan 3 Sept
Magic8ballhastheanswers babies #3&4 9 weeks EDD 20th March 2011 Scan 8th September
Liahgen - baby#6 8+4 weeks EDD 15th March
Hopefully - baby #2 7+2 weeks EDD 2nd April
Osch - baby #? 5+6 weeks EDD 10th April
Naitimum - baby #2 1DS 5+2 weeks EDD?

The babies are arriving! Huge congratulations to:
Totally with daughter Faith Juliet, 9lb5oz born Tuesday 16th February 2010
Amyboo with son Matthew James, 4.714kg (10lb3oz) born Tuesday 30th March 2010
Hoops with son Benjamin Scott, 7lb4oz born Friday 2nd April 2010
Memorylapse with daughter Olivia, born Friday 16th April 2010
Becky78 with son Thomas Christopher born 22nd May - 9lb 1oz

We share the pain and mourn the loss with:
Jollster, Cheepz, Freezing, BarrenBrook, MsJL, LadyBee and Moofold

right off to get DS to use the potty again he's doing brilliantly, but does tend to forget if he's busy doing something...

oh, and Clareanna, I remember you saying your feedback from work assessment centre day was top marks, so do try to bear that in mind and not worry about not being in today, hard to do, but just reminding you that your feedback says that's all going swimmingly, it's ok to be off work whilst you're not well, they won't hold a day or two against you.

Morning ,

Clareanna I hope the bleeding is subsiding now, I would be terrified and completely understand. You definatly shouldn't go to work and should take is easy for the next couple of days. I agreee with Alba, if you say it's a gyne issue no-one will ask the details.

Good luck for the scans today, fx for good news from everyone.

I'm not having a great time here...I have been experiencing pain at the top of my bump on the left hand side. It hurts virtually all of the time and feels a little like a burning feeling and a little like I want to itch it. Itching doesn't help though as the itch seems to be under the skin? I have read about serious issues associated with pain on the right side at the top but can't find anything about the left side. It also hurts in my back behind where the pain is - at the bottom of my ribcage. I can't sit at all really and standing hurts too. There are some positions that I can get into lying down but after a while it become painful. My sleep is really disrupted and I am waking up because of the pain frequently. I called the midwife and am off to see her later this morning. It didn't help my peace of mind that the baby was quite quiet yesterday. She was wide awake last night between 3 and 5 am though - I was very reassured and not remotely bothered that I was awake for ages - it was such a relief! I am hoping it is either a rib problem that can be treated by an oesteopath or the baby in an awkward position. I feel pretty worried though and and am miserable because I can't really 'do' anything.

Sorry, that was a bit long and all about me...

Quickly dashing in to wish Muser, Jollster and Alba well for their scans today.

Clareanna I hope things have settled down. Of course worrying for you. Pesky cervix throwing a strop after feeling neglected? Re work, I know I should listen to this myself, but it IS only a job. Look after yourself first!

(Rushes back off to bloody stressful job... I've already been shouting at my screen this morning, luckily am in an office by myself today. Repeats after self, its only a bloody job, its only a bloody job...)

Jolls and Muse good luck today ladies. Big hugs I know how scary it is xxx

Be back later to catch up properly as on craptop, Clareanna I hope things have settled for you x

and Alba!!!!! Sorry!!!

Good luck Muser, Jollster and Alba for scans today. Fx all goes well.

Clareanna - I agree with the others. I'd make an appointment with EPU, just for some peace of mind.

Sam123 - that pain sounds awful, but how reassuring that the baby was wide awake from 3 to 5. As you say, maybe it's a rib problem or something. Have you spoken to GP or MW?

Waves to everyone else. Hope this is a good week for all. I'm off on holiday on Sunday and I just can't wait. xxx

Alba thanks for reassuring me yesterday- the pains are a bit better today although still getting twinges. Also, I got up this morning and my tummy looked almost flat, despite it having been quite a definite bump for ages and I still can't feel the baby move- wail!!!! I know I am being ridiculous and probably need some kind of scaly marine creature applied with great force to my face...
Anyway, good luck with your scan today- and everyone else going for one too. Jollster, how are you doing? I've got fx for you all.
Clareanna, I know how terrified you must be feeling, I agree with others that going to get checked out might make you feel better than just sitting and home waiting. Why don't you go to A and E? The fact that this happened after sex and you know you have a friable cervix is encouraging though as it sounds like that is exactly what has caused it and therefore nothing to do with the baby, but that doesn't stop it being frightening I know. Take care of yourself.
Hi to everyone else too x x

Clareanna I agree with what everyone else has said.

dorcas baby has probably just moved. Try not to worry.

Scan is all done and everything is good. Very very happy! It took AGES because first my bladder was too full. Then when I had a pee baby decided to stand up so the sonographer couldn't do anything. She sent me away for a walk. Came back, baby now in a position where she could measure size, but not do nuchal.

She prods and pokes. Baby refuses to move. I jump up and down. Baby refuses to move. In the end she gets the internal out and that solves the problem. That all took an hour!

Everything looks grand, EDD remains 27 Feb. And we got amazing pics from the internal. Hooray!

Jolls hope to hear good news from you soon.

terrific news Muse - you must be floating... my scan not til 3.30, so not back til much later after collecting DS from nursery.

sorry meant to also say, yes Clareanna I would go to EPU too. Hope all ok with you, another darned fine reason for avoiding the sex if you ask me

Muser great news :) Very exciting and glad you got lots of pictures!

Try not to worry Dorcas, Muse is right, baby has probably just moved and at 16 weeks still quite diddy, so if faces inwards you wont feel anything. But if you are worried call you midwife, don't sit an panic and worry yourself mad as it wont do either of you any good.

How are you feeling now SamB - what did the midwife say? Clareanna how goes it? I really hope things have settled I know how scary bleeding is, rest up like the midwife has told you and seriously don't worry about work, redundancy or no redundancy honestly YOU AND BABY ARE MORE IMPORTANT.

Meita how was the pineapple??

Alba is your scan this afternoon?

Unbuff how are you feeling now? Have things calmed down a little? Keep popping in wont you? Know what is like to be down in your boots so don't keep away xxx

Hi to Lucy Gi1da Redhead and anyone I have missed.........!

I was craving coleslaw on Friday BIG TIME, so went to Tesco just to get some. Bought the biggest Tesco finest one I cound find to satisfy my craving which worked. I just opened the fridge and had to bin it as the thought of it made me wanna The smell of the bread bin makes me wanna puke too! What is that about?!?! I feel fat as a house today

Lovely midwife called me first thing so am seeing her for my booking in on Friday, plus she said I WILL stay under her wing throughout and I will still see the second trimester loss consultant along side the twins bod....Phew!!!!

Great stuff muser, it's so nice isn't it? I loved it. And fingers remaining crossed til we hear back from Jolls and Alba, I really hope all is well. I'm just starting to get nervy about tomorrow too. Eeek.

clareanna hope you're doing a bit better now, and that you get the reassurance you need, I too would be heading to the EPU, but keep in mind that you know you have a good explanation for it. And as for work, try not to let it stress you. Will be thinking about you!

So I've had a ridiculous morning, woke up to discover a wet patch (sorry TMI again) and then just freaked out because I think my boob leaked... and yes only one. I know it's normal, and probably a good sign etc. but it's really creepy and just made me burst into tears do a big "sob, sob, what if you don't fancy me anymore, sob, sob, I want my normal body back, sob, sob, what if you think I'm gross, sob" performance for my DH. Of course I don't actually not want this to be happening, but it's a bit much to get my head around, it's a bit creepy! Does that make me crazy?! Probably!

Muser - great news!! So chuffed for you lady, that's great, you must have a massive grin now!!

Jolls and Alba - fingers crossed for you guys, good luck - I guess you're there now Jolls....

Clareanna - that sounds like it must have been really scary, hope you are resting up ok and don't worry about the work thing, like Magic said, you and the baby are more important than work.

Sam - hope your visit to the midwife is reassuring, that sounds really painful and I hope it resolves itself quickly.

Hi to everyone else, hope the Monday afternoon brings cookies to you all (I just ate two, the baby told me to do it).

xxx

clareanna been lying in the bath worrying about making a joke... trying to make light of a worrying situation, NOT belittling how worrying bleeding is. Just wanted to clear that up before I go... .

Congratulations Muser! In hospital at the moment, might be a problem with the cyst. Feel a bit weepy . Will report back later, SB

Just dashing in as saw Jollster on the active list - guess you're there now but I've got all my fingers and toes crossed for you my dear.

Alba - I think you're due a scan today as well. In which case, all my fingers and toes will remain crossed until we hear back from you as well.

Great news Muser - so pleased for you.

Clareanna - I'm sure all is well but the worrying is hell. It does feel like a huge emotional rollercoaster. Big hug.

Dorcas - I'm sure the baby has just moved. I had a really erratic pattern of movements for ages which isn't that helpful for the stress levels!

Unbuffy - I'll post properly later but be patient on yourself. I think (and big apologies if I've got this wrong) that you posted about panic attacks a while ago - and I meant to reply and say I'm a fellow anxiety sufferer so we can hand hold through all this xxx. I try to remind myself that we're bound to feel worse when we're so tired and try to switch off emotionally and tell myself I can deal with how I'm feeling tomorrow. Hope you're doing OK today.

Meita - keep looking for news from you if that pineapple is working! Prams seem as complicated as buying a car - far too much choice! Just realised that tomorrow is your due date - wow. Thinking of you daily! Can you tell your other half to post as soon as there is news???

Sorry to dash but meant to be working. Will come back properly later.

love to all.

Sorry just saw SB's post. Sending you virtual choc chip cookies and a big hug.

Oh no, SB, that's not good, hope you're being looked after well. And you don't get the hideously insensitive midwife I saw at the antenatal clinic this morning...

Baby fine, all organs present and correct and measuring well for dates. Wriggled all through the scan, reassuring for me, hard work for the sonographer!

But ante-natal clinic another matter had been referred because DS was SGA/IUGR and low fluid right at the end of the pregnancy, so need to have growth scans sooner to pick it up in case this happens again (no chance of going 2 weeks over again, I don't want to, and they probably won't let me). Never been to the hospital antenatal clinic. Same place as scan, separate reception, you have to check in there first, which I duly did, to be told to have my scan then go back to them, which I duly did having been to the loo in the long wait.... To be told by them they wanted a sample I gave them my little pot as I'd guessed I'd likely need it and brought it with me, to be told that wasn't good enough, they needed a mid-stream sample I said it was midstream, what was the problem it was fine for usual midwives, and I couldn't produce them a sample there and then as I'd just been, at which point stroppy midwife appears and insists I try, in one of those grey hospital container things, and frogmarches me to the appropriate loo... (DH was waiting at the far side of waiting room, so missed this) as soon as she got me into the clinic area I burst into tears and screamed at them that not only could I not there and then as I'd just been, the last time I was made to produce a sample in one of those, when I'd just been so couldn't (IYSWIM), I filled it with blood, it was during miscarriage, at the same place, just before ERPC. I sobbed and shook, sat down, got no sympathy from any of the hospital staff there who all just stared... finally stroppy midwife grudgingly told me she'd take my little pot, and then two minutes later insisted on taking my blood pressure. 140 over something sky high for me, unsurprisingly, whilst making me read some laminated card about the antenatal clinic, I have no idea what it said, all I can tell you was that it was shaking uncontrollably in my hand and I couldn't focus.
Finally sergeant major stroppy midwife dismissed me to wait for the dr. Went back to DH, told him through my tears what had happened and we agreed that we'd raid the savings and get a private midwife and have private growth scans...

Registrar was actually sweet. I told her what happened, and that I didn't want to go back to the clinic, I also told her I was happy to self refer privately for growth scans at KMI and see usual midwife at Dr's surgery, and would only be back if any problems indicated. I also wanted a homebirth -- all of which she agreed to and she put in my notes. Noted BP reading was whilst I was upset, though she didn't write down why (funny how they always manage to keep patient complaints off the notes). I hope my complaint does get followed up. She also re-did my BP, back to a more normal 120/60. Rather proving my point as to how much they'd upset me.

Hoping my lovely community midwife will be happy with this plan -- in which case I'll be able to downgrade private midwife plan to a doula instead, but need someone with me who I know will be by my side and sympathetic to my situation just in case the need does arise to go back to the hospital. Not the first unpleasant experience there, so I'm praying this child grows well and arrives on time so I never need see the place again...........

Phew, sorry about that, rant over.

Jolls my fingers are tightly crossed -- I think I'm late enough to post now and you won't read my rant till after your scan's all over........

jolls I'm just rather taken by the fact that you were thinking of me whilst in the bath! No offence caused- you read my mind thinking of you too while I lie on my bed... Fx for you x

samB thinking of you- you did the right thing to see the mw- hope the cyst settles down

muser yay !!!! Can you believe it?! So chuffed for you

alba sorry they were so insensitive - poor you - must have ruined the experience a bit. NEVER heard the mid stream thing before?!

Thanks for all your thoughts and kind words. Bleeding has stopped but feeling tender. Have had scans at 6 9 1 and 3 weeks so think I will just be positive and pay for a private one in a couple of weeks ( you can tell the sex at 16 weeks can't you?!)