Pregnancy after Miscarriage Part IX - Knicker Checkers etc

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New one! Thought I would make my mark!

ash it's all very stressful for you at the moment, I'm not surprised you're feeling the pressure a little. I'd not take what your boss said as anything other than making sure you get all your money for now. Wait until your meeting on Monday and get the facts, then you can explore the options.

When DS was born, I had money saved up and had to trigger an Inland Revenue claim to the company I was working through to get the maternity money. It did take me a little longer to find a job when I went back than I'd thought, but I did get one and eventually I did win the claim. Got my smp money after I'd gone back to work - helped towards the credit card bill I'd run up

Glad you got the furniture ordered, it's a lovely step and you'll be thrilled with it when it arrives. Am sure you can delay delivery if need be!

Things will all work out one way or another so try not to worry. Both my dc's were born into houses that were building sites, due to delays and stuff. I like to think of it as character building

Thank you so much Scarlotti you've actually made it clear, there's nothing that i can do to prevent anything thats going to happen/can do to change anything that is happening so i might as well just relax and let things take there desired course! Must must relax and look after the little one in my tummy! Have you been out looking at little blue outfits yet?? How are your DCs taking the news that there'll be a new little boy around? xx

ash think that's the best way forward. I went and bought a 2 pack of babygro's from H&M after my scan The dc's are pleased, Ds wanted a brother to play with and dd gets to keep her top spot as only girl. Win-win all round

Ashleigh what a terrible time you're having at the moment, do you know how long it will be before you can sort out a moving date? How awful to have redundancy threat hanging over you now - I know it's impossible not to worry about money (unless you're very lucky ) but there are at least things like tax credits which help. I was quite surprised how much we got when I took a year off first time, have you looked into them as knowing what is on offer might help you feel better if the worst case scenario happens?

I have very trivial concerns in comparison - having never been bothered before I now wish I knew what I was having, which might be to do with the 5000th comment today that as I've been sick and still feel pretty rubbish it must be a girl.

Scarlotti queen of baby things have you got a sling? We had a babybjorn before and a friend has offered hers (we gave so much useful stuff away after DS2) but I wondered if there are better options. Don't want to spend much (if we buy one at all) as so far my kids have been too heavy for me to use them by 4 months, although DH managed a bit longer, but have read somewhere that ones like the babybjorn aren't the best in terms of the baby's position. As I may not be able to choose a pushchair for another 6 months I'd like to make sure I have some way of transporting the LO when they arrive.

alana we have a baby bjorn as was given it by my SIL last time. I didn't use it much but plan to more this time. A friend of mine used hers for months - the trick seems to be to use it from early on and regularly enough for your back to grow accustomed to the extra weight as baby grows.
I don't know much about the positioning, I know her dd refused to settle any other way though!
There is a great mn topic all about slings etc. so might be worth posting on there. I'd certainly be interested to hear the thinking.
Then I'd get yourself onto eBay to get one

Hi Favourite Mnetters!

How?s it all going? Have been quiet for a few days due to RL stuff getting in the way, but am happy to see good news for Mumface ! Congratulations and a warm welcome to the world for Connor! Sounds quite dramatic - birth story soon please! Hope you?re both recovering well and settling into life with a new small dictator

Scotlass brilliant to see you and well done Nathan for sleeping through the night already. Am v.impressed.

Crunch how is it going? Babymoon period worn off for (D)H? It does seem a real shame that you can?t have it all at the same time at the mo ? I mean, happy baby, happy relationship, happy DCs and happy non-wandering cat . Fate just won?t leave you alone will it? Really hope you guys can work it out ? what happened with (D)H?s cbt?

Herb!!!! You?re up next! Soon it will all be over missus and you?ll be well and truly into the next stage ? holding and being responsible for a real live actual baby! . Try and focus on that rather than the labour if you can (oh, and mid-Sept, feel free to pop right back in here and repeat my words straight back to me while I?m gibbering in fear in the corner and protesting ?I?ve changed my mind!?... ). You can do it!

Scarlotti you sound so lovely and positive at the mo. It?s great to see . And your shopping list is reminding me I?d better get something organised soon or LittleSyd will be sleeping nude in a drawer...

Ash poor you re the move not happening. Am v at the chain delayer guy on your behalf. Agree with Scarlotti re the redundancy thing ? try not to jump to conclusions, and on the positive side at least they don?t seem likely to deceive you in any way.

Alana I?ve been wondering about the babybjorn too ? friends have offered to give us one so I guess that?s pretty good

Enjoy your holiday Blondie - getting away in the 2nd trimester is a great thing to do, I still smile dimly to myself remembering my Madrid trip back in April

Hope everyone else is doing OK ? hi to Gently. Lola, Tamlin and all the rest of you silent but deadly knicker checkers out there!
My news is that DH is finally coming back from Greenland!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Due back next Tues. It will have been two whole months so I?m hoping my mahoosive bulk isn?t going to freak him out / give him Narwhal flashbacks or similar. The programme he?s been filming for is called Human Planet and will be on the BBC sometime next year. So if you see it you can all nod sagely and think of the vital hand-holding role you guys all played behind the scenes during the Arctic episodes .

In news more relevant to this thread LittleSyd and I have our big 28 week appointment with the midwife on Friday, more anti-D shots and the blood tests for iron etc. Is that also when they test for gestational diabetes? If so must remember not to have M&S cupcakes for breakfast that day . Sigh. No wonder I?ve gone up two dress sizes already. And a shoe size! What?s with that???

Just to say herb am thinking of you!! Good luck - and my top tip is if you can, sort out some clothes now to wear after - intitally you will be in maternity gear but then you won't and its really frustrating - so get some of your old stuff ready!

I have been to Spain with dh! It was fab altho we were 'that family' with the screaming baby on the plane...mainly cos she hates sitting down, once the seatbelt lights went off we were okay...

Ashleigh - I'm sure you've looked into this but I am pretty sure that women who are actually off on maternity leave are pretty well protected in terms of redundancy (i.e. have to be given preference for any available jobs, can't be put into a pool etc" - will have a quick google and get back to you.

Scarlotti - sorry I'm a bit late but congratulations on your scan and on your blue flavour!

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Just popping in to say hello. Not sure what I have missed. Don't get much time to sit at the computer these days.

Anyway I hope everyone is well. Tom is thriving, we went to the clinic today for a weigh in. He is following the 91st growth centile, so is getting rather heavy!

sydney great to hear from you and hooray about dh coming back from Greenland. I will certainly be looking out for his programme next year and waffling to dh about the wives that get left at home whilst these things are being filmed!!
Good luck for your 28 week appointment. My mw said I can eat whatever I like up until drinking the lucozade (which is less than is in the bottle she reminded me!) but then nothing until I get there. I see mine so infrequently that every time I've been I've been pricked with a needle
My feet went up a whole size with ds - I bought a pair of sandal type shoes to wear and by the end of the pg was glad to get shot of them! This time around it's already started - feet swelling at 20 weeks so will be one of those elephant legged woman by the end. Am just so glamourous, not!
Hope you have a lovely holiday too as think you'll be away while we are.

Dan welcome to the world of screaming babies on planes! We took Ds to the in-laws when he was 3 months - funniest part of it was the faces of the lads in the row behind us as I sat down with him in my arms!! Hope you all enjoyed your first family holiday, and you didn't have too much trouble trying to take her passport photo!!

lal hello! and thanks for the congrats. I thought that maternity leave protected you from some redundancy goings on too so well done on finding out the info.

Have a pg massage booked today at 4:20. Can't wait - am quite achey and bloated so hoping it will help!

Lal Thank you for that information, most of which i wasnt aware of, I am going to spend tomorrow looking into it properly.I really really apprecite your help.

Thank you all for the support regarding my house/job, I appreciate this is a knickerchecker thread but i do feel like you're a very supportive group of gals all round. So thanks

Suze I am over the moon for you that your DH is coming home and good luck with your 28 week appoint... Its all coming around so quickly isnt it. If the M&S cupcakes you are talking about, are the same as the ones i tried the other day then my goodness grief, HOW YUMMY!!!! How is your littlesyd? Is he a moving and a shaking? A rockin and a rollin?

Scarlotti Let us know how your massage goes... How is it different to a normal massage?? I am intrigued?! I am off to Sopwell House (a little Hertfordshire hotel) in a couple of weeks for my mum's birthday, am hoping to squeeze a couple of spa treatments in while I am there.yuuuuuuuummy.

cece it is good to hear that you and your little Tom are doing well.

Dan other than the short period of the screaming baby on plane, I hope that you had a lovely time away.

My feet are okay... I have gained 1 stone and 10lbs now - I am going to stop weighing myself now, and just embrace it... I will get back to normal when the baby is here.

We have now had our cot delivered.... yep yep, we've got a cot and no bloody house to put it in.

Thats all my news i think. Big big smiles and happy thoughts to all of you Knickercheckers/graduates xx

I'm sure there have been a couple of threads on here re redundancy in pregnancy - might be worth posting something on the employment thread?

Re putting on weight - I haven't a clue how much weight I've put on (I refuse to have a set of scales in the house!) 24 wk midwife appointment in a couple of weeks so will check then. Still managing to fit into a couple of pairs of ordinary trousers though!

Can I become a new member to the knicker checkers? I had a mc on 1st May and am pregnant again. I have no idea how many weeks as I had no af in between. I am a nervous wreck. I have even bought blue loo roll so I wouldn't be confronted with that shock of blood on white loo roll!

Seriously though I am finding it so difficult. I am constantly worrying that I don't have enough symptoms and that I am going to miscarry again. I have been feeling a bit sick on and off but nothing like with my other two dc.

I did pee on one of those clearblue digital ones that tells you the weeks too and it said 2-3 weeks so I think that only makes me 5 weeks. Do you think that is why the symptoms haven't really kicked in yet?

I have a scan on 10th July but it seems so far away and all I can hear in my head is the sonographer telling me the baby has died.

Hi Luckywinner and welcome to the Knicker Checkers! So sorry to hear about your miscarriage. Conceiving straight afterwards is actually quite common - I did it with this pregnancy (now 28 weeks) and so did many others of us on here. Apparently we're more fertile after an MC...

Congratulations on your pregnancy. It's completely understandable that you're worrying - we've all lost our innocence about pg in a way. Try to keep in your mind that this is a completely different pregnancy and has just as much of a chance of succeeding as any other (as a wise woman once told me on this very thread ...). Symptoms can be different pregnancy to pregnancy too, and our memories can play tricks. Fingers crossed you've got a sticky bean in there and will be with us for the long haul

welcome to the thread luckywinner and feel free to air any worries or concerns you have here. Chances are one of us will have been through the same thing. I'll echo what suze has said about symptoms, they can't be taken as an indicator of anything really.

ash pg massage was just the same as any other but I had to lie in a sort of recovery position. Not the most relaxing I have to say so don't think i'll be doing that again. When pg with DS I had a hydromassage - basically laying on your back on a water filled mattress and massaged from underneath. Supportive, relaxing and lovely - might try that again.

cece glad to hear Tom is doing so well.

Am having a bit of a blue spell this end. keep looking around the house and it's a mess so it annoys me - dh is hopeless at cleaning up after himself (his mother always did it for him ) so getting a bit fed up it's all falling to me. Hopefully our hols next week will cheer me up.

Hello

Just popping in to say hello !

Lvoely to catch up on the baby news and the preggy news

Many congrats Mumface crunch - sorry things with dh aren't good.

herby - so looking forward to hearing your news. You must be 39+5 today. How. v.exciting for us onlookers !!

Not much news here - Lara is doing fine. She is now 15 weeks which is amazing !! Still having me up in the night but sometimes its only once and she has mastered going to bed at 7.30 so I have my evenings back which is great. She is truly a pleasure .

Ok have only skimmed as haven't read for a while so apologies for anything I've missed and am going back to read in depth.

Hello everybody. I need some advice/reassurance, please. I am currently almost 10 weeks pregnant and I had a successful scan on Monday, which should a heartbeat and fetal movement. Now four days later I am worried as I had a small amount of thick brown (yellow tinged - sorry tmi) discharge when I wiped. This has coincided with less nausea since yesterday evening, although I have already had 'days off' from nausea in this pregnancy from time to time. (The rest of the time the nausea is pretty full on.) I am feeling sick-ish though and now, very panicked also as it is bringing back memories of my 6 week mc 3 months ago. I cannot go to the hospital now as I have my children to pick up from school and then I must take them to two different appointments. My husband will not be back until Saturday night and my gynea is in Paris (2 and a half hrs train journey away from here). Has anyone had a similar experience? I guess, maybe, I should monitor things and go with my husband on Monday to the hospital. I just can't face going alone after my last mc experience.

Hi luckywinner, don't worry too much about lack of symptoms yet - I felt the same and then at 8 weeks starting throwing up everywhere, which I never did with first 2 pgs. It will come

Jardins I had some brown spotting from 12 to 15 weeks - perhaps not exactly the same as you, and you should definitely go to see someone (with some support, I made the mistake of going to dating scan when mmc was found on my own) but it is really common and there may be no cause found for it. On the positive side, it's not fresh blood (although as others on this thread will probably come on to say, even people having proper bleeds may find it just stops and everything is fine) and if it's not accompanied by pain then it less likely to be anything problematic. Fingers crossed for you.

Hello to everyone else, hope the sunshine continues for the weekend - my DH is off on a week long course tomorrow so nothing like your DH's absence Sydney but still dreading week of boisterous children when all I really want to do is sleep!

Aw thanks everyone, I am glad I found this thread. Today I feel seriously sick! And I am now wondering why I was wishing for it!

Jardins, I had exactly the same with both my dc. I had it at 11 weeks with my ds and 10 weeks with my dd. Everything was fine. I had it both times days after my scan and went back straight away but my doc told me it was a bleed outside of the cervix rather than inside iyswim.

Hth

jardins, I had bleeding on and off from nine and a half weeks through to fifteen. I got told that it's not uncommon to bleed approaching the turn of the trimester there (although I think mine did go on unusually long). I'm really hoping that this is all it is for you - your miscarriage chances are very low now (I want to say 3%?) after seeing a hb at that stage.

Thank you so much for your kindness. I feel so tired and dispondant. I managed to keep it all in during my son's medical appointment and then I went to pick up my daughter at one of our best friends who asked me how the pregnancy was going. I told her about my scare today and I promptly burst into tears. I think it did me good to release things! Mumsnet really is a blessing though.

I had a little more discharge, thick but more yellowy than brown and I feel nauseous tonight again.

I just feel so fed up with the last three months as I have had my fair share of ordeals to deal with 'alone' since my husband is working away from home. We have the move to deal with and I don't feel I have the energy to do anything much. And when I think of all these weeks spent feeling nauseous for a good cause. IF I miscarry it will seem like such a waste of time.

I'm so sorry to be pathetic and wingy....

Love to you all.

jardins I had bleeding (brown) at 6+3 so understand how you're feeling. I'm now 21 weeks along and all is fine. A heartbeat at 10 weeks gives you over a 98% chance of going to term. The chances of miscarrying drop to the lowest rate throughout pregnancy after 10 weeks so try and hold on to that thought. Brown blood is old blood so that's also a good sign, cervical erosion is also really common and can result in brown blood.
Your discharge could also be a result of thrush which is really common in pregnancy due to hormonal changes. Thrush can also irritate the cervix and cause bleeding.

We've all had our turn at being 'pathetic and wingy' on here (which you're not by the way) so please let out all your fears as we do understand and are here for support.

Hang in there and on Monday go with your dh to the hospital for a check up.

Hi All,

Just thought I'd let you know I had my scan today and was very to see little beans heart beat I have been dated at 5 + 2.

Sorry I haven't had to time to catch up on the thread, I will have a good read through tomorrow. Night night.

Scarlotti thank you for your support. You won't be surprised to read that I slept very badly last night. I am absolutely convinced that my breasts are less tender and swollen and that I've lost the baby.