Pregnancy post-MC, bring your cake but no more wine or tightie whities - Totally's Grads continued part 3....

[clareanna]

Alba- your wish is my command!!

Oh bugger I've just lost my post! Very sorry am struggling to look at mini screen, don't have energy to re-type it all. More exhausted now than I was in T1, what happened to blooming??? Magic delighted to see you, congrats again. Woot woot to Alba's ds2-2b iyswim! Meita wow, nearly there!

Hellos all around, hope everyone is okeydoke

Great news Alba has your pain gone now from your slip the other day?

Sparkly I have had crazy dreams in all my prev pregs and they have lasted though most of them.......although they become fewer as time goes on as you can't sleep due to peeing 6 times a night!

WYG I think cramping throughout is a given as you grow and stretch but if you are in any way concerned or worried call your midwife. Don't forget that you are also more prone to pulls and strains as pregnancy hormones have a softening effect on muscles and ligaments.

I am bloody shattered Gi1da I don't remember being this cream crackered with my DD1. My body is like lead!

Hi to all the other ladies, please be patient with me while I get to know you as I have the brain capacity of a gnat at the mo!

Evening

Someone asked where I went for my 4d scan - it was The Birth Company - this is the link: www.thebirthcompany.co.uk/

Hope everyone is well, having said that I would be diligent and name check all summer I haven't even read the thread properly today - sorry, hope I haven't missed something crucial that I should comment on!

Absolutely exhausted here, end of term and start of third trimester. A bad combination. I can't believe I have to go back to work for four weeks in September, why, did I ever think that was a good idea? I'm starting to get a little anxious about the actual birth part too. I am beginning to think about hospital bags and birth plans, but haven't actually done anything about either yet. I'd probably need to do some shopping so that I have the stuff to pack in a bag actually!

Nesting is taking hold here too. In spite of the tiredness I am tidying and reorganising anything that stays still for more than about 30 seconds. Pregnancy is a delight isn't it!

Hope all well, SB x

Hi ladies.

Sorry I've been a bit lot absent recently, end of term (how many teachers are there here!?) and we've just been on a lush mini break to South Wales. Lovely news on the new joiners, welcome, scans, getting to term, and little boy. And ladybee hope you're doing ok, sorry I've missed you, have been thinking about you though.

So news at my end... 16week appointment went well, hb heard, lovely. Then, on Monday, on the minibreak I went for an Indian head massage (amazing, totally the most relaxing thing in the world ever, I think I should have one every week now!) Anyway, was lying there on my back while my face steamed, and all of a sudden... a little bubble pop! It happened 3 times and was so unlike anything else that I'm sure it was the bambino. I think because I was so relaxed, and not hungry, or full, or thinking about stuff, or trying to fall asleep it worked. Nothing since, so am starting to think I imagined it, but it was amazing at the time. Otherwise all quiet on the 17week front, except the jean unbuttoning is becoming more frequent!

Sorry for lame lack of name checking... it's nice to back though. Sleep well everyone.

Hey WYG - that sounds like a bit of stretching and whatnot, I've had similar all over my abdomen at one point or another (yesterday was down the right hand side!) - but if it doesn't go away after a while then might be worth just checking it out. I'm taking the view that aches and pains are all ok as long as they disappear after a few hours/don't get really bad or severe.

Got locked out of my house yesterday, DH is out of the country, no-one else has keys, stood in the street crying like a lunatic . But I'm back in now....

xxx

Alba and Samantha great news on your scans

WYG I had similar a few weeks ago, MW said it was organs moving etc.. I agree with GLB if they don't go away I would get it checked out.

Toomuchteaching that definitely sounds like baby bubbles to me!! Congrats!

Not feeling so great here, 21 weeks yesterday and suddenly got all nauseous again and same today. I don't mind in the slightest but haven't had this in 4 weeks so just a bit worried and just totally exhausted. have had a funny pain or two down my right pelvic side as well so I think if i'm still like this tomorrow I might ring my GP. Hopefully all okay, have had some baby bubbles today though so hopefully bambino is okay.

Other thing is i was so nauseous this morning i opened the window in here to get some air (we are on 2nd floor of an office building) but then lots of smoke wafted up from the downstairs smoking area which is a bit away but the wind must have moved it, worried now about baby having breathed that in for a few mins. really hope it's okay.

sorry i'm just a bit of a worried happy girl today.

Sorry for the absence - I've just been lurking I'm afraid.

Sickness/exhaution and light-headedness are still going strong and I had my dating scan today which puts me a few days ahead of my dates, so if I could be updated on the new list I'd appreciate it. I am now 11+3 and due on 14th February.

Hi everyone, had a blow today, will copy and paste post from TTC thread below.

Hope you all progress nicely and everything works out for you all. With a bit of luck I'll be back here, for good, some time x

Hi everyone, got bad news today. Had been feeling decidely anxious after the small for dates news at the scan last week. I was driving myself insane and couldn't wait until the next scan next week so booked a private one today. Unfortunately worst fears confirmed, no heartbeat anymore. I think I knew in my heart all was not well, not a jot of morning sickness. Although it wasn't a shock its still hard to deal with, haven't stopped crying.

As we were at a private hospital we need to go to EPU tomorrow to get re-scanned (awful thought) then talk about what to do. Last time my MMC was found at 12 week scan and I went for the charmingly named ERPC. Consultant today said he thought medical management might be suitable as bean so small. Does anyone have any experience of this to share? I need to decide at 9am tomorrow. I am loathed to wait since my stupid body didn't tell me for over 4 weeks last time so think I may need intervention

Hi all lovely to hear more good news about scans....Now 31 weeks and 6 days soo when the list is updated if i can be ammended thats great!!!!

Struggling now at work started with back ache,constipation and feeling occasionally breathless.....Not whinging but...... Work is starting to get quite waring.I think ,only 6 weeks to my AL and mat leave....Woo Hoo!!!!

Had my accunpuncture session yesterday, lovely and yes i too have had an indian head massage BLISS1!!!

Sorry for not name checking but my memory's also suffering.......

MEITA OMG look at where you re at!!! Bet you can t believe it?

Hi to all , take care X

Sorry MOOFOLD X posts!!!!

Sorry,sorry,sorry.I have had both medical management and an ERPC.... I personally found the ERPC less stressful and an aid to helping me start my grieving process.I took 1 tablet 2 days after my MMC was diagnosed, nothing happened,was admitted to hospital 2 days later had a pessary and 2 more tablets and didn t start bleeding to about 6 hours later the whole process took about 6 days of bleeding with 2 speculum examinations!!! [mmmm nice.... and this is from me who performs speculum examinations daily!!!].Found it not too painful bit like a heavy period but didn t like i could see what i was passing.

This was my experience and yours maybe totally different .....Take care and hope you reach the best decision for you XX

Moo I'm really sorry, take care of yourself. I read your post on the other thread first - I mc'd naturally so can't offer any advice, I wish I could be more use. I am thinking of you, SB x

Moof, I am so very very sorry for your loss. Take care.

I'm so sorry to hear that moo. Such awful news. I hope you're looking after yourself.

Moo really sorry to hear your news. I had medical management and it was fine. Took tablet one day, and pessary following day, all happened in a few hours. Did not want to wait for it to happen naturally, and did not fancy the anaesthetic for ERPC.

Hope you're getting lots of cuddles and support (((hug)))

Moofold I'm so terribly sorry. Today's sounds really hard, the waiting and decision making is so heartbreaking. Thinking of you. I hope you get all the help and support you need

Moo, so very sorry. Hope you've got lots of support and reach the right decision for you. Thinking of you x

Oh moo - what a rubbish outcome, so sorry. When i had my MMC i opted for ERPC and very glad i did as it meant i could begin my grieving immediately and i wasn't in limbo. Good luck with whichever you choose.

So sorry to hear Moo, so unfair. Hope you are getting lots of support. Big hugs to you.

I went for the ERPC option after mmc although things had kicked off before then anyway. I wanted the ERPC because I couldn't bear waiting, but I guess choose whichever option you feel most comfortable with. So sorry you are having to make that choice.

xxx

Moof - so sad for you.

Oh Moof I can't believe it - I'm so so sorry mate. We've been through this pretty much together since jan,and I'm so sad to hear your news. Whatever you decide I hope you get plenty of TLC. Life can be so shite sometimes x

So sorry to hear your news moo. I know at this point you've probably made your decision already. For what it's worth, I chose medical management with my mmc at 12w a year ago. Took a pill and it started that day and took about two full days to slow down. It wasn't physically painful, much like a heavy period. What I didn't like was that it went so fast that, like louisesh said, I couldn't see what I was passing. Hope that whatever you choose goes as well as it can.

Thanks everyone for yoour messages and advice. I choose the ERPC again, which isn't until Monday. Couldn't bear the thought of the medical management not working then needing an ERPC anyway - or bleeding for weeks on end.

I'm also being referred to a recurrent MC clinic, which made me feel a little better. I'd hate to go through this again if there is something that should be done to stop it.

Good luck to you all with your pregnancies x

Good luck to you too moof, really hoping the recurrent MC clinic can help find a fixable problem. I know this is just one of the many things that can go wrong, but I was put on progesterone suppositories for my 1st trimester this time around and made it through that tough time. My mum is a nurse and said that she's had a few patients tell her that they found out that low progesterone was causing recurrent mc's. That is why I asked to take it, and they didn't even test, just said it can't hurt but it can help. Sorry about the ramble, just hoping it might help. Take time and be good to yourself while healing.

best of luck moof will be thinking of you on monday.

I have just had my scan date through for my 12 week scan - and it's not until the 13th Aug when I'll be 13+6. As I'm on hols at the mo and off away again on monday night I've booked a private scan on monday morning (I'll be 12+2) so at least I won't have to wait another 2 weeks.
Thinking of you all x

Moo Hope that you are ok, you are on my mind and I am thinking of you this weekend.

Clareanna Good luck with your scan Monday. It is so reassuring to see the baby when you can't feel it moving around. Are you having the nuchal test? When I had mine I though that my stats were really low 1:420 until I logged on to mn and found that most peoples were in the tens of thousands. I had a little panic and then realised that the chance in percentages was about 0.002% or something equally low. Sometimes statistics don't help at all! I'm find about it now and don't fell at all worried.

Sarahlou Where are you? I have missed your posts as we are at almost exactly the same stage together. I hope that you are ok and all is well.

I bought a 'lullabelly' (did I mention this before?) which was shipped from the US. You were it like a belt and attach your iphone/pod to it. It has a little speaker which plays the music to the baby. My baby seems to really like Mozart at the moment. I am hoping that when she is born Mozart will be familar to her and will help her to settle. You can't buy them in the UK at the moment but shipping only took 10 days.

Anyway, hope you all have quiet weekends and are all well. SB x