Oh dear.
Well, I suppose you are pg.
Just wondering if everyone in the world is as crap and unfeeling when you're not pg.?
I tend to take my cue from what you, the OP have said, and from what I remember you berated the mother for feeding her child when she was expecting you (obviously she hadn't clued the child in to the the diary arrangements), and then accused her of abandoning her children too... completely confusing. Hope no one judges you similarly - oh, yes, they did.
Just so you don't feel too isolated, I didnt' amass anything very much at all. I bought all my stuff myself, despite having several friends (I know! They can't know the real me)..mostly just got a few toys, but they were new, so that's lucky.
I've just decided to take a few minutes out of my busy life as a pg. princess to look at what you ACTUALLY said, just to make sure that I didn't misunderstand you......
"we're moving halfway across the country when I'm around 7-8 months pregnant" - presumably you had a say in that somewhere? But agree, you need proper packers/vans for that.. We're moving at 37 weeks and DH is currently positive he can do it by himself.
"..even be the wrong colour if my little one is a boy.. the generous benefactor has also been told that..." - I bet she's glad she made the effort now.
".. expertly arranged for us to come round as she was feeding her baby was incredibly rude..peered at us through her half shut door while leaving her kid unattended " Well which was it sweetie, because either she was feeding her child in a most inconvenient fashion, or should have been reported for neglect.
"we're thinking a sling and a bus, will the hospital kick up a fuss about that.." Before you starting berating others for not having a clue, perhaps you should get a little practical help on the basics yourself.
"..I asked if people had any of their old baby gear in their lofts..." which presumably put everyone in an awkard position of feeling they had to help. How the hell do you know why they would or wouldn't want to hold on to stuff? The only person who gave me what was useful, well, I didn't ask, they were offered, was a friend who handed over all her newborn basics because she had CA whilst pg. and wasn't going to have another baby. Life sucks doesn't it?
"don't want to waste what was once money from my dead mum.... Maybe some of you lot get your parents to buy lots of bits for the baby. That must be nice... And actually people seem to rely on their mums for a hell of a lot when pregnant and after giving birth... and if anything they seem pretty ungrateful about that help, which I'd chew my right arm off for.... DH's mum will be busy nursing her hubby with a terminal neurodegenerative illness so we're all on our own..." and here, dear reader, I suspect we come to the crux of the problem. It's horrible, and heart breaking when we don't have our parents, even if it's just from estrangement, but especially if they've died, but it's not anyone else's fault, and it does you no favours to make everyone else pay for your pain/anger. I'd say, ditch the movers afterall, stay off work a little less time, and get some au pair type help for 3-6 weeks.
"..a pack of bored housewives.." ..clarsy
"..What horrible minds you and your righteous indignation inhabit...." pot, kettle, black, look in the mirror, oh there are so many cliches, I can barely breathe..
"..I thought my hubby was being a bit harsh when he looked at some of these threads and thought they were dominated by rather too many spoilt little princess types. I was wrong..." Thank goodness you have someone on your team who thinks as you do. It must make life just about bearable.
Gosh, someone must have taken over my body because I never EVER post like this - but, well, I feel SOOO much better for it.
ah yes, I've finally come off the drugs in expectation of our next happy delivery, and it seems very much that out of the mouths of babes, drunks, and women who are off their med.s..... apparently DH finds it "refreshing"....