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[pumpkinpureeandghostlypearls]

I am suffering SPD (for the second time) and just need to vent without driving everyone else on my pregnancy thread mental. Not that they aren't supportive but I still have 20 weeks to go and I don't want to ruin their pregnancies by talking about mine!

Please come and join me so I don't feel so alone, and feel free to share tips if you have any....

Oh Sweetkitty, that sounds so miserable. But don't feel useless. You're cooking a baby, and that's a very useful thing to do!

I have to keep reminding myself that I'm not just a lazy good for nothing, and that being 8 months pregnant is painful and uncomfy at the best of times, even without SPD.

I'm just feeling like a numpty cos I can't carry on working. I had hoped to do another couple of weeks, but can't sit at my desk. Saying 'I surrender' is surprisingly hard!

Chin up love, not long to go.
xxx

Why do they make shops so big? I just popped to H and M because I couldn't find cheap maternity leggings online and got a parking space outside but have completely done myself in just walking round the shop. But i have got a new outfit (flowery smock top and white cropped leggings) which i wouldn't normally be seen dead in but is very comfy.I don't have too much trouble with driving (I think it depends on your height and your car)but getting in and out and doing up the kids seatbelts is awful.
sweetkitty if I were you I would use reins(sp?) for dd, I know some people hate them but at least you've got a firm hold.Hope you can drag yourself through the next 2 weeks. I've been suggested induction at 40 weeks as I'm over 40 but I can't say I fancy it.Let us know how it goes. I'm still toying with the idea of homebirth but I think I'll land up going in as that's what I did last time and it was fine.
whimsi I was in tears when I had to give up work early with dc1 but I didn't miss it.It was def the right thing to do.I left things in a bit of a mess as I couldn't manage to pack stuff away but my colleagues just had to deal with that.
Slow down parkj rest rest rest

Loo - tried the reins but you would have thought I was murdering her, she lay down on the ground and screamed. She is quite good at taking my hand though. My car is a huge 7 seater now and it's quite high up and heavy to drive.

I went out shopping this morning as well, had 2 cocodamols about 7am as I couldn't move this morning so they have kept me going, sometimes you just need to get out after being cooped up so much. The cocodamols make me drowsy and sick but if I time it right I can get over that and they still give me relief. I just hate taking them.

I'm a bit about the induction but just want to get the baby out now and back to normal.

Sweetkitty if you take the drugs with food you shouldn't get the sickness feeling!!!!

Ref reins I got my dd a backpack one little life I think they are called they do ladybirds/bumblebees etc so don't seem so much like reins ikywim? My dd is 3 in June so we haven't used them for ages but they were better than traditional reins! I got them in jl online I'm sure they were under £15!

It sucks I've spent most of today in bed as I over did it yesterday painting the downstairs loo at 8.5months pregnant wasn't my smartest move! I've got my section booked one week tomorrow and can't wait to get rid of the pain!

Butterscotch - painting ouch, thanks the painkillers are better with food I usually take them before my breakfast.

38 weeks today so have 2 weeks maximum of this to suffer

Hi everyone,
Kitty i think that maybe to get them to wear reins you need to start early so I think you might have missed that window.I agree with needing to get out, DH says not to bother as he'll do all the shopping but sometimes you just need to do some normal stuff.My car is a little one and I'm quite tall. I can't even think of getting into dh's as it's too high too sit into with my feet still on the ground.
Butterscotch STOP PAINTING! Rest.

Loo - you are probably right and the fact that DD3 is the most independent, fiery little madam I know. She doesn't like to be tethered in any way and thinks she is at least 4 like her sisters.

DP here today so easy day for me.

Glad you're sounding better Kitty. I too have my husband here 'working from home'. I'm about to get him to drive me to the hosp for my physio though. much more useful than his proper job.

Hi everyone. Went to see mw yesterday and got stuck on her couch. How on earth do you roll over on those things they're so narrow?I'm seeing the phys on monday so I hope she can straighten me out a bit. 29weeks, only 11 weeks to go and I'll be walking the dc to school again.
Kitty I thought my dd was going to be a fiery independent little thing when she was one and two but she's turned into the most unbelievably well behaved 3.11 year old. She's still very vocal and into negotiation over everything.

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Hi everyone the physio did manage to straighten me out a bit and although I'm walking very slowly and very short distances at least I can turn over in bed again. And I've got another appt in 2 weeks.We were supposed to be going on holiday in May but have decided to cancel as I won't be able to cope with the travelling. I'm feeling guilty about being sickymummy spoiling everyone's fun.

Thanks Feta I've been refusing to join facebook for a long time but maybe I'll give in for this one!Spd awareness is sooo limited. I talked to a woman last week who had 5 kids and had had spd 3 times. She said she was still suffering even though her youngest is 2. She'd been to the GP and had been told 'what do you expect if you have 5 kids' and this in an area where the local hospital does have a physio who only deals with spd cases and is really helpful postnatally.

Not sure if this question has been asked on this thread already, sorry if it has. I am 37+2 now and have been suffering SPD for about half the pregnancy, it's my first. Wanted to hear from any of you that have suffered this and been through a labour already.

How did you labour, what position, what pain relief and what was your pelvis like in the immediate days after delivery, etc etc? I am worried about how I'll cope when I can barely move from the sofa or bed without yelping in pain. Has anyone had a sweep to bring on labour? Any tips or advice would be grand. xx

Hi ASAPWW I'm expecting dc3 and have spd for the 3rd time. 2 very different labours for my dc and I had neither 2nd stage in a sensible spd position. DC1 forceps and stirrups after 36hours and DC2 on my back in 15 mins after arriving at hosp.This time I'm thinking of a home birth(at last i can get comfortable) or a hosp waterbirth.I'd planned to have an epidural with dc2 if things got bad but didn't need one.

ASAPWW Im expecting dc4 and have had SPD with all 3.
I was induced with DD1 on my due date due to the SPD and had her lying on my back 6 hours later - I had been on crutches from 30 weeks and it was painful after but I was so relieved to get her out I threw the crutches away straight away.
DS1 was induced at 36 weeks after waters broke but no progression, he was back to back took 8 hrs from having the pessary and I used the birthball a lot. I found bouning hard on it helped and delivered him standing up (I was on crutches from 12 weeks with him and in a wheel chair at the end ). DD2 was 19 days early and a very quick delivery at just under 2 hours from the 1st contraction, I used a birthball at home for weeks so maybe she was in a good position from this but I had no pain relief and at 9lb 13oz she wasnt small.
If anything I think as I was so used to constant pain my pain threshold was quite high and I only ever had gas and air with any of mine. I loved the birthball its so versatile and def found that moving about and not laying down was the best option for me. With DS1 and DD2 other than pain in bed I was out walking very quickly.
Good luck.

Hi all,
just looking for some advice please,i'm 26wks with dc3 and have started getting pain in my pubic bone,mostly when i turn over in bed or do sudden leg movements,could it be the start of SPD?
Moved my nans sofa today which seems to have made it worse.Went to doctors this afternoon and mentioned it but he just said take paracetamol,i said could it be SPD and he said 'whats that?'
It's not that bad at the minute but obviously i don't want it to get any worse so is there anything i can do ,other than get a new doctor? Not seeing midwife til next week,any advice would be great

Thanks Vicbar and LooL00 for your posts. I am hoping it won't be too long till the LO makes an appearance now and relieves me of the pressure.... x

Hi tobago , this time i asked the mw to refer me to the physio. I told her I had spd and wanted a referral. She said it wouldn't help much but i said I wanted a referral anyway. I think it has helped, not cured it but after physio I can turn over in bed more easily and am in less pain . it hasn't improved how far i can walk (about 25m!) but at least I'm ok at home.When I had ds1 the gp either had never heard of spd (and neither had I) or pretended not to have!
If you phone the physio dept at your hospital they should be able to tell you who can refer you.

Thanks LooLOO,it felt much better this morning until i went food shopping and then it went a bit tender again,think i will just try and rest and see what midwife says next week if it doesn't get any worse,thanks again x

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Have just caught up with the thread. Hope everyone is doing OK. I've got 6 weeks to go now. Will post properly later.

Hi im new here, and despratly seeking advice on SPD. I am currently 33 weeks pregnant, have been suffering with SPD since i was about 17 weeks pregnant, been slowly getting worse, and ive been off work since the end of january. I am on curtches around the house, but wheelchair other than that (which still hurts like hell).

What i need advice on is the birth, ive spoken to the midwife, an anaesthetist and after long discussion they have agreed that an elective csection is probably the best option as i also have bad knees and spine (cant have epidural). but i saw my consultant last week, asked her about labour vs csection and how on earth i could give birth naturally if i cant open my legs, and she kind of side stepped the question and told me to come back at 38 weeks. So in sheer frustration i asked to see a different consultant, which i did today, and when i asked her 'how on earth do i give birth naturally when i cant open my legs (at all for more than like 30seconds at a time)' and her reply was 'good question' and was again told to be seen at 38 weeks.

I can see there are lots of other mums here who have managed to give birth naturally with bad to severe SPD, are any of those wonderful people about to explain to me exactly how this is possible?
im one of those people that who can calm down when i understand things. I just cant face the prospect of sitting here on the sofa (drugged up on the maximum adult dose of codeiene and still in 7/10 pain) worrying and stressing out for the next 4 1/2 weeks for sommeone to side step the question again.

Im terrified of trying to have a natural labour and injuring my hips for an even longer period or permanently just because no one will listen to my concerns.

any advice appreciated!!

btw - ive seen the physio once, she gave me crutches, a support belt and told me to do pelvic floor exercises, suggestions on how to move around without making it worse, but nothing that actually makes much of a difference

forgot to add earlier, than i have 2 kids, 3 and 4 1/2 both brilliant girls, who are luckily able to goto preschool all day 5 days a week. my husband does everything he can, and my mum has got all the cleaning and washing etc covered (i pay her to do it, have done for a while before all this started!).

LooLOO

Please join the group on Facebook...

I got lots of support from this site. But EVEN MORE from Facebook I was able to log on and talk live to other sufferers.. get hints and tips etc.

SPD is such a scarey lonely thing.

I'm sending love to all you pregnant women and if any of you join facebook feel free to add me as a friend.

I'm presently getting some help to help me get over my awful pregnancy. In a way I am mourning it.. Something that should have been so special.. such a happy time that was bloody awful.

Take care all.

can you post a link to the facebook group? i cant find it on the search

Hi Feta will try to join, I'm reluctant with facebook as they want too much personal info and i don't trust them with it but for raising awareness there's nothing like it.I'm sorry that you're struggling to look back on your awful pg. I just see my pg with dc1 as lost time and with dc2 my spd was not so bad. This time 10 weeks so far of hardly leaving the house. I'm not scared as my physio does seem to be able to straighten me out and this makes me more mobile as long as i don't walk anywhere (like no more than 25m ). Hope I can look back on this one as lost months too.
Hi ktwiltshire IMHO your physio is not doing enough for you. Mine gets me to lie on my back(agony but worth it) and lift one leg at a time to see if they feel diff weights (often one of them I can't lift at all), she then gets me standing up and looks to see how my pelvis is tilted and then lying down holds my leg and I have to push against her according to her directions. Then the other leg and then I can amazingly lift my legs again. This doesn't last for long and fortunately I've only got a 2 week gap between appts this time.I still can't walk any where but I can turn over in bed and get up off a chair more easily and open my legs a bit. I just hope I can give birth shortly after I've seen her. My main aim in giving birth is avoiding forceps, other than that I'm going to try for a quick and easy homebirth (can't face the walk from the carpark to the maternity unit) or maybe transfer in for an epidural if things go on a bit.I don't really mind having a c section either but I just don't want the recovery problems if it's not necessry. Without the back up of an epidural being an option I'd be nervous about a natural birth.How are you with lying on your side? I think either that or standing or kneeling are the best options for a natural birth but I'd like some more suggestions. What did you do the last 2 times?And if what you actually want is an ELCS then it sounds like they'll offer you one. I'm more worried about your useless physio.I'm 30 weeks and have seen mine 3 times (NHS).

I can lie on my side, my good side, with lots of pillow support, but i cant open my legs in any capacity for more than about a minute at a time, and someone holding them open is the same, its the pain aswell as being unable to move much. at the beginning when the pain wasnt too bad at all we tried all sorts of positions for sex, and they were too painful for even a very short amount of time!!
the doctor from yesterday said i should see the physio again, but we only have the one maternity physio in my area and like i said, she gave me crutches, told me to do pelvic floor exercises and be on my way. i would do hydrotherapy, but the pool is 30mins drive away and its too painful to go in the car that often for me.

have you thought about getting a wheelchair, buying or renting, that way you wouldnt have to worry about getting from your car to the maternity unit. i have a wheelchair, that gets me for the long distances (for me thats any further than the equvilent of my sofa to my toilet!)

i didnt have SPD the last two times, i had normal deliveries with just gas and air for pain relief, it killed, dont get me wrong, but its not that im afraid of the labour pains, i know i can do that bit, im just worried if i cant open my legs to get the baby out its all going to go horribly wrong!!

my midwife called me back this morning, shes made me another appointment with the dr for next week (thursday) and is writing a letter explaining to the dr that i need then to explain things to me as im getting ridiculously anxious about this