Could this be a miscarriage? I'm terrified!

[Kaylo]

Hi everyone, theres gonna be TMI in here so I apologize in advance.

I'm (hopefully) 5+5 weeks pregnant with DC3. Last night I started bleeding, looked like mucus/snot mixed with blood - bright red!!

I checked again 10minutes later and it had gone browny/reddish in colour so thought phew maybe it's gone! Just a blip maybe?

This morning I went for my usual morning wee and there were clots Quite a few of them each about 1cm, I'd say there were 4 or 5 altogether. Blood was still red and has been a steady flow for most of the day.

Now however there is barely any blood - it's never been heavy - just when I wipe iykwim. And now it's just a little bit red now and mainly brown, but theres hardly anything there.

I'm confused, scared, and worried sick. I've never bled with my previous 2 pregnancies, and never miscarried.

Please advise me on what I should be thinking.

I've got an appointment at the EPU on Friday where they're gonna scan me.

xxx

to everyone

so sorry i havnt had access to my com for a few days...... every thing is so far so good. pains have calmed down alot i still have to go for my scan which is a week on wed so fingers crossed im sure it will be ok. how is everyone? i hope you are all keeping well and are looking forward. again i am sorry to have worried you, phones ans computers what they did in the early days i dont know.

xxxxxx

alys78

please try not to worry, i was in a simalar position a week ago, except i was not bleeding but had sever pains, i had to go to hosp and had 3internal scans. they couldnt tell me for sure but i had a blood test, have you had bloods? this determinds whether the growing rate is as should be, i dont know if its the same for ur situation?

honestly please dont worry....... let us know how you get on

xxx

Had my bloods done on saturday. I was in a lot of pain today and the bleeding seemed a little worse, but hubby said could be from the internal. Luckily the pain has gone now but still bleeding. Hubby thinks everything will be fine, I am just so scared but trying to stay positive. Will let you all know on tuesday, seeing the posts has given me a lot of hope that some of you have bled and gone on to have healthy babies. Doesn't help as my sister is due in 5 weeks and my sister-in-law is 13 weeks and both fine!!!

O'h well keep my chin up and keep going

oh alys78

i hope you are ok on tuesday. do let us know. i will be keeping my fingers crossed for you. everyone has been very supportive of me and eachother and hopefuly we can help you feel a little better. keep looking forward

xx

things really seem to have settled down today so am a bit more positive. staying in bed today and letting the hubby do it all for once

Will let you all know tomorrow, fingers crossed. xx

prayers and love to you - pray all is well x

not good news today. My hormone level has gone down from 350 on saturday to 95 today so not a lot the can do except post me some leaflets!! Love to you all and hope that you all have better out comes than us. xxxx

so sorry to hear that alys78. take care

xxxx

Oh, Alys I'm sorry to hear that
Be kind to yourself, take it easy.

I was the same as you - 2 previous successful pregnancies, no bleeding or miscarriages.
Then I miscarried my third pregnancy - the reason this thread was started. They only gave me leaflets as well. Not a great deal else they can do I guess.

That was a week or son ago - we are now trying again. Take care of yourself hun. The support on here has been amazing and brilliant, stick around and we'll hand-hold you through it

Bambino Nice to hear from you again, I too have been away due to my stroppy laptop. Honestly I think it gets PMT!! Glad to hea things are still going well with you and your bean - how far along are you?

Kisses How are you honey? Please be taking good care of yourself. Did you pick your rosebush?

My brother had a spooky experience last night, he and a friend went along to see a medium - not a private appointment, just a group thing. Anyway...he got a message saying there had been a loss recently, a child....a girl. Not a direct loss of his but still within their family circle. There has been no other losses in the family except my mc. Strange because I said on the ante-natal thread that I was on that I was sure I was carrying a little girl. I'm quietly pleased that he got that message - gives me a sense of peace with the whole thing.

Love to all
xxxx

Alys, I;m so sorry take care of yourself, I lost my angel a week ago today at 22.15 and I miss him souch look after after yourself xx

Kaylo, I'm doing as well as can be expected but today is the one week anniversary of the loss of my Angel and I miss him so much. Haven't chosen a rose bush yet still deciding on the one I want, because it needs to be extra special.

Still have the stone in my purse and will continue to have it there for the rest of my life.

Back at work properly today, but god its hard.

Hope you are doing ok Kaylo.

Take care everyone xxxx

nearly 6weeks now feels like time is dragging on. the thread for my due date are a bit funny with me?? maybe i just feel diff as iv had a bit of a hard time. dunno!!

ita quite nice that your brother had been told that. i cant believe christmas adverts are on already!! mental.

i still have to go for scan next wednesday. im sure it will be fine just need that last bit of reasurrance. bloody boobs are in agony though!! haha there solid a nice change from saggy!!!

keep safe and well xxxx

Bambino Why would they be funny with you? Doesn't make sense - they should support you. The May girls were so lovely with me! Wouldn't you be one the May thread too?

Kisses I know what you mean about it being hard!! You're right about your LO's rosebush - it needs to represent something very important so time is needed to make sure it's perfect.

I'm ok really, finding it a lot easier now that we're TTC again, my brain has something else to focus on. Its not without anxiety though! Theres 3 of dh's cousins expecting and seemingly without problems - I feel like screaming at them to stop taking it for granted and that despite all the best efforts and intentions - it can be snatched from you in an instant!!
They were all accidents too which is annoying.

I'm sorry I know I sound jealous - I am a bit I'll be honest. I feel cheated. But I want to let them know how bloody hard it is to act like they are believing nothing bad will happen. I wouldn't wish this on anyone.

Hope everyone is well

Especially you Alys, please take it easy. You'll find a way to handle it - we women are strong creatures

xxx

kaylo
hi no im june 1st. i think im just feeling slighly insacure......

my midwife called today she wants to see me early so i have to go to hospital on satuarday morning. im glad will give me a bit more reassurance as had same pains again last night im sure its because my dd keeps wanting me to carry her etc

anyway hope u are all keeping well. i have a spliting head dd is driving m,e up the wall today!!

xxx

Hi Kaylo

I know what you mean, people assume that a week after the loss you are going to be straight back to your normal self again. I fully intend to start trying again as soon as possible, when it hurts a little less it'll give me something to focus my mind on.

Going to the garden centre on Saturday with my Dad to get a rosebush and extra special one with an extra special clay pot to put it in.

Bambino, hang in there I will be thinking of you, I know whatever I say i'm not going to be able to put your mind at rest. So just chill out rest lots and let us all know how you get on Saturday. lots of love k xxxx

My deepest, deepest condolences- alys78, kisses and kaylo

Kisses - how far gone was you when you lost your one? im so sorry this must be so hard for you also.
please make sure you deal with your feelings and talk about it, it is so much harder to keep it in- trust me!
Leaflets are not going to help its a shame that don't offer counselling to you.

Your little ones have now gotten there wings and they are watching over you and giving you the strength for you to take one day at a time.

Prayers and thoughts are with you all xxxx

hi Mama2bz

I was about 6 - 7 weeks pregnant, nothing has been offered to me by way of support, we have an on site counsellor at work and i'm seeing him on Thursday morning and then my doctor after work on Thursday.

The hospital requested the midwife contact me but surprise surprise she hasn't useless NHS, they just tell you to go home and only go back if in severe pain or bleeding heavily, they are useless.

Found the whole process very very tramatic.

xxx

kaylo
i agree with what you are saying. i know im in a total different situation but when people heard that i had been in hospital they all said, it is still early days and at least u found out now or ur only 4weeks...... i was like 'doesn't matter how far on you are it still hurts the same no matter what' i hope u get a nice plant.

i think im ok but i will be happier when i have 100% confermation. good to hear things are getting better for you though. trying to get dd into nursery part time what a nightmare trying to find somewhere good/nice/clean/friendly haha not asking for much.

xxxxx

bambino2

it is true it doesn't matter how far into your pregnancy you are it hurts no matter what its a living person who is part of you growing day by day.

hope things really work out for you xxxx

hey kisses just a quick drop in to see how you're doing, still thinking about you

Really sorry to hear everyone else's bad news, life is so unfair, sending virtual hugs

Good morning ladies - how is everyone bearing up today?

xxx

Hi Hoops

Not so good, had really bad pain at work today and had to go and see the onsite nurse have doctors tomorrow after work. How are you doing? Big hugs back xxx

Hey Kaylo how you doing? xxx

Hope everyone is ok. I'm 10 days 9 nines down the line now and its still not easy still bursting out into tears at the drop of a hat, but i'm determined to stay positive and my little stone in my purse is helping me knowing that my Angel will be with me for the rest of every minute of every day for the rest of my life.

I miss him like mad, me and a friend of mine are going to see a medium in a few weeks so we'll see what the lady has to say.

lots of love to you all k xxxxx

Oh Kisses I hope it gets better soon for you honey!! You sound like you're really having it rough at the minute - hugs and smiles from me too xxx
Wonder what the medium will say?

I'm doing good really, am apparently on cycle day 16 today - but no signs of ovulation although I am steering clear of the ov tests. Me and dh are happy to try to TTC anyway, just on the offchance

xxx

Hi all, hope it's ok for me to gate crash the topic! Just to give some background, I was on the Due May thread with Kaylo, but I MC'd at around 5 weeks.

The NHS doctors were worse than useless for me. The first one basically said "It happens, get over it." and sent me home with a URL that didn't work. I didn't even get a leaflet! The second was fractionally more helpful, but basically just said unless it gets really heavy or painful, they weren't interested in seeing me. No scans were offered, so I'm just assuming I passed everything ok.

I think everything must get completely thrown out after MC, as I've not had any sign of ovulation either this month, Kaylo. Been religiously taking my temperatures, but the chart looks more like there's an earthquake going on than anything else. It's levelled out for the past day or two, but is inconculsively neither high nor low.

Also been making sure to DTD regularly with DH. I thought about taking a month to recover, but general opinion seems to be it doesn't harm anything to start again right away - it'll just annoy the doctors for calculating dates. And hey, currently, winding up doctors is fine by me. Muwahahah...

Spirael I'm all for winding the docs up too!!! [evil grin emoticon]
How are you? I can't believe they didnt offer you a scan, even to check everything had gone ok. Thats a bit pantsy, where are you? (Sorry if you've told me already, head is definitely a shed)

xxx

I'm in Leeds, Kaylo. The first doctor was at the walk in centre at The Light in the centre of town. Popped in during my lunchbreak on the day I started bleeding, to get some advice more than anything. I was still naively hoping it was just implantation bleeding at that point, and wasn't really prepared to be bluntly told I was about to miscarry!

The second doctor was the emergency doc at my local GP. Receptionists tried to give me an appointment the following week (!), until I pointed out to them in no uncertain terms that I needed to see someone that day as I was pregnant and bleeding. They jumped a little after that and managed to slot me in.

Anyway, that doctor basically said that because I was less than 6 weeks along that he wouldn't be referring me to the early pregnancy unit at St. James', as apparently they won't see anyone before 6 weeks.

That was the last time I saw anyone from the medical profession, I got the feeling the whole time like they were convinced I was making a big fuss over nothing and wasting their time.

So yeah, hopefully this month will be the month, so I can wind them up a little by not having a proper date for them to base their estimates off. Means they'll actually have to do the work and scan me to find out for sure what's going on!! ... There really does need to be an evil emoticon!

Fingers crossed for everyone else too! It'd be great if we could end up in the Due June thread together too, Kaylo. Though preferably with much happier outcomes this time.