40's + Mums and Mums to Be.

[johnworf]

Hello, good evening, and welcome. Our ovaries are tired and withered but we've still managed it despite what the Daily Mail says!

Come on in for a gossip, cake, parenting tips and the nonstop drivel interesting chat.

Newbies welcome :-)

Oh, we are so rock n roll aren't we? Ped eggs and Torchwood. My, my.

Hey bonzo not much longer now then. How you managing to struggle on at work so near to your due date?

Ah poo...bbl....small child crying to press the keys...

evenin' all

Back from another day at the coal face and, no, I can't spill any beans except to say that today was a good day for logic and reason and common sense.

Torchwood is fab - looking forward to it tonight especially as there is nothing else on on a Tuesday evening.

Mr D and his daddy at home together today again but getting better. Expecting my throat to start hurting any second now.

mrsj I am one of those ho had a no heartbeat scan at 7 and a half weeks (possibly on account of the suerfluity of extraneous padding) but at 8 and a half weeks there it was. If you are off on your dates it can happen that the hb isn't visible as I think it only starts beating at around the 5 wk mark - unless you are quite thin I think it can be hard to see it. Hope its there next time!

jw sorry you had to give the old man a rocket - hope he pulls his socks up sharpish!

mrsJ I also had no heartbeat for Adam around that time. And my hormone levels were not increasing as quickly as they should have been. And there is he! In his Amby! About to wake up just in time to interrupt Mummy and Daddy's dinner! Just like always!!

jj thinking of getting a ped egg, it is good is it ?

I have one heron. I love it!

Ah yes, the obligatory interrupting of the dinner phase...don't miss that one!.

evening, just back from my WI meeting where I don't seem to have volunteered for any new jobs which is splendid and I managed to make a clown costume before I went out for Bs school picnic tomorrow so I am super woman! yawn.

Heron it didn't hurt when I had it fitted, just a bit of grumbley period like pain for a few days after. The principle I worked on was I could always have it taken out if it didn't suit me.

JW men hey!! hopeless. Well done on getting to the bottom of what is going on with DSS at school.

Mrs B Hope you don't get the cold you have had enough things already.

MrsJ lovely to hear from you hopefully all will be OK, it is very early to hear a hb.

Tee didn't they tell you in the hospital once you had had A??? you will never manage to eat a meal alone again .

Good morning all.

yawn another unsettled night. DH is on night duty tonight and I'm heading to the spare room!

Was going to go shopping today, but think I will stay home instead and do stuff around here. If little man will let me!

Hope everyone has a lovely day!

Morning all. In the words of Judith Kerr's Mog..."Bother that cat!" In my words..."arse to that Fe*king cat!" Got down stairs and there was a HUGE - I mean HUGE ball of sticky vomit and fur on the mat. I moved the mat and underneath it was all wet and the smell was so rancid I was promtly sick - failing to open the front the door quickly enough, I added to the existing mess on the floor Seething I am - Seething. Am now eyeing up Bob to see if her fur could be useful...

Good to hear Dh is on duty tonight tee

hedgepig loving the way that you're throwing yourself at your WI duties! AND a costume to boot. Blimey, thought I was good making a Lazy Town card for my mate who's had an op.

jw hope relations are warmer over at your house.

iris.....come in please....what flavour???

Nothing exciting today - a playgroup this morning and that's it. Well, I peaked with the sick!

Morning all.

JJ that is what you might term a wake up call. Vom all round

tee at least you get a night 'off' if your DH is doing nocturnal duties.

hedgepig I'm suitably impressed with the clown outfit. Is it scary enough to frighten other children (evil laugh)?

Things haven't been much better with DH last night tbh. I'm just thinking I'm flogging a dead horse. I'm actually more fed up today as he's told his sister about it all so I can already feel my blood boiling. I sincerely hope she doesn't ring today or there will be a heated exchange of words. We have this damn social worker coming today too. I think I will just go out as I'm not in the mood for it all. It's nothing serious btw....just taking us through the CRB check form (of which we've volunteered).

I'm not even in the mood for softplay this morning. I think we'll just go out and have a mooch around somewhere - praps the park.

I am not sure what is going on with me tbh. I can't seperate whether it's my DH being an arsehole or I'm depressed or one has caused the other or I'm just fed up due to the situation.

Sorry it's all about me this morning. Just needed to get off chest as K is sick of hearing my woes (plus she doesn't offer much practical help anyway )

iris??????????

Aww, sorry it's all shit over at your place jw

Just a thought...but have you considered that it might actually be your DH that's depressed? Just from what you've said it sounds like his energy, motivation etc is rock bottom and that in turn is bringing you down?

My mate's DH was depressed for years and she thought it was her and now, in a massive change of career for him, they're really in the swing of things again. They hadn't realised how low his self esteem had gotten. Just a thought, especially as he doesn't seem to be tackling DSS's AS very well....is he struggling with that perhaps?

Thing is that you seem to have so much energy and it can be very trying when the other person doesn't. Problem is when you need to turn the spotlight on them. Is he happy doing the job he does? Could he do with a change?

Anyway - just my thoughts scrawled down! And what is this with K being no practical help at all....MMmm, I thought she'd cast her wooden spoon into the air and come up with all sorts of suggestions xxx

JW sorry to hear it is so bad.

I would agree with jj, it does sound like your DH is a bit depressed. Or maybe you are having some late PND yourself? It can manifest itself up to a year after birth.

Keep kicking his ass!!

haha @ the magic wooden spoon! If only.

PND has crossed my mind. I've had it twice before so it wouldn't be a huge surprise. I'll make an appointment with GP and see what happens.

jw so sorry to hear things are not well. i agree with what the others have said, maybe your DH is a tad down. also maybe you too... you have been thru so much with K being born so early and all. yes, go see your GP.

tee i will go get ped egg pronto!

Hello everybody peeps

Well Puddleducks went 'swimmingly' yesterday although mommy exercised muscles that haven't been used in years so she's a bit stiff today.

And HRH Sam lord of all he surveys decided to throw up on his back. Que one sick covered face and couch! Still, it was nothing if not spectacular!

jw sorry dh is being self centred - they do that every so often. You might want to ask him if he's worrying about anything as my DP goes like that if there's something he's really worried about. Can't burden you with it as it's a man of the house problem. Which of course is a load of twaddle.

How the dickens is iris doing has she had the baby yet?????

Random thoughts on the old Puddleducks, it's a good thing but pretty poor value at 9.75 a half hour session! Yes I AM turning into an NCT mum as I will be signing up for next term!

Baby Cafe this afternoon, smooches to all.

VeryTiredThighsTigga xx

mrsb wash your mouth out nothing good on a Tuesday evening? Chuck is on tonight! I shall be giving up my evening geek drool hilarity for the captain jack drool great story lines that Torchwood supplies

DroolingTigga xx

mornin all

Sorry to hear you are feeling a bit down jw . It would be no surprise at all for someone to go into a bit of an emotional slump after the kind of year you've had, or for a touch of PND to kick in after you have come out the other side of all the drama and worry. You'd have been surviving on your nerves all year (as my mother would say). And beautiful and miraculous though she is you need a break from the baby to recharge your batteries. I think I would be demented if I was on baby duty constantly for a week year. Nights out help! or even a night away leaving her in the capable hands of daddy?? or a little holiday?

I am feeling a tad disgruntled myself of late- it seems to be a constant treadmill of trundling between work (where I have taken on too much work) and the untidy tip that is home (where I have taken on too little work), while constantly hungry and/or tired. A holiday is needed but cannot be afforded...

jw sorry guys I'm a bit random today so am posting as I think of things.

Just let me get this straight, you have a DSS who has Aspergers, 3 children plus another born recently very early who has had all sorts of health issues due being eager to eat chocolate/get out into the world. Your DH got you a birthday present late.

So far so good?

And your wondering if you might be a bit down?????????? FFS! Under 'normal' circumstances dealing with 5 children one of whom has Aspergers would make the strongest super bloody woman a bit freaking down sometimes!!!!! Give yourself a break and take K's wooden spoon, apply directly to not-so DH's arse and tell him to start pulling his bloody weight. BIG GRRR face!

HUGE FIERCE HUGS

InAweOfWhatJWDoesDailyTigga xx

haha. dawn you are indeed random. In a good way

I think that you're right. I know he is worried about the business and he got a load of shit off his business partner on Monday (alongside my load of shit) to tell him to pull his (business-like) finger out. So, he worked all afternoon and late into the night (yes, this was the day of my b'day). I think it was cos he had genuine things he had to physically fix and also to get away from me. Looking back, then that would make sense.

mrsb you make me smile with your description of 'mundane life - a brief history'

I think we could all do with a holiday. I'll pop down to the travel agents for us. Where do you lot fancy? It's either Butlins or Saga? Would say 18-30 but we're all too damned old. Sadly the only 18-30 in my life these days is the time I put my pyjamas on and wish for bedtime

Morning all

I was feeling quite chipper till I read this. JW hope some of the girls' wise words strike a chord and that you and DH have a good proper talk. Oh, they hate that word.

Young Arthur slept 11.30 till 4, had a huge feed then slept 4.40 till nearly 8. Good boy!

Have spent my first months' maternity allowance on a 34" flatscreen TV for the playroom. This might mean the DC actually sit in there rather than bringing all their plastic crap educational toys with small bits into the sitting room, joy!

Sorry for putting a downer on your day ermintrude. Glad to hear that young A is toeing the line and packing the zzz's in. I hear ya on the plastic crap toy front.

I'm looking at buying some new nappies. That always cheers me up. I'm waiting for a delivery of the Itti Bitti D'lish ones that I bought over the weekend. Not tried these before.

---> easily pleased

JW- Sorry you're having such a hard time with your husband. Unless he's actually ill he is going to have to kick himself up the backside. What does your DSS's mum think? (sorry, I don't know the circumstances which have led to you having the little boy, but am assuming she is still alive/ around?)

Sadly it doesn't seem all that uncommon for men to behave like this (ie like passive, whiney little boys). You may have to sabotage his playstation or computer or whatever is keeping him from being any kind of use.

No wonder you are exhausted! You are doing everything by the sounds of it, and more or less unsupported. It just sounds to me as though you are feeling tired most of the time, with very good reason.

Very easily pleased jw

my vote is the Greek Islands!