This might get too long - I hope someone will read and reply!
I am 20 weeks pregnant and the anomaly scan showed very low amniotic fluid and probably no kidneys, although the view was very poor so we're being sent to a fetal medicine centre on Wednesday morning for another look as our hospital couldn't be sure 100%. Anyway I know the prognosis for either almost no amniotic fluid or no kidneys is very bleak. Has anyone been through this?
We have one DC already of 2, and lost a baby last year to a chromosomal disorder at 13 weeks. I am already facing up to the horror of termination because if my hospital is right and the baby has no kidneys, this condition is always fatal.
I have told nobody about this pregnancy except our parents because the last pregnancy was so traumatic and I've been so anxious over this one, although I relaxed stupidly after the 12 week mark. Luckily I've managed to conceal it despite reaching 20 weeks - it may be the lack of fluid that is making me not show, I now realize, though I was the same with my 2 year old so the small bump didnt concern me.
Anyway I am obviously facing time off work, and my work is the sort of place where people gossip. My boss is utterly indiscreet and tells everyone everything. I can't bear people knowing and saying consoling things; I know from last time I just need to grieve at home. Would my GP write me a sick note that wouldn't say what was going on, does anyone know, or would she not be able to do that?
I can't believe this is happening. The consultant insists there's no link between kidney failure and the chromosomal problem we had last time. But as I said I'm seeing specialists on Wednesday. I am part numb and part just want to lie down and howl. But I'm trying to keep it together for my 2 year old who needs me.
Please be gentle with me....