Pregnancy after Miscarriage Part IX - Knicker Checkers etc

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New one! Thought I would make my mark!

Ha ha Gently - saw that! No he's not grim, and he's holding up very well.

We thought this time we would wait until second period (got pregnant with first ovulation after erpc last time). However, practice makes perfect...

Bastard computer just deleted REALLY long post AGAIN... Not a good start to the day! Will be back later xx

Hello ladies

I've got a nasty feeling I'm the next of the 'regulars' due to give birth. In SIX WEEKS' TIME. I simply cannot believe it.

I don't know if this is a common feeling, but I don't want to stop being pregnant. Despite the SPD, the feeling of being blown up like a beach ball, the inability to pick anything up off the floor, I already feel sad about it being all over, and the fact that in all likelihood I'll never be pregnant again (what with being so old).

Maybe it's because when previous pregnancies have ended, I've had nothing to show for it ? which won't of course be the case this time ? but I just want him to stay put.

Hi Herby!

Oh how exciting - 6 weeks until you meet Cromwell!

I'm sure what you're feeling is very common - I have a vague (fog of pregbrain is thick in this one today) memory of someone else, maybe Dasiyj, mentioning the same sort of thing a couple of months ago. I'm sure it's worse with us as the end of pregnancy has so often been an awful, dreaded experience, rather than a longed for and joyous one.

Would it help if you can visualise holding and feeding your baby, a positive beginning of something wonderful, rather than a negative end of something?

I'm off work today due to mild tummy bug - and am trying not to worry myself senseless that it might cause probs for LittleSyd

(((((((((((waves))))))))))))) to everyone else

Welcome Endless, Blondie and Liskey

Im at a similar situation to you, im now 7 weeks after 2 mc, one in January 09 resulted in an erpc, so im watching every symptom etc etc

Its def baby steps all the way and fingers crossed we will get there.

Flappy have a great holiday and hope you come back all relaxed.

Im not doing too bad today, but going through a period of feeling very sick in the mornings and i woke up at 3am this morning, very hungry - thought that wasnt supposed to start until later - any thoughts ladies?

Apart from that, am going to go and see the doctor soon and hopefully start sorting things out - although i do worry and think that doing anything will put a jinx on the whole thing - who knows eh?

Good luck cece

Big hugs to everyone

Hello everybody, can I join your thread, please? I was one of the Blondieminx batch: I found out on Sunday I was pregnant after mc end of March. I am really excited but so CAUTIOUS. I don't want to become paranoid about living a normal active life - wait - Ooops, I already am paranoid!! Please help me out here!

ps When not pregnant I'm mostly quite normal.

Good to see you Blondieminx!

Welcome Liskey and Jardins, congratulations on both of your pregnancies.

Herby only 6 weeks, how exciting, your story was one of the first that i followed through the thread before I decided to write.. I cant believe you're due in 6 blinkin weeks!

Well I have had an eventful morning... I had an 'incident' this morning .. this morning, I got up for my wee as normal and then went back to bed for 10 mins before getting up for my brekkie, when i got downstairs I just felt a little gush and then my trousers were wet and & just changed them and carried on as normal, when i got into work I decided that I should phone my midwife just to make sure all was okay, had to go into the blinkin delivery suite... they examined me and all was okay.. so it's just 'one of those things' now i am left wondering if I actually just wet myself but I know what wee looks and smells like and it was not wee! Anyway, they didnt shine a usual magnalite torch up there.. the doc had a massive industrial torch - I felt very much like I was a dark tunnel! haha! You can imagine my rosy red cheeks as she pulled it out.. thankfully all is okay though, although the wriggler in my tummy wouldnt let them do the ecg on him, he kept wriggling off, so they used the ear horn... luckily I could feel him otherwise i think i may have been in a massive state of stress .

Anyway, Im all okay, and should be here for another 14 weeks still... xx

Ooh ashleigh, that was a bit dramatic. I sometimes get a small gush, but I think it's 'secretions' rather than anything else. Apparently, if you leak while lying down that's when to worry, as when standing up the baby acts like a cork, keeping the amniotic fluid in. All sounds mildly implausible.

I canNOT believe that in six weeks' time, or even earlier perhaps, I'm going to have a baby. And he's going to be my son for ever. And my universe will shift on its axis. After all these years of wanting it, now it's nearly here. Scary.

Ciara, I'd say you're at just the right stage for the nausea and odd hungry phases to start! Sounds as if everything is going well..?

Herbaceous, I know I'm not the world's biggest fan of pregnancy (if only my husband could do it for me, I'd be ever so supportive, darling) but I've got to say that I really preferred having DS out than in. Even the newborn sleep-deprivation didn't make me wish he was back inside! (It is a bit odd though - one minute, you're just shuffling along with a vast tummy, and the next minute, your new roommate for the next eighteen years has arrived with his own distinct quirks and preferences, and NO references to speak of.)

ashleigh, that does sound a bit alarming - glad you went in, just to be on the safe side.

Afternoon everyone, feeling very nervous about 16 week appointment with midwife this afternoon. Silly really as after 3 scans and no bleeding for a couple of weeks now I should be feeling more confident but it has just hit me that I would have been due from last pregnancy around this week / next week - I know that sounds very vague, but I was having odd cycles and wasn't actively ttc then so when I found out at something like 7-8 weeks I had no idea of date of last period, so had no specific due date in mind - just late spring and it was at the dating scan that mmc found so obviously dates became irrelevant. Sorry that's a bit stream of consciousness. Hopefully back later with short sharp good news!

I'll be getting my 16 week appointment at nearly 18 weeks. Hey, ho. Lucky I'm not bothering with the triple test...

Afternoon to all you visions of loveliness

Welcome Endless, Blondie and Liskey and Jardinsashleigh what a scare! Hope you're ok now and great that you've been checked out and all is well. Have to say I have the odd leak and just assume it's normal as it's not wee but all still seems to be well. I did wonder if it was fluid but all the scans to date show no leaks so I presume not.

herby 6 weeks - how exciting! I am fully understandable of your feelings of not wanting him to be born. I was the same with DS, I think pregnancy is such a magical thing to do that it's hard to think it will end, especially if you're sure it's probably your last one. Once DS came though he was so edible that all of those feelings disappeared!

alana hope all goes well this afternoon. We must be due around the same time then as my 16 week appointment is on Thursday.

Ciara my nausea started at 4.5 weeks this time around so nothing for you to worry about. I've heard all sorts of wives tales about sickness including it meaning an intelligent baby and also meaning the pregnancy is very strong.

tattifer enjoy your practicing! We waited for one proper period after erpc to get a clear out as it were, then went for it from next ovulation.

Having a good day today here which is lovely. Am sure will start to get more neurotic as Thursday's mw appointment gets nearer!!

Big wave to everyone else

Tamlin know how you feel, my gp receptionist tried to make me wait for booking appt until 14 weeks until I refused. As it was I only got dating scan at 14 weeks and had to tell them I was going away in order to get a 16 week appointment at the right time. Problem of the mw only visiting the surgery once a week for me, perhaps it's the same with you? Now they seem to avoid seeing you for weeks on end unless it's your first pregnancy, so I'd quite like them to be willing to give me the few appointments I'm entitled to!

Ciara I started to feel properly sick at 7 weeks, major throwing followed a week later. Sounds right to me, and hope yours doesn't get too bad.

Oooh Ashleigh that must have given you a fright! Did the doctors give you any idea what may have caused your gush? I'm guessing normal pg 'secretions' (really must think of better words and phrases for this stuff....) can accumulate overnight then all come rushing out when you start moving again in the morning. Thank goodness for the wriggling eh ?

Hi Jardins you've come to the right place - hope this one's a sticky bean. Paranoia is a Knicker-Checker's best friend ....

Good luck with the midwife this afternoon Alana

Any action over there at your place Cece? hope all's going well and that we have a little birth announcement from you very soon

Boo for your lax appointments Tamlin. Have they sorted out when your 20 week scan will be yet? With my hospital the appointment is usually fixed when they do the 12 week one, so the date is at the end of the notes.

And especially for Gently here is the narwhal song

Hi popping in to get this on my threads to keep an eye on everyone .

Cece - hope it happens soon (if its not happening now, or already happened ).

herby - six weeks - fab. Am sure you'll be desperate to meet cromwell soon although its great you've enjoyed your pregnancy and who says it'll be your last ??

dan - lovely to see you. Wow Rose is 14 weeks... Lara is 10 weeks on thurs where does the time go ? Sorry to hear the feeding is a struggle. Its ok here although I could give up tomorrow and not miss it.

Wishing everyone else lots of luck and happy pregnancy vibes and hope all the new mums are doing well.

gosh that was a bit of a manic smiley post.

Sydney they didnt say anything - I am sure they think i wet myself hey ho, what to do, at least i've done a dry run of the hospital journey, all my scans have been at a different hospital so was the first time i'd been back since my m/c last October. Did i read somewhere you calling the baby in your post 'little syd' I LOVE that, it made me smile...

Scarlotti What time is your m/w appointment on Thurs? It'll be lovely for you to hear the baby again

Tamlin My appointments with m/w have always been okay, but my scan appointments have been ridiculous, i didnt have my 12 weeker until almost 15 weeks and didnt have my 20 week until 22 weeks 4 days - I hope you dont get too delayed for the rest of your appointments, it really is so frustrating isnt it? at the blinkin service some of us seem to get.

Ciara all sounds healthy to me unfortuantely i was in Malaysia for my 5-7 weeks and I was starving but only had spicy foods around, I wanted to eat but actually only wanted a big jacket potato or something similar, so i did get a little frustrating... I have visions of you waking up at 3 in the morning and eating cakes

alana how was the appointment for you? I still get very anxious about my midwife appointments even though i can feel the baby squirming around a lot... I guess its just always going to be the way with us knickercheckers, I dont know about you but it always feels like someone else is going to come along and pull the happy rug out from under our feet.. when actually we'll make it to the 40 weeks

Herby when you put it like that it is awfully scary in 14 weeks it'll be me... we're going to be someone's "mummy"..

This morning on the way to the hospital, I was saying to my little baby please dont come, WE DONT HAVE A HOUSE for a few weeks!!! Why on earth was I worried about that then?!

Ladies, I cant shake this, when I was at the hospital, the room I was "seen to" in, was right next to the special care baby ward.. when I was waiting for my notes to be written up, a lady came out of there with her mum (presuming) and she looked so worn out and burst into tears when she was in the corridor... It broke my heart! Why is it that we cannot all be guarenteed stress free pregnancies and be promised a healthy baby at the end?

xx

sorry about your scare ashleigh - and also I understand about the SCBU experience shaking you up. When I was waiting for a scan once an ambulance was waiting outside and they wheeled out a teeny tiny baby in a massive incubator with all sorts piped into it and the parents wiht arms round each other. I often wonder what happened and so hope everything turned out ok for them. It made me sob.

aww Wheely it was just so sad knowing that the other side of that door, there was little babies who needed help to survive. I just wanted to stand up and give this lady a big cuddle, even though I have no idea who she was and what was happening, my mum said its because I am going to be a mum too and can see slightly from her perspective. Ahh here's to hoping for a VERY uneventful 14 weeks now.

p.s time flies TOO quickly.. Rose and Lara are growing up far too fast if you ask me, I bet its only a flash before we're celebrating 1st birthdays and the like! slow down wee ones xx

you're right ash - actually when Lara was born one my close friend's twins were in scbu at the same hospital 2 weeks old (born 9 weeks early). That was pretty hard knowing that (they're now 11 weeks and fine - in fact, I am babysitting one of them in a mo !! ).

Not sure if 'dry run' is what I'd call it Ashleigh .....!

And yes, have decided LO is LittleSyd while on here. Glad you like it !

I think any kind of negative pregnancy experience makes you more sensitive to others in hospital, doesn't it? As DH and I were leaving the hospital fit to burst with happiness and relief after our fetal heart and anomaly scans this pregnancy, we were both consciously blank of face and careful about whooping for joy until after we'd left the hospital. Neither of us wanted to rub our joy in the faces of those who might have received bad news. I think I'll always be aware in hospitals now of what others around me could be going through.

Can't believe Lara is 10 weeks Wheely !!!!

Now, advice needed please. Am considering doing an NCT course. Good idea or bad? If DH doesn't want to attend the whole labour, will the trainer / other parents make him feel bad?

Wheely 9 weeks early, aww I bet they were tiny... I am pleased that they had a positive outcome and I love that you're a super mum, who cant just look after her own baby but can also babysit another you go wheely!! xx

Well sydney LittleSyd definitely has my approval... It's lovely! . I felt that way when I left hospital today, very grateful that we were all okay, but very aware that many others weren't. It was raining when we came out so it wasnt until I got into the car that I actually breathed a huge sigh of relief! I think it has a lot to do with the fact that many of us have been on the recieving end of the bad news in the hospital. I have no idea what an NCT course is (please forgive), but i am going to guess its antenatal classes? We're off to ours on the 23rd June for four Tuesdays. I dont think that the trainer/other parents with make him feel bad.. to be honest Suze, if I had the choice I dont think i'd want to attend the whole labour . It's all about personal preference afterall - your birthing plan is your decision and you and DH should be able to make the plan without worrying what they all think - obviously if they were to make him feel bad, it would only be because their births were going to be absolutely perfect in every single way. Of course .

I am doing the course because I am confused by all the options at the moment - I have no idea of a birth plan and havent even thought about my first few days with the baby at home.

I am also wondering whether you breastfeeding mummys would think it was worth it for me to book onto the breastfeeding workshop?

xx

Big s at opting for partial labour Ashleigh. Maybe we could hire someone to do the really nasty bits for us?

Yup, NCT is National Childbirth Trust and their website ishere

I'm already a member as I think they do some great things, and I would like to meet other people in my area with the same age children - esp as my good mates either have no kids or older ones. I'm interested to know if any of you have experience of their ante-natal courses as I really am in two minds about it

Hi everyone, popping in to mark this thread. Am seriously lurking but rubbish at typing to post now, what with sleep deprivation brain or handful of baby

Time is flying by, Nathan is 4wks 4 days now (still counting the days, habit after each day of pg being a bonus). He's absoulutely gorgeous and smiled for the first time yesterday at DH then again today at his granny. To me he just grunts and trys to get to my boob through my t-shirt.

Bollocks, he's just woke up and is hollering for food. Back soon.