What SHOULD i have put on in weight by now......

[bevlin]

Im a bit vain and paranoid and this is a piddly question compared to most BUT what should I have put on by now if my BMI was 25 (just over normal going into overweight catagory), Im 17 weeks PG. After spying myself in a huge nasty mirror in a shop today I realised im carrying the baby in my thighs and bum. I did what im trying to aviod - I weighed myself and ive put on 7lbs, seems a lot so early. I put on 3.5 stone in first PG and being only 5'2 I struggled badly at the end and had high blood pressure and swelling. I really don't want to be like that this time or Id not be able to look after my 2 yr old DS properly. Does anyone know the answer to this? (Apart from stay away from the bickies fat arse)!!

Apart from eating healthily, trying to listen to your body and keeping active I think there's not much you can do. I don't think 7lbs for 17 weeks is a lot by any means. I know it's hard (I am with you - have also put on more than I thought I would by this time and also put on far too much last time & ended up with, like you raised BP & swelling - so I am a bit haunted like you are) but it is the one time when you need to be a bit fatalistic for your own mental health. The fact is you will put on weight & by an large it will be your body dictating your appetite that determines how much. Easier said than done, but I would try to relax about it if you can. Hugs for the scary mirror incident - I HATE those moments!

I really do not think 7lb by 17wks is very much. I am not sure what the official 'guidelines' are, but it does not sound much to me as you enter your 2nd trimester.

According to the graph in Miriam Stoppard (which I look at, then ignore!) you should have put on between 9lb and 13lb at 17 weeks, so 7lb is not a lot, even taking into account your height and variation in recommendations. Try not to worry, and stay away form mirrors and scales!!!

oh dear. I have yet to put on 1lb and I am 23wks. But I have been vomitting a llittle lot

Thanks everyone, feel a bit better about the 7lbs after all. Just wish I was one of those skinny legged, neat bump woman that seem to plague my life - what the hell!
Sorry to hear PavlovtheForgetfulCat, that must be awful. x

My book from ds reckons that 10lbs by 23 weeks is 'usual' but I've only put on 4lbs and with ds it was only a couple. Like Pavlov I was very sick in the first trimester and, I'm really sorry bevlin, but with ds (and so far with this one) I'm one of those hideous ladies who just just puts on weight on the bump and not really anywhere else .

bevlin i am one of those skinny bump at the front people, but at a cost, ie food! Luckily I am over the worst of it now, thanks to medication, and am sitting here eating fox's creams for the first time in a while! I know 5 other people who are pg at various stages, and all apart from me and one other (also had sickness) have put on at least the same as you by 17 wks, some much more.

Oh no funtimewincies, that means I should only put on another 3lbs in 6 weeks. im putting on a pound a week!!.
I really do feel sorry for girls who are really sick all the way through though. I absolutely hated up to 12 weeks for that reason. Unfortunately, my nausea and sickness came from whenever my stomach was remotely empty, Id throw up the lining of my stomach - TMI! Every 2 hours this happened and it was embarrasing when I was out somewhere and had forgot to take a snack and would be sprinting to the nearest loo/bush/corner!
I was the same with DS. It has passed now (well, not as extreme or as often) but I swear this had alot to do with piling on too much in the beginning both times. Who the hell has something to eat every two hours!
This time I can still exercise (had placenta previa last time) so Im hoping that, coupled with dropping 9 snacks a day it will help!!
I hope all the sickness abaits soon

ha ha, This is my second baby too, and i nearly fainted when i saw the weight just pile on, i am 13 weeks and the size of what i looked like when i was 6 or 7 months pg lol, when its your second or third etc you look bigger than you did first time round. I am really overweight now and its on my hips bum and belly lol. itll go after baby born. goodluck tho. xx

Im struggling to, i am still carrying 2 stone that i gained when pg with DS born 18 months ago, now 12 weeks pg i have gained 4lb so far and thats been with the feeling sick and not wanting to eat much. Now thats passed and i wanna eat everything in sight, im petrified of what size i will end up.
I have to say i look 6 months pg when i relax as i think this baby is just pushing my fat tummy left from DS out!!!!!

my midwife says about 7lbs in the first six months ,give or take the odd one

bumpsoon really?!?! OMG!!! I have put on 12 pounds in 24 weeks (most in the last 4 weeks) and am feeling enormous, but I thought this was roughly about right?!?! Crikey!
PAv and funtimewincies I am still throwing up every day (a lot less than in the beginning) but only thing that stops it is eating!! Am trying to eat sensible snacks, but just been on holiday for a week which didn't help!!

I've been worrying about weight too (nearly 22 weeks with 2nd) given all the 'are the two in there' comments etc that people seem to find it so amusing to make (well at least I AM pregnant and not post-menopausal so one of us has an excuse thanks MIL). This together with rapid inability to fit into clothes and 'big' baby at the 20 wk scan has had me a bit worried. Then I did the stupid thing of actually standing on some scales. I would NOT recommend this, last time I didn't weigh myself at all and it was far more healthy. Anyway, I've weighed myself every morning for a week and every morning I've been within 500g of where I was when they weighed me at the nuchal test at 12 weeks. Now I'm paranoid for the opposite reason, I don't seem to be gaining weight despite eating normally, no sickness and a BMI that's usually about 19... Then I made my second mistake and googled 'low weight gain pregnancy' which leads to lots of scary articles about IUGR.

If you're pregnant and haven't weighed yourself yet my advice would be DON'T. If you have then I found this tool in the internet weight calculator I've no idea how strong the medical info behind it is but it seems to fit with the general advice I've seen elsewhere and it has reassured me a bit as it shows I'm at the low end of normal for my height which is what I would be ordinarily. I guess people just put weight on at different rates.

Bevlin - don't panic! I've checked my book and I misquoted . It says "you will probably have put on at least 4.5kg (10lb) by the 24th week, although this varies from one woman to another" (Queen Charlotte's Hospital Guide to Pregnancy and Birth).

As Catz has said, people put in weight at different rates, as they do when they aren't pregnant I suppose.

katster ,she did put a huge emphasis on the give or take the odd pound though ,she said 1 and a half to 2 stone was a normal weight gain overall

funtimewincies agggghhh that means I have to only put on 3lb in 7 weeks!That's worse.
Right, my DH is a joiner, maybe he can fashion some type of hut to put me in, in the garden - make a little hatch and pop a salad through every two days. Phew, thought I was going to struggle there but now I have a plan
After my moaning I sat last night and ate a thai take away and a cornetto. How bad is that, on a Thursday night too what a rebel!
Im going for a 4 mile walk round a hilly area tonight with a friend. All is not lost!

Bevlin can I come and join you in the shed?! Was really good yesterday and ate salads and soup, then today decided I needed extra midmorning toast and have somehow convinced myself as I am off work (school hols) I should get into BAKING so have gone and got pastry and making a fruit tart as DH so stressed at work!! What an idiot! Atleast it is fruit in the tart!! Probably doesn't count!

katster You and your pastry tarts can join me in my hut any time! We might get stuck though

Okay so check this out for weight gain. I weighed 8 st 5lbs pre-preg and am 5ft 6' am now almost 23 weeks and weigh 9 st 6lbs, That's 15lbs! I feel fat although I don't look very pregnant (people wouldn't really know if they didn't know). Hips and bottom have got a little bigger but nothing excessive. Boobs bigger and arms are the same as is face. So I don't know where it has all gone.

Had no MS whatsoever but have been eating the same, if not slightly less (ie healthier) as before I was pregnant. I used to eat lots of chocolate/crisps and sweets but have tried to cut them out as obv not great for baby although still have them sometimes.

Average day: Cereal and milk for breakfast (normal sized bowl not v full), a carrot mid morning, a salad for lunch and an apple mid afternoon. Then something like pasta or normal food in the eve (and I eat fairly small portions too). Have NO IDEA why am putting on so much weight esp when other people eat a load of crap and it's beginning to annoy me! Only put on 2lbs in first trimester and have piled it all on now.

Anyone wise and knowledgeable have ANY ideas about why? (Obv I know I am growing a baby etc ). Midwife seemed completely distinterested and neither she nor my GP weigh me at any appts! Phew - rant over. Sorry!

Kingsroadie, I think the amount you put on is proportional to your BMI before you got pg, so if it was low (which it sounds like yours was), then you will put on more weight than someone with a higher BMI.

F'instance, I weighed about 7st 8 with a BMI of 19 and am now 9st 2 at 28 weeks, but haven't really put any fat on, if you see what I mean.

I haven't been weighed that much either, but I have had my bump measured (very scientific) and that was apparently normal.

Thanks Trellism! Yup I think my BMI was also 19 so that could account for it. Sounds similar weight gain pattern to yours then. (Unless I put on a massive spurt and put on loads more in next 5 weeks!)

Yes my bump also measured exactly as it should for dates...

Trellism is right, if you are underweight then you should put more weight on than someone who is overweight.

For someone underweight, 3 stone could be a perfectly healthy weight gain, for someone of 'normal' weight, 2 stone and for someone overweight, a small gain of a stone could be right.

It's all relative, as long as you are eating a healthy, balanced diet and getting gentle exercise then you don't have much to worry about.

I've put on a stone and 4lbs at 6mths but I was only 8 stone to begin with at 5ft6 so that is a healthy gain for me I think. It's mainly bump but I have got slightly bigger all over too which I think is normal in pregnancy.

Enjoy your pregnancy I say, worry about the weight afterwards

Hi. This is my first posting but wanted to add to this. I used to weigh 23 stone and lost 9 stone prior to getting preg so even after loosing all that I still had a BMI of 29 when I got preg. I'm 19 weeks now and have put on about 12 lbs and I think that seams like a lot. I'm quite worried about piling a lot of my weight back on again but no one seams concerned midwife/doctor wise so I think that all that matters is that you and your baby are healthy and growing at a reasonable level. Thats what i'm hoping anyway lol.

Right, Im officially fat - trellism, Kingroadie and supercherry, this thread is for fat bloaters only so bugger off!! Im totally joking of course, doesn't matter where we started off, weight going on at this speed is scary even if your super slim like you guys !
catz I did that calculator thing and if im reading it right, it says I should have put on up to 8lbs, which is fab if I am getting it right. Is it the bit that says 'yours' I should be going by then?

I just did it too and apparently ive put on double what I should have considering I was already a fatty oops. I shall be eating nothing but lettuce from now on!!