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Pregnancy after Miscarriage Part IX - Knicker Checkers etc

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dan39 · 16/05/2009 21:02

New one! Thought I would make my mark!

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sydneysuze · 21/05/2009 09:14

Ooops I'm a bit ahead of myself Ashleigh aren't I? I'm thinking of Sunday for you

scarlotti · 21/05/2009 09:42

Oh Lola what a dreadful thing to happen, poor you. Hope you're not too thrown by it.

Cece sending your lo all the turning vibes I can find in the hope that you avoid that c-section. Hope everything goes ok though if that's the route you end up having to take.

sydney hope you're not feeling too lonely, doggie breath in the morning is never the nicest!

have my 16 week appointment later today so looking forward to that. Have been feeling twinges yesterday and today so will be nice to get some reassurance. They're taking more blood again for the quad test - all I seem to do at the mw is give blood

Ciara11 · 21/05/2009 09:58

Sorry to hear about the burglary Lola its awful when it happens and i feel for you, i hope nothing else was taken, sounds like an opportunist walking past saw door open ..........

jardins and Liskey i know exactly what your going through, im at 7+2 weeks and still getting twinges, backache etc, from talking to people on here it seems normal, so fingers crossed we all have sticky beans this time round (i have 1 mc and 1 mmc)

Good luck with your 16 week appointment today Scarlotti hope your LO is waving to you

Hope your baby turns Cece, fingers crossed for you.

Just a quick question, i know its been mentioned before but i cant seem to find it - when did everyone start having trouble getting into there normal clothes, im ok at the moment but things are starting to get tight, but i dont want to buy anything in case anything goes wrong (i suppose almost like tempting fate), i just seem to have got a bigger bump overnight and now im worried that it means something is wrong

Its the fun of the first trimester isnt it?

Hugs to everyone

cornflakegirl · 21/05/2009 10:10

Lola - that's so rubbish about the burglary. Will your insurance cover it? I'd second the point about being extra vigilant over the next week or so - a mate of mine was burgled twice in quick succession because they knew his house was vulnerable

On the movement thing - I'm a couple of weeks ahead of you, and I'm not being beaten up constantly either. I probably get 2-4 periods of movement each day. I can't remember what it was like at this stage with DS - too long ago!

Cece - sounds like you've got a contrary one there - hope they manage to sort it tomorrow.

Alana - my lazy feeder takes ages to eat now as well - that's freaky! I tend to think it's a good thing - I'm sure I wouldn't be so fat if I didn't wolf my food!

scarlotti · 21/05/2009 11:48

Ciara is this your first? I struggled getting my normal trousers done up almost straight away, certainly by about 7 weeks. My fat trousers (next size up) did me for about another 5 or 6 weeks but then I moved into materntity ones more for comfort.
With dd (my first and I was v young) I was in normal clothes for months!! Sigh, those days are long gone

cornflakegirl my ds eats like there's no tomorrow, just like his dad! Think that was part of our problem with bf, he was a fast eater and getting little to nothing out. He ended up just sleeping all the time, almost hibernating. I thought we were just lucky with a sleepy baby until a friend of mine (s doc) suggested I give a bottle of expressed milk to check. Poor lamb guzzled about 5 oz in as many minutes - I felt so guilty and like I'd been starving him
DD was great right from the start and I've never had any bother with her and food - and she's 15 this year!

cece · 21/05/2009 12:00

Thanks for the link sydneysuze. Will try some of those tips.

I have to go up to day assessment after lunch to get paper work and pre meds etc sorted. I am booked in for ECV tomorrow at 9 am. If it fails then a c-section straight afterwards.

ciara - I think I managed till about 18 weeks with larger sized clothes and trousers with elasticated waists. After that had to go for maternity clothes. I bought some jersey type trousers with elasticated waist like leggings but wide legged. They were great for the interim period.

Ciara11 · 21/05/2009 12:10

Thank you Scarlotti and Cece in response, yes this is my first ( i had 1 mc august 08 and then a mmc and erpc Jan 09) and now pregnant again.
Im wondering if its anything to do with the size of you before you get pregnant, cause i am quite slim (size 8 - sorry) and therefore it seems to show quite a bit just sticking out front, but nowhere else.
Im still ok with clothes as most my trousers are on my hips and therefore not near the bump, if you get what i mean but the tops make it very noticable

Good luck today Cece

Wheelybug · 21/05/2009 15:34

Hope all has gone well cece, gently the babysit ent fine thanks. The other baby slept through it thankfully (i still find other people's babies terrifying even though Ive had 2 of my own).

scarlotti - agree with what you say re bfing. DD1 would not latch at all so ended up principally bottlefed and has none of the associated negative effects. That said, I have breast fed dd2 no probs despite severe tongue tie (which was snipped last wk). I always wondered if I hadn't tried hard enough with dd1 (she didn't grow properly in the womb so was only 4 lbs 9 oz when born so was all pretty stressful) but having had dd2 who took to it straightaway has made me realist all babies are different !

Ash - I did nct classes with dd1 and I'd recommend them. If only to meet people - I met wiht my nct group weekly in the early days which was a godsend. No one became a bestest friend but a few of us still meet up in the school holidays more than 4 years on which is great. I still actually meet weekly with 2 girls I met in the nct group (actually one of them was the one I babysat for the other day). Its a shame not to have a similar group this time but I am lucky enough to have a few friends with similar age babies.

Milliemuffin · 21/05/2009 20:10

Hi ladies, just wanna ask if anyone has had a sudden day of really uncomfortable bloatedness? I've been fine until today. I'm 9 weeks but since this morning I've looked about 20 weeks. I've hardly sat down all day as my belly is so bloated it's easier to stand. Hoping it goes down by the weekend or we'll be telling family alot sooner than we'd hoped!!

GentlyDoesIt · 21/05/2009 21:18

Milliemuffin has it been warmer than usual where you are? Had a couple of hot days where I am recently and it has definitely made me puff up (only ever had autumn/winter/spring pregnancies before now).

This sounds very dramatic and it's really not, but I am just back from labour ward! Having had a puffy, panty, dizzy week of it I metioned these things to my midwife and she sent me to labour ward for an ECG. Everything is fine but I definitely need to slow down a LOT and will be taking up all the offers of help I have had from friends, colleagues and my lovely DH (who has been beating himself up all evening as he wanted a shag at lunchtime and I gave him the thumbs down because I was too knackered!)

It did feel very odd to be on the brand spanking new labour ward - had my first baby in a frankly shite hospital in another town, and then my late mc on our town's old maternity ward. This new one has just opened and I had a quiet room to myself, they made me have a lie down and brought me a cuppa and dinner even though I was there as an outpatient! When I was having the ECG a midwife covered my boobs with a blanket after they had put all the stickers on - little thoughtful things like that. It sounds odd, but being rushed to labour ward has actually been one of the more reassuring things to happen this pregnancy. Glad to be home and fine all the same. Baby is super healthy, it's just me that's pegging out!

Tamlin · 21/05/2009 21:34

Gently, oh my goodness - lie down, and stay down. I'm glad to hear that the baby's doing well, and it sounds as if your labour ward will be a nice place to return to (even if you may not quite be in the mood to appreciate the ambience)!

Lola, I'm sorry to hear about your house... We had our first pram stolen from off our front steps, and maybe it was stupid of us to leave it there, but we also had the 'la la la, we live in a lovely village' mentality going on.

I've heard recently that a friend has miscarried twins at eighteen weeks. Both boys. I'm so sad for her, and at the same time, so selfishly terrified that her hideous misfortune may be catching - I wrote to her saying how sorry I was, but the whole time there was a tiny and horrible voice in the back of my head saying 'Please no, please no, please no...'

sydneysuze · 21/05/2009 22:48

Evening All!

Millie hi - have you rung a midwife? And are you, ahem, constipated too? That might be causing the bloating.

Gentlydoesit you need to start living up to that new name of yours and taking things easy missus! Do you have Occupational Health where you work? Might be a good idea to see them and get everything set straight about how much you can and can't do right now [stern talking to emoticon]. On the positive side it's great that your baby is well - bonus finding that out, and your Mat ward sounds lovely

Tamlin your poor friend . I know it's always a bit goose-walking-over-grave-ish whenever someone goes through miscarriage, especially a late one, but try not to let it press the panic button. Easier said than done I know.

Wheely thanks for the tips re NCT. Have decided to take the course now, especially as I'm thinking about future times when DH will be away filming and I'll be as lonely as I am now. At least I can drive myself to see friends now though .

Night all - fingers crossed for Cece

HerNameWasLola · 21/05/2009 23:14

Tamlin for your friend, and for you as well. Don't beat yourself up over feelig that way, it's perfectly natural, just know (as you do deep down anyway) that it ISN'T catching, and that her pg and your pg are entirely separate. No reason to think your LO is doing anything other than thriving. Hope you're ok, can't imagine what your friend is going through, to lose 2.... Do they know what caused it?

Cece fingers crossed for you tomorrow. If LO refuses to turn at least you get to meet him/her tomorrow! I know it's not the way you'd like it to work out, but am excited for you nevertheless, hope you don't mind!

It seems this has been the day for hospital visits - and me makes 3! I was having a bit of an anxious morning, I think it was mainly the stress of the last few days, coupled with the fact that I don't seem to have felt much movememnt since sat night. My next consultant's app wasn't for another 3 weeks, so I called his (lovely) secretary to see if I could make it any sooner. She said she'd speak to him and call me back at lunchtime, but called mid-morning to say that although she hadn't been able to get hold of him she'd been thinking of me and had phoned the day assessment ward for me, and would I like to go in for a scan this afternoon or tomorrow afternoon!! DH couldn't come either day, so I fugured I may as well go today and get it over with (so to speak). I went in at 3 and saw a LOVELY mw who was about my age who did obs and listened to the hb. I didn't think I was going to get a scan afterall but at the last minute I was whisked downstairs (to the room where I was scanned internally the day after Thomas was born to check for retained placenta ) for a scan. LO was absolutely fine, and no sign of having grown a willy in the last 7 weeks which is just as well as the nursery gets a little more pink every time I go out She was moving around on the screen, although I coulnd't feel it. MW reckoned it was due to her position. She's breach atm, head up with her back to my front so all I'm feeling when she moves her feet around very low down. All the measurements were good, she's measuring a little big if anything (will probably start worrying about that at some point! ) and the sonographer reckoned she weighs about 2lbs That doesn't really explain where the other 1.5 stone has come from though... I was SO impressed by the level of care I got, all from one slightly over-wrought emotional phonecall this morning. The consultant himself phoned me at about 6.30 to check I was ok and they've moved my appt with him from 11th to 2nd. I wish all of us got care like this, I can imagine the difference it would make, and I feelk VERY lucky, in more ways than one

So another exhausting and emotionally draining day, but at least it was in a good way today!

DH and I went to John Lewis this evening for a nursery consultant's appt. Bit like a gift list, though in a sense less fun cos I knwo we're the ones who will be paying for the stuff We've definitely settled on the bugaboo having tried out a few different ones, and it's nice to feel at least a little more organised!

Sydney will be thinking of you and your little boy on sunday. Do you have any plans seeing as DH is away? I hope so. You can always come round here and help us re-paint the sitting room if you like I don't care if it's not the 'done thing', sending big hugs anyway xx

How did you get on today Scarlotti? Hope it went really well for you

cornflake thanks for your comments re movement. And I know you're right abut the house. We're trying to keep the back door locked, but it's a real PITA. Might get a yale lock fitted on it, then we can have a competition to see who gets locked out the most times!

Gently I had a similar experience on the ward too, there were all these mums with their newborns, and I kept thinking 'if I'm really lucky that will be me next time I'm here' Still can't really imagine it actually happening though!

Will be back to catch up with everyone properly tomorrow, sorry for another "me" post. xx

blondieminx · 22/05/2009 00:26

Evening all have had a manic few days as it was my birthday in the week so have been out the last 3 nights for lots of "drinks" and having to tell everyone I'm on antibiotics for a throat infection! I am still here, and touch wood am still preggers! I'm going to try and get on here a bit more often so I can get to know everyone a bit better

Ladies who have been to the hosi glad to hear that all is still well with your little ones.

It's clearly a bit of a week for medical stuff though - I feel fine but had a row with my (locum) GP yesterday, who had interpreted my thyroid blood tests wrongly - signed me off with a TSH level of 5.59 as "normal" when target range for pg ladies is 0.4 - 2.0 - so it was only nearly 3 times the target range then! .... Pointed this out and backed it up with a print out from the NHS CKS site and got an apology and a new prescription. Needless to say am now worrying more about any twinges. Repeat blood test to be done in 4 weeks but will be ringing the mw tomorrow to find out when my "consultant-led care" is actually supposed to start. Grr.

Lola at the burglary, poor you. Is it worth signing up to a different internet provider to get a free laptop (lots of the ISP's were running deals a while ago, not sure if they're stil on but worth looking into, would also save claiming on your insurance). Your hosi sounds amazing btw!

Ciara glad you asked about puffing out and clothes - OMG me too! Seriously, I'm wondering if there's twins in there as my tummy is getting bigger by the day and I'm only 6+5! We are in very similar positions date wise and size wise (I'm an 8-10!) Think I'll be buying a few trousers in a 12 this weekend - will hopefully get the use out of them after the birth too that way.

SydneySuze ahhh LittleSyd is VERY cute. Let us know how you get on with the NCT classes.

Tamlin sympathies, I know what you mean.

Jardins hi, nice to "see" you!

Cece good luck and I hope your lo moves round for you.

Hope everyone has a good day on Friday and a fab bank holiday weekend.

Very busy day for me - I have a 2nd interview and then off to Chelsea Flower Show with my mum. Nearly cancelled the interview ...but have decided to go to see how I get on.

mummytopebs · 22/05/2009 08:33

Hi can i join x Havent read all your thread but have just found out i am pregnant after 2 mcs last year, i am scared stiff of having another mc and dreading everytime i go to the loo in case there is blood. Any support would be welcome x Thanks

Liskey · 22/05/2009 08:46

Hi Mummytopebs - I'll keep my fingers crossed you'll be fine - how far along are you? Do you keep worrying too that the stress of thinking about another mc will cause it to occur?

I saw a little brown discharge last night before going to bed and have been worrying all night about another miscarriage. I never used to think about miscarriages or anything just about the trouble I had getting pregnant. Now since the mmc I'm feeling paranoid too.

mummytopebs · 22/05/2009 08:52

Hi Liskey not very far along at all prob bout 4 or 5 week, i am petrified i have practically spent 3 days in bed cos i darent do anything energetic!!! I will be stressed all the way through my pregnancy cos had pre-eclampsia with my dd. So i will be worried to mc to 12 weeks then worried bout pre-eclampsia - really hope i make it to 12 weeks x x

How far along are you Liskey?

Liskey · 22/05/2009 08:59

I'm 5+6 today so very similar to you. People keep saying try not to worry and its impossible - so I'm not going to say it to you . You will worry anyway so will I but it helps to talk doesn't it?

Saw the GP this week who told me to rest - but had already been to the gym that day. And I've got to go for a blood test today so I'm worrying about that too - should have asked more questions about why he wanted it doing - worrying that the test didn't show a strong positive or something. Though with this pregnancy I had a positive test the day my period was due - with the mc I only tested positive a week late - keep hoping thats a good sign.

mummytopebs · 22/05/2009 09:07

I tested positive the day my period was due to, but only a faint line. Your gp sounds better than mine, mine just said right i will send a letter for you to get a consultant and that was it!!!

I rang the midwife who said i will see you when you are about 10 weeks, so feel pretty alone right now x Yes its good to talk on here and get some support. They probs going to do your bloods to check your hcg levels and then they will prob repeat it in 48 hours and its supposed to double if pregnacy healthy - they did this in epac with both of my mc, its good if your gp doing that at least they are checking - not like mine x

Liskey · 22/05/2009 09:19

They'll be lucky to do it in 48 hours - can't get an appt with the nurse's in my surgery for anything! The appt today was a canx otherwise the first free one was in over a weeks time!

I haven't booked in with the midwife yet - the GP said to hold off till after the bloods were done. I know I shoulldn't worry about that.

I find it difficult because I have no control over the situation (plus stress as I found out on Sunday my Gran has only a few days/weeks left).

Being on here really helps - especially talking to people who've had successful pregnancy's after mc. I've only been pregnant once before and that ended in a mmc so I don't know what to expect.

ashleighbeee · 22/05/2009 09:20

Good morning ladies!

Firstly, THANK YOU all for the breastfeeding info... I am definitely going to go to a workshop and see how I feel after that, but I really am not going to beat myself up if the baby isnt getting the hang of it and I have to change to bottle etc (check me out talking about when the baby is actually here all optimistic etc)

CECE how are you today? I hope the little one has moved round and you're comfy etc...

Lola my goodness gracious me... firstly at whoever burgled your blinkin house, some people, sigh!!!! What is the world coming to, you shouldnt have to lock your back door when you're IN THE HOUSE!!! For eff sake! secondly though... congrats on the scan... and pleased you're taking steps towards your nursery/pushchair buying etc etc etc...

Sydney thank you, I will be thinking of you too, and sending big unmumsnetty hugs your way... hopefully with it being bank holiday, we'll both have a nice day of relaxing and putting our feet up - and on Monday I will be on MN to leave you a 'congratulations on your milestone' message. I hope you and Littlesyd have lots of fun with your DH before he goes.

Ciara I felt very bloated and big around 12 weeks I think but I got a button expander thing and that kept me going... I didnt actually buy maternity trousers until 22 weeks I think as was too nervous.. but they're the most comfy things I've ever "invested" in!

Blondiemix at the mix up!! I am pleased you have been sorted out now though...

Scarlotti how was your appointment? Hope all went well and they didnt dwindle too much blood outta you! I really appreciate you sharing your breastfeeding stories with me, and thank you for making me feel like its okay to be nervous about it and that its not going to be the end of the world if i cant do it... You've been very helpful ..

Gently I hope you're reading this post from your bed/sofa with your pjs on and big bunny slippers??!?!!? In all seriousness, you do need to take the advice of those around you and slooooow dowwwwwn... you've got the help around you, just ask for it. Its okay, we're all allowed a little break sometimes I hope you're feeling much better and I am VERY pleased you had a nice experience at the hospital.

Wheely I am pleased your babysitting went well... SUPERMUUUUUUUUM.

WELCOME mummytopebs As we all know on the thread, the first weeks are the hardest and most nerve wracking, I didnt go to the docs until I was 10 weeks so I do know how you feel. Thinking of you now - I hope that you hear from a consultant soon.

Liskey hope the blood tests go well today, thinking of you too.. hope the spotting stops soon

Love to all on this sunny Friday, hope the weather holds out for us all and we all have VERY stress free weekends.

xx

scarlotti · 22/05/2009 09:54

Morning all

Gosh, so many posts with huge news in such a short space of time!

Gently rest up!! It's ok now to take it easy and ask for help. Try and get into the habit as you will need to allow yourself to ask for help once lo is born otherwise you'll find yourself drowning.

Tamlin for your friend and as the others have said, try not to let any negative thoughts invade your space. If you have to think of it in a way of 'how does this affect me' then flip it on it's head and think one more in the 2% m/c camp means now there has to be 98 more in the healthy preg camp.

Glad all the hospital visits went well even if they were unexpected visits.

My appointment went well, got to hear lo's heartbeat and apparently he/she is very active! Got my bloods taken (eventually after trying both arms ) for the quad test so will get my results in about a week. Something else to worry about now

Apparently my next mw appointment is at 28 weeks! As I'm not a new mum, I'm deemed not to need the intervention. Nice in a way but think it might swing me towards getting my own doppler now

Ashleigh I spoke to my mw yesterday about the feeding and the issues I'd had last time. She said she's going to write on my notes about it so I can stay in hospital for a night or two to get it established before heading home. I feel a bit happier about my chances now so might be worth a chat with yours.

Roll on the weekend - it's supposed to be glorious where we are and we have a few nice garden parties lined up from friends so am really looking forward to it. Hope everyone else has a great time too

Cece sorry hon, nearly forgot today's your big day Fingers crossed it's all good for you.

Welcome mummytopebs you're in good company and plenty of us have been where you are now so hang in there.
Liskey hope the spotting stops soon.

Big wave to everyone

Ciara11 · 22/05/2009 09:56

Blondiemix we are in pretty much the same situation arent we? Is this your first? I had a mc in Aug 08 and then a mmc and erpc in Jan 09 and now 7+3, so like you i am constantly comparing symptons each day to what it was like last time and then if my symptons seem less i worry that something is going wrong

Are you going for an early scan? I know i should but im just terrified of what they might or might not find.

Its just my tummy expanding (i suppose it could be wind/constipation or the weather) but i dont want to tell anyone yet, just in case - you cant win can you?

Mummytopebs yeap checking every time you go to the toilet is very common on this thread, i wonder if the worry will ever get less?

Liskey i hope the bloods come back ok, fingers crossed for you.

Lets hope will all have sticky beans this time.

Liskey · 22/05/2009 10:02

Cheers for that Ciara - Just popping out now for the bloods - i hate needles as well

mummytopebs · 22/05/2009 12:04

Good luck liskey hope everyting goes ok x and dont worry about a needle phobia you will be a pro by the end of your pregnancy x x

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