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[pumpkinpureeandghostlypearls]

I am suffering SPD (for the second time) and just need to vent without driving everyone else on my pregnancy thread mental. Not that they aren't supportive but I still have 20 weeks to go and I don't want to ruin their pregnancies by talking about mine!

Please come and join me so I don't feel so alone, and feel free to share tips if you have any....

Forgot to ask is anyone else on cocodamol I have to take it every day now and hate the way it makes me feel. I am currently taking 1000mg paracetamol and 30mg codeine about 3-4 times a day when I am really bad will take 60mg of codeine but hate the sicky spaced out feeling especially when you have 3 children to deal with. Am also worried about the effects on the baby?

sweetkitty- i was on Cocodamol from 32 weeks and baby seems perfectly fine....

Sweetkitty - I also took lots of cocodamol and in the last few weeks I couldn't even sit up on the sofa without it and my DS is fine

Thanks pureeandpearls - I did take it towards the end last time as well but you just worry don't you.

Seeing consultant at 36 weeks about possible induction

hiya,

I had spd from 27 weeks, in my one and only pg 8 yrs ago. I still have pain now. It's nowhere near as bad as it was, and i would say it improved only after about 3 yrs.

Back then NOTHING was known about it, and it was a truly lonely and miserable pg for me, followed by a terrible birth exp. The thing that makes me realy upset tho, is that i was told not to have any painkillers during my pg.

Now i read that you can? I feel very sad that maybe i could have helped the pain. Chiro's and the like wouldn't touch me with a bargepoleeither when i was pg.

Is this the norm nowadays?

Poor you sweet kitty you must be feeling pretty bad to be considering induction. I'm only 25 weeks so that might be how i feel in 10 weeks time. let us know how you get on.

piratecat , when I first had spd 5 years ago my GP had never heard of it. I'm not sure if thngs have moved on or it's just that I've moved house and healthcare is better round here. If you are still in pain you should ask your gp for a physio referral. I saw the physio after I had dc2 and it was really helpful.

feeling a bit sorry for myelf today but really things are not that bad if i do very little.Bit fed up with never going out for a walk with my dc and not being able to do any cleaning(I hate cleaning but our house is getting squalid again and dh doesn't have time to deal with it).Went shopping last week and walked only about 200yds and suffered for it for 2 days.Moan moan moan...

Hi cani join the sofa?

I'm 35 weeks and have been suffering for a few weeks with the walking but hip pains discomfort for what feels forever!

I posted about was this spd a week or so ago and was given some great advice and pointed to this post! First chance I've had to post!

I've been given some co-drydamol (sp) which is better than paracetamol but not great! My doc said he doesn't believe physio will help and I guess with onlyb5 weeks to go....... I've got a consultants appointment on 9th April to discuss c-section which I was offered at 16 weeks after last birth!!

I'm gointnto try to keep up with everyone on the thread! I'm sorry to hear so many of us are suffering, so far I think I have a very mild case!

Quick question where have you been Able to buy satin jammies to help with the turning in bed?

Hi there Butterscotch, in a bit of a rush but

satin jimjams from marks, black with white dots. I sized up 2 sizes and they're a bit big but I'm only 26w.

IMO the physio does help. I'd give it a try if getting there is not too painful.My MW told me it wouldn't do much good but although I'm pretty bad still I think I'd be worse without it. Also you may need physio after your baby is born.

Hope you're all feeling ok on the spd sofa.

Thanks looloo I'll check m&s out tomorrow! Ekk at getting it bad at 26 weeks not good :-(

I have consultants appoint fri so might Sk there about physio my work private medical doesn't cover pregnancy related stuff but will cover afterwards j hope :-)

Hi Butterscotch I see the NHS physio at our local hospital who does just maternity and postnatal. She's really helpful and fine for postnatal as once a month is fine but i don't see her as often as I would like at the moment. She pushed my pelvis straight a few weeks ago and I'd like her to have another go but my next appt is 26 April.

I'd like to quiz some of you new mums about your birth plans as I'm thinking of putting that I don't want a forceps delivery under any circumstances and that I'd rather have a cesarean. is this a bit over the top and does assisted delivery always mean stirrups?I'm hoping this one will arrive early and easily like dc2 but if not they want to do induction at 40 weeks as I'm over 40.

I'm off to sit on the gymball for a bit until one of my dcs pushes me of it.

May I join anyone who's on the sofa?

I'm 27 weeks and really struggling with SPD - it started at about 20 weeks and was just about tolerable but a couple of weeks ago I had to run after my 2 year old when he decided to dash down the driveway into the road, and I've barely been able to walk since then without wanting to cry (yes I'm feeling sorry for myself!).

I'm waiting for my physio appt to come through but till then the only advice I've been given is to stay in whatever position is comfortable (that would be lying in bed then) - not very practical with a 2.5 year old!

13 more weeks of this - yikes!

Norky you poor thing, I sit on a gym ball sometimes as it's easier to get up off when the kids are being demanding.I've seen the physio twice and although I continue to get worse, I can now sit more comfortably and if I do VERY little I can get through the day. I'm stretched out on the spd sofa as noone else seems to be posting at the moment but there's always space on the spd sofa. I'm 27 weeks too and have ds5y and dd3y so at least I have less toddler chasing than you.

I'll have to look into getting a gym ball I think, as sitting on anything solid is agonising.

I've had to up DS' days at nursery as it wasn't fair keeping him at home all day - his exposure to CBeebies was becoming a bit extreme!

So I'm feeling crap about being "sickly" mummy - the other day he came up to me while I was lying in bed and said "Take your tablets mummy - you feel much better" - I shed a tear or two

Poor you! don't feel crap about being a sickly mummy. I feel much better since I've embraced my 'confinement' status. I drive everywhere (heart breaking for a militant cyclist) and take camping chair and knitting to the park. My boys know I can't do much, and I try to get them to help (although they're a bit bigger than yours). I sound like Eddie in Ab Fab "help mummy sweetie, help mummy".

My biggest gripe is that Ocado won't deliver to my neighbourhood, and I've heard such bad things about the other supermarkets' delivery services I don't want to get them. Actually, that's just one of many. Don't get me started on maternity pay for research students (doesn't exist...)

cut yourself lots of slack! And have a G&T. Or at least an &T. xxxx

norky, whimsi is right it's much easier once you just give in and do very little.I'm bored and frustrated but at least I'm not in pain all the time.I'm feeling crap too about being sicky mummy as we have to cancel our holiday as I'm just not up to going.Only 13 weeks to go...

Anyone got any advice on mattresses? I'm trying to choose a new one as I'm making dh turn ours (only 2 years old) twice a week at the moment. My mum told me to get memory foam but I can't see that lasting very long and I'm hoping to get at least 5 years out of the next one.

LooL00 - I've had a memory foam one for years and can't do without it. Its a Tempur but other brands are available (there wasn't a choice when I bought it as tempur was the only one on sale). You could always try a foam topper? Save the expense of buying a full mattress. Massively worth it! The only down side is that you can't bounce on the bed.

I've just been told I have SPD, have had bad hips and pelvis for about 6wks. Is it usual to feel better for moving about? I'm desperate to rest as I also have arthritis which needs rest but if I do I can't then walk when I get up!! Is that normal?

Hi all LooLoo

My birth plan is a planned section! I had a bad birth experience last time thats the reason the SPD has made me more confident its the right step for me.

With matteresses we spend £1300 on one from Dreams (interest free credit card) as I got fed up off bad sleep! We have foam on top of the bed its luxury compared to before!

I've defo found since giving up work has helped! and to keep a pedaometer on to keep an eye on how much walking I'm doing! xx

Hi Butterscotch,Whimsi, Jayfer and Norky and everyone else on the sofa.
Thanks for all the mattress advice, is memory foam a bit sweaty in the summer? I'm thinking of just getting a topper and if that doesn't help getting a firm mattress to go under it. Yet another spd online purchase. So far I've got the satin jimjams (really help) the dustpan and brush on a pole(really helps) and sent back the mothercare support pants (too big ).I've been doing so many pelvic floor exercises (on my new gymball)that some nights I don't have to get up for a wee! So if I drift about the house all day I can make it until about 6pm painfree. Yesterday I 'over did it' and drove the kids half a mile to play at a neighbour's house. I sat on a hard garden chair for an hour or so and could hardly walk by the end of the day.
Jayfer I always find rest improves spd and the physio said this was normal. maybe you need to find something you can sit on and get up from easily, I get stuck on the sofa and in some chairs and can't get up easily . Hips above knees is good.

28 weeks today . Only 12 weeks and I'll be walking the South Downs Way, threewheeler in one hand, icecream in the other.

Yeap we've been resting loads much better off to play centre with dd for about 3hrs today where I sit and read a magazine we do lots of sticky stuff sitting down at kitchen table likewise cookie making/playdough puzzles etc.... dd seems to not be suffering from my lack of me doing activities...

I've got my section booked in 2 weeks so I'm holding out till then! its been helpful getting dd used to not doing loads of physical activities ready for post section recovery!

Defo second for the resting to help the pain!

You all need to take up knitting! It makes sitting down all day feel constructive. I am now crippled after a day of big presentations at an academic conference. Doing my presentation was fine, but the chairs in the other ones were too uncomfy and all the networking was standing up.

I've got 2 weeks left of work, and am then moving to some serious sofa time.

Looloo, i love the sound of the south downs! bring on the ice cream.

xx

Hi everyone, I've been thinking of knitting as I need some baby cardis but haven't knitted a cardi since I was 9 years old.Struggling with shopping at the moment so I'll need to send DH to John Lewis to get me a pattern and some wool.
Off to sit on the gym ball!

Don't pop it with your needles!

Question: Can I still put in for a home birth now I have SPD?!

I really, really, really don't want to go to my local hospital. I hate it there.

Yes you can have a homebirth with SPD, my last 2 babies were homebirths.

As for this one 2 weeks to go tomorrow. Went and saw the consultant who immediately agreed to an induction given the pain I am in and my previous fast labours.

Cannot do anything in the morning until I have painkillers, hate taking them but I need to be able to move some with 3 other DC, driving is agony but slightly better than walking. The DDs wouldn't get to nursery or school if I didn't drive. DP has been fab he is down to 3 day weeks at work to give me support.

It's the feeling of being completely useless that gets me the most. If DD3 runs away from me I cannot chase after her, apart from the school and nursery run I go nowhere. I am usually so sore by night time I am crying going to sleep.

Still only 2 weeks to go, have MW appt at 39+1 next week and they will book me in then, never been induced before so not looking forward to it but as I have been overdue with the last two I cannot cope with it again.

Hope everyone else is doing OK

The hard thing for me is to slow down! I only have the one DS, and he's very helpful with this.

Driving is ok so far, it's just the whole getting up, sitting down thing that's painful.

And last night was dreadful too, hardly slept a wink. Looks like silk jammies or nightie is on my wishlist for my birthday...!

I'm 18+4, so still got a bit of a way to go.