The "4 weeks and bricking it" lounge.

[Thandeka]

Hello,
Me and Wasabipeanut thought a specific thread for people in our boat may be nice- as lovely as the knicker checkers thread is and great support but a lot of the lovely knicker checkers are past the evil first trimester and for those of us that have just found out we are pregnant again post MC we thought it might be nice for us to have a sub lounge to huddle in and support each other in these very early stages where in a way we are still in denial about this pregnancy!

We don't have to post due dates or anything scary like that, just more a place to wobble with people going through it at same time.

So I will be only 4 weeks tommorrow and 40 days ago tommorrow I had an MMC at 10 weeks but emby died at 6/7 weeks. So am going to be petrified basically for at least the next 8 weeks and would love some handholding- especially as this time I am not telling anybody except DH and best mate. Parents need not know.

If waiting until Monday and going with your husband is what you feel is best for you, that's what you should do, I reckon.

The EPU said to me that if I bleed again, it's only necessary to come rushing straight in if I am bleeding heavily. I'm pretty sure a small amount of old blood doesn't pose an immediate risk to you which means you have to go hurtling off to hospital right now. But you could phone and just check that out maybe.

I am really confident that everything will be fine. Hang on in there...

Oh jardins try not to panic too much! I had massive brown bleeding in 1st pg at 7wks and massive red bleeding at 9wks and have 3yr old dd, so it could all be fine. If it's not too bad and you think you could hold on, I would wait for your dh. Thinking of you. x

Thank you so much for your kindness. I feel so tired and dispondant. I managed to keep it all in during my son's medical appointment and then I went to pick up my daughter at one of our best friends who asked me how the pregnancy was going. I told her about my scare today and I promptly burst into tears. I think it did me good to release things! Mumsnet really is a blessing though.

I had a little more discharge, thick but more yellowy than brown and I feel nauseous tonight again.

I just feel so fed up with the last three months as I have had my fair share of ordeals to deal with 'alone' since my husband is working away from home. We have the move to deal with and I don't feel I have the energy to do anything much. And when I think of all these weeks spent feeling nauseous for a good cause. IF I miscarry it will seem like such a waste of time.

I'm so sorry to be pathetic and wingy....

Love to you all.

sorry to bring such sadness to this thriving thread but i just wanted to say thank you to you all for your support and i'd also like to wish u all luck and say goodbye. i miscarried on wednesday so its all over for me im afraid...i genuinely wish u all well and ur beans of course...sorry i couldnt last the distance and go thru to feb with u all...at least im not 'bricking' it anymore...havent stopped crying since wed...feeling slightly better today, dp suggested getting a puppy so we're going to look at some tomorrow....not to replace a baby but to channel my energy into...much love to you all xxxx

winjy i'm so so sorry to hear that you lost your baby. You must be feeling dreadful. Sending a big hug. xxx

Oh winjy I am so so sorry. What sad news, you must be devastated. Please be gentle with yourself and take all the time you need to grieve. I hope you find a lovely puppy to cuddle when you are feeling sad. Wishing you the very best of luck if you decide to ttc again- let us know how you get on. Much love xx

Hey wasabi pointed me in this direction. I noticed it's a thread for people who have had a mc, I haven't had one... Is it still ok for me to join? Got a bfp this morning, af was due yesterday...

Oh Winjy, I'm so sorry this ended badly for you. Get the puppy - I got one after my first failed IVF attempt and it helped me massively with my with my mc in Jan. I wouldn't be without my beautiful little furbaby now. I honestly think that being a bit obsessed with the dog resulted in the natural pregnancy I'm carrying now. look after youself.

Jardins - so many of my friends have had various bleeding and discharge and nothing bad has come of it - the ladies are right old blood is brown so it could be anything. I had a bit of it after a scan and I hate to admit but I was fiddling around to check the position of my cervix and my finger came out bright red so it could defo be that (have had 2 scans since and all is fine).

It can be so horrible and lonely this game can't it?

Hope I'm not being insensitive but had another scan yesterday and all was well I'm now 10+2....roll on 12 weeks x

Dairymps - congratulations and welcome x

Thanks mowmi, glad all was well at your scan

winjy - so sorry about your news. Puppy sounds like an excellent idea, hope you find a lovely one.

Hi to Dairymps

Hi everyone,

Ive been laying low lately.

Wingy so sorry to hear your news. I hope that adopting a puppy will give you comfort. I love dogs but dont have a garden so envious that you are about to have a new special friend.

Jardins (and I now know what that means post holiday in france!). Try not to worry. I know that its very diffucult not to thou. Then brown spotting i had around 6 weeks has stopped and I have another scan booked for tues. 7+3 today i think. Feeling confident as been speding the week either nauseous or extremely tired. Boobs still very sore and getting bigger (they are monsters already and not looking forward to thenm expanding even more). My monster hunger has settled down, although now to combat nausea i am needing to have two lunches, one at 11 and the other around 2-3. I have already put on 5kg and it is getting worrying!!!
Am craving lots of sweet stuff including fruit but have gone right off veges.

Congrats on your scan mowmi. Hi to everyone else and their sticky little grapes!!!

Lovelymonster - that's so strange I too have gone off veg - I usually eat loads. thought of salad just leaves me cold. Been eating loads and loads of fruit though. I'm scared of the scales at the moment!

So sorry winjy hope to see you on here with good news soon.

I was on fruit and now I've gone off it and am on veg. Today I am feeling very rough, I don't seem to keep much down and dp has looked after dd most of the afternoon. I feel I am neglecting her, but she seems fine. I would like to wake up in a few wks time feeling much better and knowing everything is alright, anyone care to join me?

mowmi - hope you don't mind but came back to see how you were getting on, and just wanted to say - congrats on the latest scan, I am really happy for you.

WOW, this thread has been quite the rollercoaster to read! I've had tears of joy for every healthy scan, and burst into tears when I saw what had happened to rainbowdays and winjy (still feeling a bit snuffly now thinking about it - all the best girls & really hope you have better news to celebrate in the near future) and still hoping pinky78 has a better outcome than feared.

Now usually I'm quite a calm, rational person, but think I'm turning into a bit of a basket case, as I get very emotional about other people but also feeling oddly detached when it comes to myself. I'm 5 weeks now, and had two back-to-back early mc at the begining of the year, which has rather dampened the elation I should feel after getting my bfp last week. I'm pretty certain this one will stick as I've already got ms and the hpt result was a WAY stronger +ve than the previous ones, and yet i'm still testing twice a day to check the line is getting darker (I've stuck them all on a piece of paper to make comparison easier )

Sorry for the rather self-absorbed ramble - I really don't know where my head is atm and it feels good to let its contents out a bit. DH has been v supportive but seems a little bemused by my odd mood...

missie - At you sticking the tests to a piece of paper, thats the kind of thing I'd do!

I feel 'detached' about my pg too. I seem to have no symptoms at all which worries me so i'm just trying not to think about the fact i'm pg till it's more cetainv iyswim? Easy not to think about it when I don't actually feel pg! Anyone else been like this?

Don't remember how I was last time cause I didn't test till AF was 5 days late and by then I had sore breasts then in the week after that developed morning sickness... Not quite at that stage yet thouhgh, only 3rd day of AF being late today...

Dear all, I hope everybody is well and happy. Just to fill you in, I called my GP (who has become a friend too) on Saturday to explain my fear about the brown tinged discharge and she didn't seem concerned since it was a one off. She suggested however I get in touch with a midwife at the local hospital to put my mind at rest, which I promptly did. The midwife listened to my fears and told me (very kindly) that we should treat this discharge with contempt - ie I really shouldn't worry about it because it was cm not spotting. Since Saturday morning my pregnancy symptoms have come back completely and, thank God, my husband returned Saturday evening. I spent the whole of Sunday in bed whilst he and the children packed boxes. Everybody keeps telling me the first 12 weeks are the most fragile/important and that I really must rest as much as poss. All well and good but when my husband is not there I have to do everything so it's not too easy, is it?

Jardins - GLad you're managing to rest I'm sure all will be fine!

cor a lot to catch up on since I have been away. Winjy- so sorry to hear your news- hope to catch up with you on other threads but entirely understand about you not wanting to stay on this one.

Also bit of relief for Jardins- phew!

Welcome to Dalrymps.

Missymoosmummy- that made me smile about the sticking them on a piece of paper to compare- i write the weeks and days pregnant I am on the test strip! But mine stopped getting darker at one I did at 7 weeks but have decided that is because I had maxed out the die (well after a moment's panic if i am honest!)

I am now 8 and a half weeks- nausea and vomiting symptoms completely disappeared cue major panic from me and conviction it was another missed miscarraige. Then I vomited this morning so perhaps all is not lost. Dunno though and not counting chickens at the minute just counting days (8) til my next scan.

Love to all.

xxx

Congratulations MissieMoosMummy on bfp. I know that I feel quite detached about being pg this time too. I think it's a way of protecting yourself. The days seem to go really slowly too.

Jardins glad you have had some rest, it is really hard with little ones to look after as well. Glad your dh came home early for you. Dp has been great here but he is really snowed under with work and so I hate to keep asking for extra help.

Thandeka know how you feel, I feel much better today (although been sick after breakfast) but need reassurance of scan (nearly 2 wks away) and even then have been a bit scared by fact that am 38 and puts risk of down's etc much higher.

I seem to be checking in less and less these days - I am spending every spare goddamn minute trying to find a house and all the usual stuff and, oh yes, grow a complete human being in my uterus.

Sometimes I want to scream at my dh that doing this is really quite exhausting but I haven't got the energy.

Anyway, Jardins am glad that your dh came home early for you and that you have been able to rest. I am also glad that you managed to get some reassurance. I take it all has settled now?

Winjy I am so sorry that it hasn't worked out for you this time. Take the time that you need to cry and don't be jollied into "being positive" if you aren't ready. When I mc'd I got quite resentful when people said I should be positive and look to the future. Of course I knew I should but I also felt entitled to some dark moments. The future is waiting when you feel ready. I hope to see you in the not too distant future on another pregnancy thread x

Welcome to Dalrymps! I have to say to you and Missymoo that the feeling of detatchment is all very normal. When you start feeling desperately tired or sick or craving crisps at 2am you will know it is real

Thandeka Hey honey how was Somerset? Were you pampered lots? I do understand your concern about symptoms that wax and wane. Mine all seemed to go very quiet between about 7 and 8 weeks but just lately I have been feeling so tired its just insane. Not much nausea provided I keep eating but my boobs are reliably uncomfotable. I am tryng to book another scan for a week on Weds as I am still having vivid miscarriage dreams Saturday was the equivalent day in my last pg when the bleeding that later became my mc started. Glad we are past that little milestone.

Hi everyone,

Well i was feeling fairly positive until today!! Have scan tomorrow and I think i have just been thinking too much about things!!!!!

Should be 7+6 tomorrow. Really nervous that they will not find hb. Im probably worrying for nothing, have had lots of nausea and exhaustion and boobs still really big and sore. Just they could not find hb at 5+6 (which I know is normal) but just freaking out a bit!

I think sometimes mumsnet can provide too much information!!!!

Hell everyone, just had a quick read throught the last few pages as i havent had chance to get on for a while. So sorry to hear your news winjy many many hugs xxx. And rainbow xxx Has anyone heard from pinky? how did she get on? Ugh its all emotionally exhausting isnt it. Sick and tired of feeling sick and tired!! Tea makes me want to hurl, and coffee, and bread, and, well, just food pretty much, am happy with water at the moment, but its a very tentative friendship, oh that and an occasional lettuce leaf or single piece of orange, ugh now i feel sick thinking about all that ugh.......

Ok sorry, thats supposed to be hello pfff