Pregnancy after Miscarriage Part IX - Knicker Checkers etc

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New one! Thought I would make my mark!

cece huge congratulations to you on Tom's arrival.Well done you.

Just sneaked on to see if there were any new arrivals on here!!

Congratulations cece! Welcome to Tom and don't be cross with yourself for sleeping on the sofa, take it wherever you can get it!

Cece you are indeed supermum! 11lbs 4?! As gently says, grab all the sleep you can. Glad feeding is going well.

ladyhelen lovely to see you and great news that Rufus is doing so well. Don't worry about the mixed feeding, it happens to lots of us when we'd hoped we could purely bf. Move on from that and enjoy your little munchkin

Does anyone know how long it takes to get the results in from the Quad test (was the triple test)? I had mine last Thursday at the mw and she said I'd get a letter through the post.

Cece! You've done it! And what a whopper! It also means that I haven't got long left. Moving up that list scarily fast.

Hey herb, yes you are moving up the list!

triple test results - as far as I know the getting the letter in the post is good, that means you have a low risk result. My local hospital phones you within 2 days if you get a highrisk result so no news is good news!

cece - hurrah !! congratulations and welcome to Tom. Am so happy for you.

nice to see you ladyhelen - glad Rufus is doing well. Don't worry about the mixed feeding.

waves at everyone !!!

big congratulations to you, cece

and a quick wave and hiya to everyone else

Hi all and congrats for those who've had new arrivals!

Mummtopebs - no symptons yet apart from the really sensitive boobs. But I did book in with the midwife today who's visiting next Friday! I'm on holiday for a week now - walking in the lakes - shouold do me good

Hope you all keep well.

cece well done and welcome to Tom - can you believe we made it?? herb I hope you have your bag packed...

Sorry not been here much, been on the sleep threads (not much of it round here) and the feeding ones...(lots of that here) - still exclusively bfing but am SO tired as lots of night feeds still...last night was over the moon as she woke at 2.15 instead of the 11.30ish she has been doing. Then it was 3, 4, then again at some point but I didn't look I just lobbed her in with us..I usually put her back in her cot several times (vague rule of thumb is if its still proper dark I try to put her back...) then give up when its 5ish...no objections realy to co-sleeping except that I don't sleep so well. Mind you its better than not sleeping at all! someone reassure me I am doing the right thing and help me resist the lure of the magic 'make 'em sleep' formula???

Oh dan, that's rough - I'm sorry. Unfortunately, formula isn't necessarily a magic bullet, either... I know what you mean about the rubbish sleeping while co-sleeping, but it does beat not sleeping at all.

How old is she exactly? Might she be having a growth spurt? Can you pump milk and get your DH to take a shift on a Friday night (my DS always slept miraculously on Daddy nights - he loathed bottles, and seemed to work out that if that was all that was on offer, he'd keep sleeping, thankyouverymuch. Little horror.) I also used to do a 'dreamfeed' at 11 when I'd lift him asleep from his cot and latch him on, tickling his feet to keep him sucking, and then pop him back before he woke up properly - the idea was to try get a three hour stretch between 11 and 2 to sleep in. If you're lucky, yours might go further.

Morning All how are things? Wow, what a lot of news to catch up on!
First of all, Cece congraltulations!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Well done and Tom is a lovely name ? my brother?s in fact!
Congrats also to Sparky and Ses.

Crunch lovely to see posts from you and I?m so glad things have been better with your DH . I remember yours used to go away a lot too. It is a bit rubbish isn?t it? I always find the first week or so is the worst, then I sort of become adjusted and get a sociable routine going and I don?t feel so bad.

Scotlass so nice to hear Nathan is smiling away! LadyH I?m sorry to hear BFing is still a pain. That?s a worry I have too. Also dan - you must be going bananas from sleep deprivation you poor thing.

Minx how were the scan and appointment yesterday? Did you find out if you?re having more than one? A very good friend of mine has triplets and I am in constant awe of her ability to cope.

Scarlotti how are cramps? Could be just round ligament pain do you think?

Welcome Fairywing , Happybump and Thandika. Great names! I hope you?ll all be here for the long haul. Herb and Mumface - not long now for you guys! What does the raspberry leaf tea taste like Mumface? It?s for toning the uterus, is that right?

Ash hope Sunday was OK for you. I found the due date (last Dec) harder than I had expected, but that was partly because it coincided with another miscarriage (thanks universe). All the same it?s an emotional thing to get through so hope you are ok.

So my good news is I am finally past 24 weeks and therefore officially more pregnant than I have ever been before . It?s all new for me from here on in! Unfortunately I managed to celebrate this event by falling down the steps outside my parents? house and doing a spectacular cartwheel through a couple of large rose bushes before ending up flat on my back in the middle of the front lawn . I was winded and really shaken, and of course very worried about LittleSyd , especially as I?m Rhesus Negative. Rang the hospital and they told me to come straight in to the labour ward to be checked out. My mum came with me as of course DH is still in Greenland, and I was so scared, esp as I couldn?t feel any movements.
All, thank god, was fine [phew emoticon], as soon as the midwife got the Doppler out there was LittleSyd?s heartbeat strong and true, and naturally she finally started moving too so I could feel her.
They kept me on for a while as I was pretty bruised, and I had to go back in the next day too for an injection of anti-D. All a bit too dramatic really, but like some of you I have at least now been into the labour ward and seen how nice the people working there are, so it ended up being quite reassuring in a way! Maybe it?s a trend? Isn?t that 4 of us now who have had panic dashes into Maternity??

to everyone else, hope you?re all having a great day in the sunshine

Hi all

Dan - sorry to hear about the sleeping issues. It must be hard to think about anything else... I can't sleep at the moment, and it's driving me mad, but it sounds like I'm getting into practice!

Sydney - glad to hear LittleSyd's OK after your dramatic tumble. How are the roses?

D day is now only a month away. And no, I haven't got my bag packed! Which is stressing me out. I haven't even got the baby clothes down from the loft, or bought any nappies. Eek eek eek... Various friends have promised us moses baskets, cribs, etc, but are now proving elusive now that I actually need to go and get them,

I'm especially thrown into a panic whenever a new symptom appears, such as stomach ache (getting a lot of this), numb feet, etc, as he could quite easily come any day now!

Getting well embroiled in the hectic social whirl of our NCT class. I was expecting a few of us to maybe meet up once a fortnight, but all the ladies are highly organised and seem to want mass get-togethers twice a week! I can feel a social minefield approaching.

Oh, and hormonally MAD. Sometimes in a pleasant fog of not really caring about anything (which can be a worry as I drift off, singing to the radio, while driving) sometimes all panicked at the imminence of birth, one minute feeling super-soppy towards DP, and the next wanting to rip his hair out for some trifling matter.

Only three more days at work, though. I can't WAIT. Though the lack of routine might send me over the edge...

Cece Hurray! Welcome to Tom! You beat me hands down on sizes I thought ds2 was big at 9lbs 4oz (Polly was, of course, a far more ladylike 8lbs 10oz), I take my hat off to you Glad you're home and well. Hope to hear lots of updates soon.

sydney glad you're ok after your dramatic tumble I've still got a big scar on my knee from tripping over a pointless little wall in the dark at around 25 weeks. Littlesyd sounds like a toughie So nice to hear you so happy (and so pregnant!).

herb not long now, hope you manage to hunt down those friends of yours. I think it might be time to get those clothes down I remember how worried you were at around 12 weeks - look at us now Who'd've thought it.

welcome to a very lovely thread full of very lovely people.

Polly is still a sweetie and is currently strapped to my chest, fast asleep and making guinea pig noises

I'm never going to be able to keep up with all your news ever again, am I?

Love to all you lovely ladies, let's keep the good news flowing

Hi all, thought i pop myself onto this thread if you dont mind? Can I join please

Hi Liskey and fairy great to meet up with you on this thread, we've progressed from TTC now!

Had MC exactly 6 weeks ago yesterday and am testing positive now. Have an appointment to see midwife next wednesday and she is booking me in for an early scan to find out how far along we are. Midwife thinks from our over the phone chat i could be a couple of months whi h makes no sense but due to the history of twins in our family it may be that we only miscarried one, or this is a new pregnany, personally im not sure

From dates ive one online im 6weeks exactly, trying not to knicker check every 5 mins and have been having lots of symptoms, although today MS doesn't seem to be as bad as yesterday? Im thinking it must be normal for symptoms to fluctuate a bit??

Taking everything in small steps, next step is seeing midwife, then next step is scan, then next step will be 12 weeks and so on........
Am taking things very easy putting my feet up lots and resting and resisting the urge to go into EPU for a scan, telling myself they have a less chance of seeing anything right now compared to my appointment
Panicked about CP, MMC etc etc.
Anyone have any suggestions on getting through till Wednesday without panicking. Im taking it as a good sign that i have had no bleeding whatsoever, not even implantation bleed and last time i bled pretty much from day 1 of BFP.

thanks all

Sydney, ouch, how terrifying. Glad you got some reassurance.

herbaceous, hope your work sends you off nicely and that there's cake involved. I've got to admit, I found my maternity leave excruciatingly long - I am not a nester, and found time sitting around and waiting for labour very, very slow.

iateallthecreameggs, fabulous name. I really hope you get good news at the scan, it's brilliant they're fitting you in for an earlier one.

And now my rant - I rang rotten Hospital A to find out where my anomaly scan had got to, and got told that they have no spaces left 'because you booked so late'. Cannot see how this is my bloody fault at all - nobody at the EPU when they blithely said 'Oh, so we won't give you a dating scan then' added 'Ooh, but don't forget to book for your anomaly scan', even when we stood there and said 'Do we need to do something now..?'

So they're going to RING me at the start of the WEEK and tell me when I can come in which is fabulous except that DH normally needs several weeks notice to clear his schedule, not bloody days. I don't drive, and I don't have anyone to take DS during the scan without him (my mother lives and works in London, and would also need a few weeks notice.) I said 'What happens if we can't make it?' and got told 'Oooh, well you booked really late.' Again, somehow my fault. Guess I shouldn't have had that miscarriage scare...

Afternoon all

Hope everyone is well. My brain seems to have left my head now so I'll apologise as I'll never remember all the posts to reply personally to!

Sydney hope you and the roses have now recovered. Glad to hear little syd is fine and dandy though.

Tamlin at hospital A and all the messing about. It's my experience that hospitals and medical staff are renowned for expecting customers (yes, that's what we are although to them we're an inconvenience) to telepathically know what we should be booking/attending, oh and we should also have no other life and therefore able to attend at their whim.
Schools are the other culprits - open door policies with teachers that is only at 4pm. Would they rather I didn't work and pay my taxes?!?!

And relax .....

Hope all the newbies to the thread are getting through the early stages a day at a time - don't expect any more from yourselves and know that we have all scrutinised our gussets more than we ever knew was possible.

cece not sure if my mw would ring re the quad test results, she said I'd get a letter so am presuming that happens whatever the risk outcome.
It's now been a week and naturally my mind is racing with the possibilities - more so as dh is away for the weekend so I now have visions of getting home and the letter being there with a risk of 1:1 - nothing like a bit of rational thought after m/c eh?

Cramps have gone, must have been ligament pain. Have also now progressed to a pillow between my legs at night (and not for thrills either) so am officially showing

Talking of thrills, dh got fruity this morning (3rd time this pg and am 17 weeks!) and it was sore - is that normal?? Have to say that each time has resulted in some undesirable outcome for me so the chances of it happening again now are slim!

Scarlotti, think that you get a letter if all is well, a phone call within a few days if things are not...

Think some soreness is okay, you have a lot more blood circulating in the area and things can be awfully sensitive and swollen. I gather some women love this, while others find it uncomfortable...

Good afternoon all; so many posts, many of whom I sadly do not know.

Bravo with double chocolate sundae sauce serving to Cece on the birth of Tom.

Iateallthecreameggs I'm not quite at 6 weeks yet but my symptoms fluctuate from day to day. I've noticed when I'm busy I virtually don't feel them. Does that happen to you too? Today I have felt so tired and hungry and apathetic.

I've felt quite anxious these past 24 hours. I guess it's to be expected after the mmc end of March It's so hard not to compare what I'm feeling now with two/three months ago. I know I'm in good company here.

Tamlin I am so furious on your behalf re: hospital A's lack of customer care. You must have been livid. Did you get flustered with them? Here in France the French would be ranting publicly about this sort of cock-up. They are always grumbling .... and it works!

Liskey and Mummytopebs how are the symptoms (or lack of) today? Enjoy you Lake District hols Liskey.

Tamlin thanks, that makes sense. Good luck to those that love it, I feel I am in the other camp and so it will be a rare treat for the next 5 months - and then baby will be here and I'll be too tired

Hoping you're right re the letter - as both you and Cece understand it to be the same then I'll assume it's not down to area but usual practice. Shame the mw didn't tell me that

jardins anxiety, worry, ignorance and any other feelings are all normal when pg after m/c. I felt completely detached from my pg until after the 12 weeks scan - some sort of defence mechanism I guess, and it was only after the fact that I could recognise what I was doing. Hang in there.

DH says comfortingly that if they can't organise a scan for a time when we can attend (given that they plan to give us only a couple of days notice), we'll go private on a Saturday and then bill the local NHS trust along with a detailed letter as to why this is not our cock-up. Should be entertaining, but I really hope it doesn't come to that - I just want my bloody scan so I can sit back and stop worrying...

The other thing that rather annoyed me was that when I said 'I didn't have a dating scan because I had a trip to the EPU with a miscarriage scare. This is NOT my fault', the woman at the other end of the phone said snottily 'Well, it says in your notes you had a PRIVATE scan...' I suppose now I've been written off as a bratty middle-class mummy. FFS. It's not as if one private scan entitles the NHS to cheerily drop the ball on my care.

Hello everyone!

Tamlin I do get cross with that assumption that "you" should know what to do next, how to get a scan booked, etc. Don't worry about being written off as anything. Make all the fuss you like - you are the important person, not Mrs Snotty Phone Manner. I hope you get your scan quickly in one form or another.

SydneySuze for goodness' sake, woman! Come and take a seat next to me on the recovery bench and have half an orange. REALLY pleased your okay. Strangely reassuring, isn't it, to know how indestructible pregnancies become in later stages? Don't test it out again though!

scarlotti Yep, sex sensations are all completely different for me too. Poor DH has caught me more than once looking pensive when he's being passionate. I did start a thread ages ago about orgasms making my bump throw weird shapes, it seemed to be a unanimous thing - I hope you get an opportunity to find out at some stage!

Sydneysuze - I am pleased that you're okay. never done that before, I have just lost my apostrophe crown!

Gently yes, I remember when ds was a bump he used to wriggle around all over the place at orgasms. Tbh, it creeped me out a bit, sort of felt wrong somehow to me but then maybe I'm just prudish
Still, this is definitely my last so for the sake of my sanity (and my poor lady bits) I think it's going to be on the back burner for a while. Plenty of time to break out the handcuffs later - life begins at 40 right, so that gives me until this baby is 4 - probably about the right time for getting enough sleep and feeling sexy again!

Tamlin good on your dh - and if it comes to it stick to your guns and fight it all the way. Hope whichever way you get your scan, that you can both go along and all is well.

hi all

feel a bit sad today. Had scan which dated me further behind my dates. By lmp I will be 9 weeks tomorrow. Scan today put me at 7 + 5 Feel quite hopeless about it tbh - I know its only 8 days difference but I'm cock sure of my dates and being small for gestation is prob only clue I have to go on in pg about the genetic condition I carry.

I was 'behind' with my dd who inherited it and bang on with my son who didn't.

Feeling at the mo the best case scenario would be to mc. Even that would be better than agonising over termination.

Grim I know. Sorry to bring the thread down. Don't have any hope and even refused to take the pic the radiologist printed out for me.

Another scan in 2 weeks