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12 week scan, worrying myself sick.

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TishTosh21 · 30/12/2009 17:44

Ive got my 12 week scan next Tues and i am just so so worried about it.

I keep thinking they will give me terrible news, ive had near to no symptoms at all and really worried i lost the baby weeks ago and i just dont know it.

Please can someone reassure me, has someone else had no symptoms but received good news at the scan?

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mrslurkalot · 30/12/2009 17:46

Oh yes, me, both times! For what it's worth, I don't know a single person who hasn't been convinced that they are going to be told that their pregnancy has just been a figment of their imagination! Try not to worry, I'm sure all will be fine!

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TishTosh21 · 30/12/2009 17:55

oh i really hope so, i know ive got know valid reason for worrying myself silly, i keep thinking though that if i think somethings wrong then something will be. Its just too hard to put to the back of my mind though, pregnancy is just full of hurdles to get over, i really didnt think it would be like this, i thought id sail through without a care in the world, fat chance of that!

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BusyMissIzzy · 30/12/2009 19:57

I was the same TishTosh, I just didn't "feel" pregnant. Was convinced there would be nothing there, but everything was great and we got some lovely photos. I'm almost 31 weeks now. I'm sure it will all be fine

thisparachuteisaknapsack · 30/12/2009 20:14

I had no symptoms at all with my 3rd. I felt like I knew what I was doing as I had already had 2 pregnancies with normal symptoms so I was convinced I had lost the baby. I even said something to the sonographer so she wouldn't feel bad about breaking the news.

peppapighastakenovermylife · 30/12/2009 20:56

It is normal to worry - we all do .

However missed miscarriage at 12 weeks really is quite rare - a quick google just suggested around 1%. On mumsnet it might seem like more as mums are more likely to post if there has been a problem than just to say 'scan was ok'. From that there is a 99% chance you are going to be fine!

Let us know how it goes

Fibilou · 30/12/2009 21:23

I have had very few "pregnancy" symptoms through the whole pregnancy - no nausea or anything else much. The only thing i did have were very sore boobs but those went at about 8 weeks.
I was convinced there would be nothing there (especially as I only did one test and we'd only been trying about 4 weeks) and that they would all laugh at me.
Baby is due in 3.5 weeks

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TishTosh21 · 31/12/2009 09:29

peppa I'm so glad u told me that statistic it makes me feel better knowing some real figures.

All of those who replied to my post thanks so much just a little reasurrance goes a long way. Congrats to those due soon I hope you have safe and short labours!

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TishTosh21 · 31/12/2009 09:31

Also I will keep this thread open to let u know how scan goes on Tues. Fingers crossed.

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laurabarker17 · 31/12/2009 10:52

I've got my 12 week scan in 10 days or so and thought I was the only one worrying! It's always a bit nerve racking to think they won't find anything. When are you due? I'm due late July. I'm sure your scan will go really well. I'm just so impatient for mine as I think it will seem more real once we see the baby!

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TishTosh21 · 01/01/2010 19:55

Im due middle of June laura everyone ive spoken to who i know has children have all said they were quite anxious about their 12 week scan so i know im not the only one, just feel like it sometimes.

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TishTosh21 · 01/01/2010 20:11

Sorry meant to put middle of July!

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Missus84 · 01/01/2010 20:24

I'm due end of July/beginning of August and am terrified about the scan too! It hasn't helped that my mum is busy telling everyone she knows about the pregnancy and doesn't seem to understand why I want to wait til after the scan so I know everything's ok.

I had bad sickness from about weeks 6 to 8, and really awful stuffy nose too, but the last week both symptoms have got much better. I'm convinced at the scan they'll tell me the baby has died. DP thinks I'm torturing myself unnecessarily and should just enjoy not being sick all the time.

Emster30 · 01/01/2010 20:36

As you know from the July thread I was petrified before my scan on Wednesday too Tish. I googled the stats as well and was reassured that the chances were low, 1 or 2%. Honestly if you've had no/minimal bleeding or cramping the chances are so, so good that everything is just fine.

I could feel my heart beating so loudly for the 30 secs while the sonographer was moving the thing aorund before she spoke - but the moment when she said she could see one baby with heartbeat has got to be one of the all time best moments!

It will be fine and a wonderful experience. Enjoy!

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TishTosh21 · 01/01/2010 20:37

God missus I have a really stuffy nose too! Its just congested all the time. Congrats btw on your pregnancy

Im exactly the same too thinking at the scan they'll tell me the worst possible news im so terrified but really quite excited at the same time. This will be the first time we will see our beautiful little bubba.

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Missus84 · 01/01/2010 20:42

Apparently the stuffy nose is a side effect from the progesterone in your system, so it's a good sign!

I have no reason to suspect anything is wrong really - no bleeding or cramping (though I did manage to convince myself that trapped wind was cramps the other night!). I'm really not normally an anxious type either.

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TishTosh21 · 02/01/2010 09:01

I'm glad I've got at least one symptom then. I'm not an anxious person either but only a few more days to go now til I find out

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Deemented · 02/01/2010 09:08

It's really hard, isn't it?

I didn't even know i was pregnant this time until i was 9 weeks and the Dr told me - i've had no symptoms whatsoever, so i was convinced that i'd had a MMC or something was wrong.

However, i'm 37+4 now...

Finnibin · 02/01/2010 17:56

I'm so relieved to have come across posts like these - I too am eagerly awaiting to have my 12 week scan (10 weeks at mo). I had fully convinced myself of one of two situations;

  1. Sonographer: 'I'm sorry but those belly aches were not wind and eating too much - you've lost the baby. If only you'd seen someone sooner....'
  2. Sonographer: 'Mrs F, sore boobs, 1 positive pregnancy test and a lack of AF does not mean you are pregnant...' Of course I've been to see the midwife and had blood tests, all coming back fine so I'm sure she would have said something if I wasn't pregnant, like 'let me introduce you to my counciller friend who specialises in neurotic women...'. But I'm coming to realise that whilst pregnant you can expect a whole lot of worry no matter what you do!
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TishTosh21 · 02/01/2010 21:49

Thanks deemented and finnibin Ive been trying to find a post like this for ages and couldnt find one so i thought why not just start one myself!

finn ive got both those scenarios going round in my head too, im now 12+3 and would like to think if anything awful had happened id know by now, but sadly not always the case. Then i keep thinking omg im thinking something bad is going to happen all the time so therefore it will actually happen.

And i thought you worried about your children once they had been born not before!

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stac14 · 02/01/2010 22:02

hey ladies

some of you I know from the july post. I too am so nervous about my 12 week scan which is the day after tish's I have had cramps all the way through but the docs say its growing uterous and stretching ligaments. I already have ds who is 10 but to be honest I cant remember what went on. I am clinging to the fact my boobs are still tender as the nausea has calmed down. Your stats have at least eased my paranoia a little lol.

Also had to make a new thread for the july posters the link is here hope to hear from you soon xxx www.mumsnet.com/Talk/antenatal_clubs/886417-July-Babies-Follow-on-from-Pukey-Tums-and-Burpy-Bums?msg id=18024871 All welcome to drop by and chat xxx

Yorky · 02/01/2010 22:16

I have been desperately nervous before THREE 12wk scans, and have been fine at all of them! With my first I had absolutely no symptoms and was expecting them to tell me it was all in my head. With my 2nd a friend had found a mmc at her 12wk scan a couple of months earlier which didn't put me in a good frame of mind at all, and this time I felt healthy and not pregnant. I am not one of these people who can 'tell' fro the day of conception!
I hope all goes well for you

TRL · 02/01/2010 22:37

TishTosh21, I sooo sympathise with you ... before my first 12 week scan, I was convinced (and somehow really scared too) that the sonographer was going to take a look and say, "You're a fraud. You're not pregnant at all." I was genuinely surprised, and quite tearful afterwards, that there was indeed a baby there, with a heartbeat, moving around ....

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TishTosh21 · 03/01/2010 10:23

Thats what im worried about yorky a mmc. Ive been trying to put it to the back of my mind.

TRL thats what i keep thinking too! Im glad these stories everyone has been telling me are successes though!

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Holmesr2 · 03/01/2010 19:40

Bless you, hope you are okay and yes a lifetime of worrying now awaits you as a parent!

I'm pregnant with my 2nd and felt pregnant but then after 2 weeks of finding out all symptoms went, had period type pains and spotting. Was convinced something had gone wrong and was completely prepared for the sonographer to tell me as such. Went for my scan and everything was fine, litle one was wriggling round like mad, heart beating and everything!! Am now 17 wks + 1 and worrying about the 18 week anomoly scan next week!

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TishTosh21 · 03/01/2010 22:24

Congrats on your pregnancy holmesr. I too am completely prepared for the sonographer to give me bad news, although good news would be much more appreciated!

I feel i should stop obsessing so much over this now and try to enjoy the pregnancy as best I can, after all it gets me free dental care and I dont have to do any heavy lifting

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