Pregnancy after Miscarriage Part IX - Knicker Checkers etc

[dan39]

New one! Thought I would make my mark!

Evening ladies

Well .... all is well and we're having another boy! So crunch your initial instinct was spot on!

Had a flicker of disappointment as had been leaning towards a girl but it's fading fast Like the idea of two blonde boys running around the place .... then all going off to the football with dh and leaving me in peace for a few hours

Am also waking up around the 5:30 mark ds got up then too this morning so a long day.

Ruby fingers crossed for your scan tommorrow.

Thanks everyone, will let you know what happens tomorrow x

Yay Scarlotti congrats on a good scan ! And two boys will be lovely, they can be each others' best mates through life. My DH and his brother are so close, always have been, and it's lovely to see. I think it's very normal to feel a little flat and say 'goodbye' to the possibility of the other flavour too though. I definitely had a couple of days feeling that after I found out LittleSyd is a girl, even though I had been so sure anyway.

Nice to see you again Ruby and fingers crossed for the EPU scan today. Lots of us have had cramps at early stages.

Hi Tamlin you poor love having nightmares - have you thought of trying hypnotherapy maybe combined with acupuncture? And I hate to sound like that Horror Receptionist but have you made your final decision on which hospital to use yet? It could of course be the dread of Hospital A**e that is contributing to your dreams. Maybe hypnotherapy would give you some practical tools to deal with this?

to everyone else.

sydney thanks, and I think I am having to come to terms a little with it not being a girl. This is definitely my last so I guess that doesn't help. I am excited about having two little boys though so I guess I just want it all!!

Tamlin hope you're doing ok. Must be awful to be so terrified. I've had hypnotherapy for an issue before and I have to say it worked wonders. It reprogrammes your response to a situation so is ideal for these things as it can just reduce the snxiety you feel.
I hope you feel better after the debrief with the midwife and maybe start to lay some ghosts to rest.

Ruby good luck for today

scarlotti glad all is well, and 2 boys are lovely, I should have stuck with my first instinct!

ruby good luck today

Im pleased to say that the scan went well - I was so scared before hand and burst into tears when I saw the screen. I m not sure I 'll stop being anxious but I do feel better.
Thanks for the support x

Suze, am phobic about needles, so the thought of acupuncture gives me the screaming wiggins! I think I will be delivering at the other hospital, but I still want to get hold of my notes and talk over what the hell went wrong during my previous delivery with staff from the last place... If they honestly think that there's a chance of me tearing badly, I'm going to start campaigning for a section.

My doula did suggest hypnobirthing, but I picked up the Mongan book and had serious issues with the whole 'Your body is made to do this!' and 'They're not contractions, they're surges!' guff. Not to mention her assertion that animals give birth easily and without pain so we should be able to too (ha, as a farmer's daughter I've seen too many cows and sheep stranded mid-labour to take THAT line seriously - also, unlike other mammals, we have comparatively small, upright pelvises and babies with very large skulls, ffs.) I might try pick up the CDs second-hand, but I'm not expecting great things...

Ruby, I'm SO glad your scan went well! I cried when I saw mine too...

Scarlotti, congratulations on your boy! I imagine I'll feel much the same way as you - I love the thought of two sturdy little towheaded boys running about, but I also do rather like the idea of a son AND a daughter...

Shame about the needles Tamlin. And never fear, I didn't mean hypnobirthing - I meant hypnotherapy to deal with the trauma of your previous awful birth experience. I've heard such good things about hypnotherapy for trauma

Just got back from hospital.Baby Connor Ellis was born on Friday afternoon 3 weeks early 6lb 1oz.
My contractions stopped after my waters broke so i had to be induced...16 hours and an epidural later he arrived.We are both well.

mumface Congratulations on your little bundle of joy xx

P.s My son is called Ellis!

Congratulations Mumface, love the name Connor.

Also congratulations Ruby and Scarlotti on your scans, great news - 2 boys are lovely as others have said, and when they're not being great mates they can wrestle with each other and their dad for what seems like hours and if perfect for putting your feet up as they think girls (and mums) can't do this kind of stuff.

Tamlin, I have a friend who had hypnotherapy after a traumatic first birth and she said it really helped - only second hand, I know, but might be worth a go. She was quite into it generally - also gave up smoking and lost 2 stone by having hypnotherapy.

mumface congratulations on the birth of your son!! what wonderful news to start the week. 6lbs is a good weight for 3 weeks early. Sorry to hear you had to be induced etc. though, hope it wasn't too traumatic for you.

Ruby great news on your scan, how many weeks are you now then?

alana that's one of the positives that's been sinking in.... Dad can take the two boys to the football and I'll have some peace! I have a dd who is almost 15 so by the time the football outings start she'll be in her 20's and we can meet for shopping/coffee trips as the horrendous teenage years will be behind us!!

Am looking forward to having my boys now - it's funny though, now I know what we're having I feel quite impatient to meet him - given I'm only halfway that's not happening anytime soon! Went into H&M after the scan and bought a little blue babygro so will just have to content myself with folding that instead

How is everyone else today?

Had another good night with Connor he is bottle feeding every 4 hours and does not cry a lot in between!(yet!)
Am waiting for midwife then we are off to mothercare to get smaller clothes they are swamping him!

Hi everyone, just popped back in to say hello and see how everyone is doing. I can?t believe my beautiful baby boy is 9wks now and is asleep like a wee angel in his moses basket. Not that he?ll fit in that much longer as he is huge, will be a 6 footer I reckon. Still exclusively breastfeeding and that?s going great, haven?t quite got round to expressing yet, far to busy out and about enjoying ourselves . I?ll try and post some up to date pics.

mumface many congratulations, hope Connor continues to be good for you. We?re the opposite; Nathan needs his 3-6mths clothes now!

scarlotti congrats it?s the boy flavour, I echo that it?s nice they?ll have each other growing up and your DD will enjoy her place as the only girl if she?s like mine.

Tamlin the one thing about childbirth is there?s no predicting. I have to be honest and say that my last birth experience was one of the reasons there?s a 10yr age gap between my LO?s. However this time could not have been more different and I actually rather enjoyed it (mental I know). All I can say is try and not focus on the event but concentrate on the outcome and hopefully you?ll have an easier time too. I figured the only thing I could do to try and ensure the baby was in a good position was to use my birthing ball antenatally and used to lean over it in the evening in the hope it?d move him into a good position.
Also it made me completely uncomfortable the whole way through getting congratulations. If I could?ve hidden my bump I would?ve. The MW in the labour unit also looked at me like I?d gone mad when my only words to her before the speedy arrival of DS was ?I can?t lose this one too?, she was like ?why on earth would you??, never got to explain as his head was on the way out.

Hiya to dan, tsom, crunch, wheely daisy and all the other graduees.

Gotta go, someones stirring. Can?t complain he slept 2330 ? 0640 last night, bliss.

Evening all and hi to the newbies, welcome!

Right, broadband now back on as of today (oh the joys of living in the sticks!) but am off on hols on Wednesday morning. So just a quick hi from me, things seem to be going well touch wood and no more spotting which is such a relief. Tummy still expanding at a rate of knots! 12 week scan is on Thursday 2nd (will actually be nearly 13 weeks then) so will be back then for a proper catch up!

Hope all are doing well.

mumface CONGRATULATIONS that's great news. Very pleased for you.

scotlass good to see you. Can't believe dd is 6 weeks!

Tamlin didn't know you were a fellow farmer's daughter. I've had to help out more that a few hundred sheep with their birth processes so I know what you mean! The idea that their contractions are painless! Ha!

Hello everyone. Having a few H problems here. Think this might be it. According to him I have no right to any time to myself (but he does).

So sick of it all to be honest. Polly's still lovely though

Crunch sorry to hear you're having H problems again and that it's reaching breaking point. Has his CBT come through yet? Hope you have some support in RL to help you through .... remember, even in worst case scenario you WILL be fine. You're made of stern stuff my girl and have proved that time and time again over the last several months. Don't let the fog of the first months of a newborn cloud that fact.

Sending some very un-mumsnetty love and hugs your way

scotlass lovely to see you again, glad to hear Nathan is doing so well. You're right about DD being pleased she's the only girl - she's my DH's step daughter so it's an added bonus of sorts. She wrote in his card 'from you're one and only daughter' for Father's day so it's obviously something she's thought through too. Yet another silver lining!

blondieminx lovely to hear from you and enjoy your hols.

mumface what an angel Connor sounds

Hi Girls

Thought I'd check in... I've rather lost track of this thread, maybe because there was no-one left ahead of me to listen to! But then Mumface came back and spurred me on with tales of angel Connor!

I'm 39+2, and bricking it. I want it to all happen, yet at the same time would be perfectly happy for him to stay in there another month. In theory. Trying to do pre-baby nesting activities, having noticed such things as dirty skirting boards, but bending over gives me both heartburn and braxton hicks, so they'll just have to wait for another four years! Did manage to make some food for the freezer at the weekend, so maybe that was the sum total of my domestic goddess-ness.

Still afflicted with terror of labour, and odd feelings of 'no, I've changed my mind. I wanted to be pregnant, but now I've got to have a baby and he might not like me, or I might not like him, blah blah...' Hopefully this is either completely normal or crazy hormones...

Oh Crunch sorry to hear that. I know it doesn't help with H but have you got anyone else who can relieve you for a bit?

herbaceous I've just checked and my skirting boards are still filthy 6 years after first baby. The only people I know with children and a clean house have a cleaner

Hello ladies,

Its been very quiet on here of late.. hope everyone is okay.

Firstly, Scarlotti yey, you're in the blue baby club like me . Initially i was steering towards a little pink baby but not that the news has sunk in, I am over the moon... Everyone is getting their first grandson as my sister has had a little girl and my DP & his brother are childless so i feel happy all round. I am pleased all went well at your scan

mumface Congratulations on your little bundle of joy, sending lots of 'cooing' noises your way, I am sure he is absolutely gorgeous.

Suze how are you and littlesyd? Have you had a date through about DH's return? I am pleased that you can postpone your holiday, and you'll have such a lovely time and maybe better weather ... always look on the bright side!!

ruby Congrats on the scan
blondie have a fantastic time away... I am not jealous not one tiny bit.

Scotlass Its always nice for a graduate to check in on us, I am pleased you're all getting on well.

Herb I cant believe you're nearing your due date - I will be watching the thread eagerly from now on, we're going to have a newbie graduate SO soon!

Crunch I am pleased your cat is home, how are you all settling in now? How is DH?

Tamlin how are you? I hope that the nightmares have subsided a little bit. I cant imagine what that must be like.

Becks How are you getting on?

Lola are you out there? How are things with you? You must be 31 weeks too?

Well we went to our first NHS run Antenatal Class last night, it was brilliant. I am so pleased that we went to be honest. There were 10 other couples there and a lot of talking about labour and other bits and pieces.. Although i had read most of the stuff prior to the meeting, DP had not therefore i think it was very useful to him. We're going back next week - they had those chocolate/marshmallow tea cakes so why the devil wouldnt we go!!

I have got 8 1/2 weeks to go now, feeling increasingly nervous as my mind stops thinking about losing the baby and starts thinking about the scary process of actually getting the baby into the world.

I am VERY very to say that we're not moving on Friday anymore, the people whose house we're buying can't move as the idiot man in the house they're buying wont budge out... He is getting a divorce and has swanned off on holiday now so we're left without a moving date as no one can get hold of him. I am heartbroken, but trying not to think about it. scarlotti I think my waters will be breaking as i enter the house for the first time!!!!!

Well ladies, I think thats me pretty much up to date. I am allowing myself to still have the day off on Friay, despite not moving, so that I can relax.

Oh and forgot to mention, we've had redundancy meetings at work this week, so on top of having a baby, trying to buy this effing house and worrying about living from SMP - I now have the threat of redundancy hanging over my head. Will find out on Monday if i am to stay.

Lots of love & hope that all are doing well at their various stages. I think that i spotted a new thread for people who are in early pregnancy after a miscarriage, that's why 'knickercheckers' might be getting a little quiet?

xx

Morning all,

Really happy to hear that everything is going so well for everybody.

I'm feeling ok, very tired, very sick if I don't eat every couple of hours and very sore boobs so all seems to be going well

I have my scan on Friday morning so hopefully everything will be good and I'll finally have my due date!!

I hope everyone enjoys this lovely weather, however I know that some will find it very uncomfortable.

Herb good to hear from you - your feelings are all perfectly normal so don't worry. Whilst in labour with ds, I announced to dh that I'd had enough for the day and wanted to go home. Said I'd be happy to come back the following day to pick up where I'd left off
I think the enormity of what we're about to go through hits us and fills us with terror and excitement all at once!

ash lovely to hear from you, was wondering where you'd got to! Am v happy to be in the blue club now and think it will be lovely for DS as he's the closest in age.
at your moving saga. Really hope you get it all sorted out soon, some people just have no morals or empathy for others.
Really hope the redundancy threat gets resolved for you soon, and with the right result.
Antenatal classes at our hospital were rubbish but our NCT ones were a godsend. Did you manage to make any friends? I'd definitely try if there's someone you spot that you think you'd get on with as it's lovely to have someone at the same stage to go over every neurosis with!!

Becks fingers crossed for Friday - will look out for your news. Sickness is a good sign!

Doing ok here. Won a cosytoes on eBay last night so the pram makeover is coming along - will be red and dark grey, a stylish number for my wee boy
Heartburn still here to stay though

scarlotti that is so funny I done the same thing when in labour with DS, I said thats it I've had enough he can stay in there for a couple more days, then the next contraction came!!

Scarlotti I know, I have been off for a while, its all of this redundancy and stress at work etc. Anyway had a meeting this morning and my employer told me that they were looking at paying my maternity pay in 1 lump sum, this is just in case the company goes under while i am off... I don't know if he is subtly trying to tell me that I am the one that is going to be made redundant.. I will just have to wait and see, I think its a blessing that I have saved up enough money to have the time off for my maternity leave but on the other hand it means when this money runs out I will be trying to find a job with a little one etc.

It sounds like you've come an awful long way, check you out with your stylish pushchair! He's a lucky little boy!

My heartburn has been okay lately, I am sure it'll be back to attack me at some point.

We didnt really make friends at the class, there were a lot of people there and a few of the DHs/DPs were smarmy know it alls so i think it intimidated DP a little bit, we did speak to a few of the couples, one of them was due the day after us, they looked really nice so think we'll try and sit with them next week. I am just pleased that DP is finally getting that we're not going to have a miscarriage and that we should be preparing for a baby!

Oh did i say that we ordered the furniture for the baby's nursery... I know we have no house but it felt right to do it still. We got it from Mammas and Papas and I am over the moon with it, hopefully it wont be delivered until we have a moving date.

Hope you're enjoying the sunshine.

xx