October 2010 babies?

[FutureMum]

Hi, I am a first-timer Mum to Be and Baby has been given a due date of 1 October. Very early dates still, so nervous and excited I cannot think about anything else! Planning not to tell family and friends till the first three months are over, but it's going to be tough!
Anyone else expecting an October baby out there?

Lizkin I love it! I've been telling myself exactly the same thing; that after the 12 week stage everything will be so much less worrying and I can really start to enjoy being pregnant I think we should continue with our possibly delusional beliefs as they are definitely good for our mental health

DillyDora glad you are having just as productive a morning as me It's good to self indulge mostofthetime once in a while! Anyway, I'm away for the weekend so this will be it for me for a couple of days.

DillyDora by the way I forgot to say that I think meditating is a great idea. I tried to do some when TTC to help me keep chilled. I'm planning on doing Yoga too now I'm pregnant but am not sure if they will except you in a Pregnancy Yoga class until after 12-14 weeks when things are more stable. I need to look into it.

Hi all...

Just wanted to ask a question about cramps... I'm six weeks now and the cramps seem to have come back with a vengance

they are in my back, I've never had them there before so it's quite worrying...

Is anyone else having cramps like these?

I heard that under 30, once you reach six weeks the chance of miscarriage drops to something like 7%... anyone else heard that?

X

Hi Lizkin great we have the same due date! I am sitting typing this with a giant packet of monster munch after swearing i would only eat organic food. Its good to know im not alone in that!

Still not feeling hungry, the thought of a chocolate bar is not nice at all right now. Eating more pasta ready meals than in the rest of my life put together. Thankful that I don't work as a teacher, my commute is short and my job desk-bound, don't know how I'd cope otherwise. But I haven't got a car and I am getting fed up with the frosty/snowy mornings day after day...
Excited that I have a date for scan in one month's time, hopefully it'll feel reassuring then.
Wishing all mums and mums to be (and dads, of course) a nice weekend!

PS. Did anybody read the story in Metro of the woman who's had a baby after 18 miscarriages? Got me so moved...

anythingwith Sorry Lovey, I don't know, hope someone will have something to say. Hang on in there.

ellabella I've been doing yoga for years but I do quite a strenuous form and I think I need to tone it down a bit now. Going to check with GP. The general advice is don't take up anything new and frantic in the first 12 weeks I think. After that I think antenatal yoga is a brilliant idea, makes for a nice strong mummy!

xx

Afternoon all!! I hope you are all well and that pregnancy land is treating you well. Personally I've come over all clumsey and have managed to spill the contants of everything I've picked up on myself today. I've been feeling quite well sensitive, I walked down the nappy aile in Sainsburies and starting welling up when I saw the newborn ones. My word, what these hormones do!!

Oh an another note, if you haven't been to the Docs to register as preggers then do so. It helped me get free dental treatment yesterday. Which was quite nice.

LadyT I'm sorry that you've felt that we've been a bit horrid to you, I appreciate what you were doing by pointing out the October thread on the antenatel board. I assure you no harm was meant.

Dillydora I know I feel like it's dragging a bit as well, I just want the next several weeks to get a move on so I can relax a bit. I'm still on edge and so is DH. It wasn't helped by the fact that my excited MIL decided to tell EVERYONE on the entire planet. We wanted her to keep it quiet, but there you go. Hey ho! I've also lost most of what little brains I had, don't worry about it. You're maring essays on depression, please don't let them influence you.

Ellabella BTW I love your name. I know what you mean, I start panicking everytime I don't 'feel' pg. Gosh we're driving ourselves mad aren't we. I hope you have a good weekend!!!

Lizkin Well done, I'm quite impressed with your will power.

FutureMum Yeah I read that story, I nearly cried at that one as well.

Anything Yeah I've heard that as well, the cramps could be your ligaments getting soft. I've had an achey pelvis and hips. I really hope this isn't a prelude to something worse.

Oh - Anything - just to say that I remember last time feeling no end of funny feelings and twinges in early pregnancy and they worried me to death. They turned out to be fine so just monitor them and obviously keep your eye out for other symptoms but at the same time don't forget, the whole area is growing and changing, increased blood flow there and all sorts so some aches and pains are only to be expected

I read that story today too in the Metro - very very moving - delighted for her.

Re the Yoga - I applied for Pregnancy Yoga but she said to wait until 12 weeks so still got another 7 to go!

The time is going so slowly but hopefully will be worth it in the end :-)

Have a good weekend!

Hiya ya'll! Sorry to LadyT if I caused offence to you; genuinely didn't mean to still, hope we can be friends [hopeful smiley] we have the same due date! Not met anyone else with the same one yet... Didn't know you had a DD too; hope it's not too challenging and you're not too tired etc. I wouldn't worry too much about not being able to pick your DD up later on in pregnancy; you can still cuddle her on the sofa and she'll feel loved.
Went to the maternity thingy today to book my booking in appointment (actually, we were already at the hospital because DH tore an ankle ligament playing bloody football so I thought I'd kill 2 birds with one stone, as it were). We went to sit in the day room to wait for the midwife and I came over all teared up all of a sudden, it just came crashing down in 6ft high letters; 'YOU ARE GOING TO HAVE A BABY'. Obviously, I have known this for a while, but I guess it takes a visit to get things going. The midwife was the nicest person ever and so sweet.
I wanted to call my Mum and tell her, but had a few problems there lately... Ever since the initial reaction, I've felt like she's disappointed in me somehow and when I call or text, she doesn't want to talk about it with me. She hasn't asked how I'm feeling, she just mainly talks about work, the weather etc. We've bever been mega close, but I thought things might work out better than this. It makes me feel so sad all the time and I really don't know where to go from here I'm sure it's a different thing for her to adjust to, and I'm trying to be patient but... I think about it a lot and it's really starting to hurt now. I don't suppose anyone has any words of advice or comfort at all? I'd start up another wall post, but I feel rather at home with you all
apologies again to LadyT; hope there's no hard feelings, genuinely didn't mean it that way and to be honest I'm not going to blame it on a hard day at work or anything, I'm just tired tired tired and I've got no excuses apart from needing a bloody good whinge at something xx

hi girls, how r u all??

o jazz sorry to hear ur mum not used to the ides yet,
all i can say is as time goes on u will totally forget how u r feeling now as ur mum will b so different wen ur either further along or baby arrives, when u r preg its the centre of ur world,
but sometimes we forget its not the centre of other peoples world, u kinda get the feeling they r bit like well got ages yet what the fuss about etc!

i told my 2 'best mates' the other day

number 1 very happy 4 me altho she is desperatly trying 4 no 2 herself so could tell she was holding back a bit!
i to am hoping to do bit of preg yoga after 12 wks.

anyone planning a holiday b4 26 wks??
ellabella we r 7 wks tomorrow yipeeee!!!!

now have a family thing nxt fri the family (dps) r big drinkers and safe to say will def b noticed that i am not drinking.... key the excusses!!!

number 2 been single 4 ten yrs and desperatly wants to settle down etc, she said 'oh great, did i tell u we have moved buildings at work!!' so i was fucked off to say least!!

Jazzie Great news about your midwife, it's lovely when they're nice and it makes the whole process seem a lot less daunting doesn't it.

Regarding your Mum, I can empathise a little bit. My relationship with my Mum has never been the greatest in the world and at times has been a bit horrific. Recently though, it has improved. We're not bestest friends foreverest but at least we talk now even if it's only about the superfiscial stuff.

It could be that your Mum actually doesn't know what to say to you, or that she doesn't want to upset you by saying something that she shouldn't. Can I ask if its her first Grandchild?

I know it hurts and I'm not going to try and say it doesn't matter because it does. I know you want her to be excited, who doesn't. If it does carry on, do you feel that you would be able to ask her 'why don't you ask me about the bean?' and see if it opens up the conversation.

Also you said you feel like she's disapointed in you? Why would you feel like that? Do you feel like she has expectations of you that you haven't fufilled? If that is the case, then that is her issue and not yours. You are obviously doing alright for yourself, you have a decent job, a DH and a baby on the way. Its a very exciting time for you and when people (especially your Mum) don't share in that excitment it is like a kick in the proverbial.

Over all it sounds like it's a bit of a tough situation for you to be in and I'm sorry that you're going through that.

Whilst you are here though have a [hug].

Hi all, could I come and join you? Been on the other thread but goes waaayyy too fast for me to keep up and lots and lots of folk on there.

Due Oct 1st with no 2, less morning sickness this time round- though could be am a bit more hardened to it this time! Feel vaguely sick all the time, but not as if am about to be sick in the next 5 seconds, thank god. Lots and lots of cramping here too, so really pleased lots of you having that too.

Sophie we've just booked some hols! Can't wait, went to the Canaries last time, what would have my nightmare hols pre being pregant (very comfortable- read old- hotel, with not much to do) but sleeping and swimming and pottering about was just bliss. Definately do something nice if it's your first and you can afford it. This time we are going to a toddler-tastic place, will be less relaxing but some sunshine much needed!

Hello to all!

Jazzy forgeddaboudit! 'Tis all gone.

But I am sorry your Mum isn't on board. I am afraid I must missed some earlier stuff as to why; why on earth wouldn't she be proud of you? Please don't let it spoil what should be a lovely time...especially as I bet you anything she comes right round in time and any worrying you have done will have been for nothing. Can you have a chat with her about it or would that be too hard? Any other rellies who could help? Come on, I bet your DH is proud enough for three.

Welcome Effie!!!! There does seem to be a lot of us October folk around, was it a bad TV month in Jan/Feb???

nope, just a lot of snow days ;)

Yeah I'll go with that one, we had to do something to keep warm.

Effie! Welcome! Me and LadyT are due on October 1st as well so we're in the same boat as you
LadyT; Thanks for the encouragement; you're right DH is wonderful and as soon as we found out, leapt into action like superman himself and was generally fantastic. Basically, my parents came over and we told them a couple of weeks back. My Dad was very accepting and gave us his congratulations (he is normally the sticking point) but before he could even speak, my Mum went 'whhaaat? WHY?' in a really high pitched kind of way and then said 'but what about your career?' She then proceeded to phone me up at 8am the next morning (a Sunday) and ask me if I was going to quit my job and just what I was going to do for childcare and she couldn't possibly imagine how we were going to cope with being a working mother as she couldn't and I was clearly going to have to put it in some kind of Ukranian style nursary with metal cots if I wasn't going to quit my job. See what I'm up against? I really thought that hey, perhaps she's having a hard time with the whole change in role etc, but she hasn't called and her texts only ask me about the weather where I am. Sophie, I thought perhaps I was being a bit self centred and so I haven't said anything, but at what point do I say '...so do you want a scan photo?' or similar? I am just so worried that she's not on board at all when I need her the most, and that I keep feeling upset about the fact that MIL texts me once a week asking how I am; my Mum should have that position and I feel rather guilty talking to MIL even though when she rings on a Sunday, she tells me to call her whenever I like and to look after myself. So there is is! Golly, what a thread hogger I am! I ever so appreciate the love coming my way from you all though; so lovely to vent!
Hope you are all well, sending lots of calorie free carb and chippy tea vibes to everyone that fancies one! xxx
xxx

JazzMeister Well on Wednesday and Thursday I was eating like a P.I.G and was clockwatching wondering if I could hold off eating my lunch until noon. In fact yesterday, I wrote down what I ate and its SCARY.

Today, I am not so bothered. Have this feeling at the bottom of my throat, bit like when you have eaten too much. I still have eaten but didnt finish either of my cups of coffee, which is unlike me as I do like my caffeine, though have switched to caffeine free.

I still am not feeling tired, not more than usual, though I suppose once the BOC turn into a proper baybeee the torture fun begins.

In some ways I want to fast forward a few weeks as I want to get through this emotional first 12 weeks. Am thinking positive yet remaining realistic as none of knows what the future holds.

Husband and I are thinking we should wait til 12 weeks til we tell our parents. What have you all done? We are definitely not telling our friends before then.

Silver I've told people, mainly due to having to tell work etc. Told MIL who has now told the world, I wasn't too pleased about that one. Hey ho, the worlds goes on. To be honest I would have wanted to wait until 12 weeks if I'm honest. Enjoy it, it's your own special little time with this news.

HermesScarf thanks for posting. Not sure MIL would be able to keep it to herself and it will be around the family before we know it. I'd rather wait til 12weeks as its still early days and I my gut tells me to wait. So wait we shall.

Am feeling hungry again now!!! What shall I eat!! Maybe toast and butter???

silver Seriously don't tell your MIL, my DH has just had a text off of his best friend who found out because of my MIL, it's not good.

RedHerring I am with you on this. I am not telling anyone. Husband told a friend at his work as he was busting to tell someone and I, quote "have told the internet". He has sworn said friend to secrecy and this person doesnt know any of our friends/family, so I think its all safe for now.

Sorry that your MIL has let her excitement spoil things for you. Is DH denying it? How far are you?

Morning all!! How is all in soon to be bump land? I think I've been hit with the old preggers insomia, I woke up at 3am this morning and just could not get back to sleep. I was tossing and turning trying to get comfy, if I wasn't too hot I was too cold. Just simply couldn't make my mind up. Ah well, it just means the little thing is still there so I don't mind too much. I ended up watching Pride and Prejudice, so it wasn't all bad.

Silver Thanks for that, had a good old cry on DH last night. He is going to have a word today. I'm five weeks tomorrow, I feel like if I can get to six I may just relax a little. It seems like a good milestone to reach.

Morning all - must be quick - covert operations as the dss are here and they mustn't know the news yet!! Eek. Last night I finally slept - woohoooo! O the relief and now all I want to do is sleep, which is of course a nono.

Jazzie big giant love to you and indeed anyone else who's got less than helpful reactions. My Mum was not exactly sweetness & light but she has very severe depression so it's kind of expected and that helps - I know the reason. She's much better now - she's started knitting! And has told the whole world - grrrr! It's no fun at all if your mum seems less than happy about it out of the blue. So, keep your chin up, lovey, I hope it will get better.

Anyway, we're all thrilled for each other! So there!

Right, off out with the Sprouts. The sun is shining here which is great.
lots of love, have a great day all
xxx