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WEll we keep talking about it so here is a thread for all the TTC girls to get together and have a gab so we can keep trakc of each others pregnancies without invading different antenatal threads...lol

Wooo hoooooooooo well done to all on here.

missed you there george when is your scan? are you 19 weeks too? i have tried the constant eating thing, but to be honest i cant even open the fridge sometimes. i already got busted by someone at work who accused me of being larger than my usual self today! luckily not my boss who i dont want to know yet. he will go into a huge panic about me being away and i dont need that stress yet.

tescos stock 'feelgood drinks' in little glass bottles, stocked -in my tescos anyhow- along side the -not cold- cans of crappy coke/mini cartons of juice/etc. the lemon one helped me big time. and ice -plain ice- helps lots of ladies apparently. so hence me trying ice lollies. nice fruit ones and not e-numbers sort tho. also -strangely- dr feelgood drinks sold in some petrol stations too.

hi all
if we all have scans next week ish whether its first or second ones then should we start a new thread after that????????????
take care

Good idea Nemo. It does seem to be scan city next week!
Rom, I'm 19 weeks tomorrow (gulp!). It is amazing how time suddenly speeds up when you hit that 12 week mark. Still can't quite believe it's happening!
Anyone got any tips for me on how to stop eating like a horse? It's getting out of hand now with me eating crap all the time. I really have to do something

thanks for that dqueen - am off to tescos tonight to scour the shelves. worse than ever this morning, ugh [puke emoticon]. seriously dont know how i am going to get through today. dq - all the best with the scan today, thinking of you.

george - yay, 19 weeks. how cool is that! tips for not eating, ummmm....you can have some of my m/s if you like - that'll put you off! no, i dont think you should worry about the eating, just try and steer clear of the real junk if you can.

cadmum - how are you managing today, we are exactly the same stage so i imagine you are feeling blooming awful too.

nemo - nice to see you there, good luck with your scan too.

Hi, just wanted to call in and say hello to you all on this thread...

I'm so sad to hear Wendy's news - at least you know that many of us have experienced this and you are amongst friends on here...no question too silly.

All the best to everyone else with their pg's...I've had some excellent advice and support from lots of you from TTC to now

I am almost 15wks and waiting for the bloom...ahem...still nauseous but not too bad, still knackered but less that before, bad headaches and constant 'growing' pains! I posted a scan pic under member profiles (just testing...)...I can already tell I am going to be one of those mothers

Take care, teuch x

Hi all.

I hope that you are all well.

I have been avoiding posting my concerns because I didn't want to make light of Wendy's situation but I have copied my post from the due in March thread because I could use a little support from the been-there-done-that-crew...

Thanks for all your support! It does make me feel somewhat less alone just being able to write down my concerns:

I can't sleep... It is only 4:15 here and I have been up all night convinced that I am no longer pregnant. Wish I knew what to do...

There is no such thing as an EPU in this city and I already have a 'dating' scan booked for Tuesday... DH isn't home until Friday evening and I am wondering what I could even say to the GP if i dragged myself in earlier anyway. He would likely tell me that I need to relax and stop worrying (been there, done that 3 times...)

ARGH! I am no longer feeling sick (which really is the only bright side); my breasts are no longer in the least bit sore; I am only slightly tired because I have not slept a wink all night.

Really just praying that I miscarry naturally as I can't bear the thought of another ERPC...

if it can be of any help at all cadmum, I cannot tell you the number of times I resigned my self to not being pg, simply by how i felt. hang in there, all is more than likely to be fine. keep sending the beanie positive thoughts. every time you feel its all over, remember you have NO proof, and need to keep willing this pg on until you know different.

cadmum, i had exactly the same feelings as you when i was away on holiday - i woke up one morning and my boobs were frighteningly normal feeling, absolutely no soreness and i immediately panicked that i was no longer pg. i wasnt feeling sick at that stage so no reassurance on that front. i went around, not telling a soul, but feeling miserable as sin for at least a week (totally ruined my holiday). it was only when the sickness hit again and then i had my scan that i could stop thinking the worst. it is agony, and we put ourselves through hell - but dramaqueen is so right, you must try not to worry yourself more - please, because in my experience symptoms come and go, i'm sure there are hormonal surges and sometimes they ease off a little then come back. its not long 'til your scan hon. hang in there.

dqueen - how did your scan go? i will go and sneak a peak on your dec thread to see what news.

teuch - great to see you there, 15 weeks is wonderful. i shall go and find your scan pic

as for me, same old same old, actually only just made it home before vomming all over the bathroom last night. really grim. rang a midwife for advice and she said nothing you can do - just prepare yourself for having it up to 16 weeks! great!

Thanks DQ and Romilly. Will try to keep it all in perspective.
Really wish DH were home.

cadmum - i read in some book that if you find yourself getting panicked (and this specifically referred to worrying mothers during pregnancy) you must make a space for yourself somewhere in the house (bedroom or somewhere quiet) and in that space you are not allowed any negative thoughts - its your "calm" area. well, it all sounds v. new-agey and not really me, but i tried it - and weirdly it kind of works. knowing that you have to relax in that area seems to kick in somehow. i probably sound a bit mad, but anythings worth a go in my book!

Just wanted to let you know that I am OK. The ERPC was OK on Monday and had very little bleeding on Monday and Tuesday morning but seems to have got heavier since then. Worried incase there is still tissue in there that they haven't removed and I will have to go through this again. Did this happen to any of you after your ERPC?

Emotionally I am all over the place. On one hand this loss is not the same as when we lost Adam but it is still a loss and I really don't know how I feel half the time.

We are going to take some time out from TTC for a few months and try to come to terms with all that has happened over the last year. At this moment in time I don't know that I want to try again, maybe that will change with time.

Once again thanks for all you support both during TTC and since.

Look after yourselves and each other.

Wendy: I am sorry that you are bleeding more heavily. It all seems so unfair after what you have already been through...

I was reluctant to post advice about evacuation when you asked prior to your op because the procedure did not go as smoothly for me as it usually does and I did not want to fill you with more worry. Please, please keep an eye on the bleeding. If you are passing any clots or anything that looks as if it may be retained tissue take yourself up to A&E. I hesitated to follow this advice myself and narrowly escaped a blood-transfusion as a result. I expected to be sat at the hospital for hours being ignored but they treated me quickly and very kindly. By the time I dragged myself in my blood pressure was very low and my heart was racing at 140 bpm just trying to circulate what little blood I had left. Likewise if you have ANY sign of infection (fever, feeling unwell etc) get seen quickly.

Take care of yourself. I am so sorry that you are in this horrible, horrible place. I really hope that you find some peace and the courage to TTC again when both you and DH feel ready.

Please don't hesitate to keep the questions coming. We are all here to help each other.

Denise

wendy - its good to hear from you, was getting a bit worried about the silence. it is good the op. bit is now over. thought you might like to know that i had the exact same thing after erpc, the bleeding was light straight after and then got significantly heavier. i remember being worried and asking my gp if that was a bad sign, but my gp reassured me that it was normal, and the uterus would sometimes cause more blood as things shrunk back to normal. something like that anyway. so dont worry - and i also remember having to buy quite a lot of those hideous industrial strength sanitary towels for a couple of weeks afterwards. it is a gradual healing process. i am sure you wont need another op.

quite understand you wanting time out from ttc - i think i would need to as well. i also think it will do you and d/h good to have a mental break from it all. the whole thing is so draining. you have plenty of time wendy, you are much younger than me.

can i just finish by saying you have been such a great support to me and many others over the past 6 months and i am very grateful to you for that wendy. please keep in touch when you can, we will always be here if you do ever need us.

i have just read cadmums experience (poor you, sorry you had such a horrible time with it). i had clots for a while, but they did stop. i guess you will just have to judge whether it seems unusually heavy, but i have to say i think cadmum is wise to mention the fever - because that would imply an infection. if in doubt, call your gp like i did, they are usually quite understanding and prepared to see you quickly after an erpc.

Just popping to say Hi to wendy.
Glad to hear the op went ok, seems that you need to keep an eye on the bleeding though just in case, fingers crossed all will be ok though. As Cadmum says don't be embarrassed to get yourself down to A&E even if you don't think its anyhing.
I have been thinking a lot about you over the past few weeks and my heart really does go out to you. These tests in life just seem too much to bear sometimes don't they? I am sure that once you have some time out that you will be ready again to start the TTC journey.
Lots of warm, fuzzy cuddles, make sure you take care of yourself and DH xxxx

lovely to hear the rest of you ladies coming along niceley. Cadmum, hope the worry goes away for you, hang in there. xx
Willing myself to be joining you all soon, as i know you all are! My new acupuncturist is really lovely and has said that he hopes i feel better knowing he is there to help me get pregnant. Music to my ears at this point!!
Anyway thanks for the ongoing support xx

hi bella - yes we most certainly all are willing you here with us. so glad you are doing the acupuncture, a friend of mine swears it got her and several other people she knew pg. when they had been trying for ages - she kept urging me to go.

wendy - how is the bleeding today, and how are you feeling? i hope it is gradually easing off - or at least not any heavier.

dramaqueen - i couldnt find you on other thread yesterday when i looked, how did the scan go hon?

also george and nemo - is everyone away this week? i know munzie is, but also frizbe has dissapeared.

cadmum - how are you doing today? when is d/h back? not long 'til the scan now, although i know it probably seems ages off to you.

Hi Rom, I'm here again. I've been out & about with work again this week so not had much chance to catch up properly.
Hope you are OK Wendy. Can't help you on your bleeding, mine all seemed to come out in 1 go and then went again. My cycle took about a couple of months to go back to normal though. I think your body will tell you when it is ready to TTC again.
Lovely to see you too Bella, acupuncture now heh? It sounds like you can leave all your TTC stress with him for a while. I hope you are going on a lovely sunny holiday where you can make the most of prancing around in a bikini without the fear of someone harpooning you as they mistake you for a beached whale (Oh, yes, I've bought the bikini - my, how gorgeous I look now!!)
Cadmum, hope you are OK. I too stressed all the way to 12 weeks (and beyond). Every day seemed a life time and I was really struck with paranoia that something had gone wrong. In the end we had private scans done when I couldn't stand not knowing any more. Have you got anywhere over there that you can have them done privately? Good luck for Tuesday.
Teuch, can't believe you are 15 weeks already! Well done. Going to be nosy & find your piccy later.
Rom, how are you doing? I'm sorry you are so sick. God knows how you are coping with the tube. I've often panicked about where I would heave on a crowded tube train - urgh TMI, sorry!
How many weeks now?
DQ, still hunting you down. Hope everything is OK and went alright with the scan. Please let us know. xx

Thanks george...

Seems odd to be wishing that I felt sicker...

Pregnancy has a way of doing my head in, I guess. Tuesday will tell all, I suppose. Only 4 more sleeps or sleepless nights...

Hello all,

Cadmum - will be thinking of you on tuesday xxx

Sorry have not been posting lately, felt it best not to moan about my pregnancy with everything that has happened. And also have been busy posting nonsense of some of the news threads. Just posted a slightly confrontational one so am expecting a barrage of abuse but I just could not keep my mouth shut.

Love to you all and hugs to wendy xxx

ps - re tube, was on it today and as always did not get a seat despite my bump, do u think it is ok to ask people to give up their seats for me?

Thanks yingers.

Re the tube: It was always a mystery to me that even heavily pregnant with DS2 and with two children in tow 4&2 that commuters would rather have us fall on their laps (children really are like bowling pins on the tube) than offer a seat. DH has no patience for any of this rubbish. He would politely point to the sign with the pregnant woman/person holding a child/elderly person and smile. The person sitting there rarely kicked up a fuss about moving...

Best of luck. I never had the courage to ask.

hey george - sounds like you are working hard. i havent actually been going on the tube, i take buses instead (or cabs when i'm being naughty) - and mr. rom is being an angel and driving me in when he can.

yingers - i would try the evil glare technique, but if that fails (there are those that will bury their noses in their papers) then maybe you should say something - just say it very sweetly (something along the lines of "is there any possibility i could sit down i am feeling a bit dizzy?"!!) who could say no to that, lol

cadmum - really hope you are getting some sleep, you need it hon. there is another quote i try and remember that goes along the lines of "dont worry about things which you have no control over" - now i know that is easier said than done, but it does make a lot of sense to me!

DRAMAQUEEN - where on earth have you got to? please come and tell us all is well

hey ladies. all is pretty well...you can sneak onto dec thread to get the full facts....the scan was mostly good news and absolutely lovely to see. they found one 'soft marker', which is most likely nothing. but i'm just not very good at 'most likelys' still, on the positive side I do get another scan in oct, so another peek into belly beans life in there!
hoping all sickness eases on you early on guys, its very rough. but wont be forever.
hope youre all hanging in there and keeping your chins up! bella, hope youre okay, and checking in on us too. willing the new treatments to work ASAP!!

girls just got back from hols, hte PIL r down will post more tomorrow from work/when they have gone.