40 + Mums and Mums to be - Bellies, Tellis, Vomit and Poo

[Tee2072]

Here's another one!

Come on by if your 40 + and are pregnant, almost pregnant, just pregnant or even just want some virtual cake!!!

Oh I'm so touched!!

It may be the wine and calvados tho'!

I do miss you all but sometimes do feel a bit 'out of it' on here sometimes, babies seem so long ago

I have however been in teenage hell recently!!

Anyhow, you are all looking wonderful, I lurve k's hairslide JW - isn't she gorgeous!?! am very about your weightloss, I start slimming world courtesy of the local health authority on Monday, but I did have to lie slightly about my height to get my BMI over 30 [thankful emoticon!]

Tee - you look fantastic, just as you should, I really hope that your health is keeping ok?

MrsB - when did D turn into a little boy? He looks soooo grown up and handsome

JJ - What the hell are you doing to your garden?? Your girls are looking fab too - and they all seem to have grown up so much and I haven't been away that long!

So hello to those who remember me? (hedgepig, are you still here?) and hello to those who are wondering who this long winded person is!

My Open University Course has kicked in with a vengence and I am now full time at work, so that's most of my waking hours gone. I also have to keep up with Lost, The Apprentice and Great British Menu. I am however managing to kick the DM habit

Dh is well and wonderful, dd is still gorgeous and enjoying single life and the ds's are loud, fighty and lovely, but I bloody hate school holidays.

Off to bed now, lovely to be missed!

lilibet I've been watching the Great British Menu too. I love Prue Leith but sometimes she's really quite ascerbic when it's not needed.

Great to hear that you're on the health kick too. And it's free! I remember you mentioning the OU course. So you're having success with it so far? Was it in english lit or was it creative writing? Sorry, my memory is shocking these days.

You've no need to feel out of it on here although I feel out of life in general most days We love you on this thread so please don't desert us and hang around

Yep, I'm off for a smear in an hour or so and to get my test results. I'm so excited

Morning all.

So good to see you lilibet. I agree with JW, you are more than welcome and shouldn't feel left out!

I also watch Great British Menu. I hate both of this week's chefs! Their menus suck!

In an interesting turn of events, my blood sugar is now too low, as opposed to the too high it was last week. I'm waiting for a diabetic nurse to ring me back.

I'm also fretting a bit as the baby has gone from big kicks to little flutters. Except as I was writing that? Fairly big kick!! Motherhood, who needs it!!

heron not a name at all! DH and I keep coming up with things the other person hates and then its back to the drawing board! I have a feeling we'll name it when we see it!

Morning ladies. Another rubbish night - up three times with verity and now she's gone off for a snooze

lilibet Teenage hell is just what I'm not looking forward too! But well done you on the OU course...AND full time work, blimey girl, I take my hat off to you and wave it with a flurry! That's hard work without children

Our garden is a 'work in progress' although in the last few days it's really taken shape. We live on a hill (as do most folk in High Wycombe...darn these Chilterns!) so we're tiering it - to give a flat lawn for the girls to play on and a nice patio up the top for me to drink gin on It's 80ft - so a fair size and DP is doing it all himself!! I shall post a pic when all is finished! Yes, don't run off for good - pleeeasse [whinging teenage voice emoticon!]

JW have fun this morning Let us know how you get on.

tee your blood sugars are detective work for even the most hardened medical professional - keep up the good work! Those big kicks will start to change the bigger you get - soon you'll just feel (and see) it stretching!!

Not doing much today - peeing it down outside. I think I too feel a bit out of sync with life too. Must amend that somehow.....MMMMmm, rubs chin and considers.

jj hi have you had your cuppa this morning? i find that helps after a disturbed sleep night! it was drizzling here before. now it is just grey and silent. feels like the clouds are right on top of my head! took LO to GP cos he started coughing. just wanted to get his chest checked. all ok. she said some kind of virus,whatever. he is eating ok so that is good. touch wood.

tee do you have a fetal heart monitor? i bought one cos i wanted to be reassured! also have you heard of kick counting? i used to do it to distraction!

Hello everyone, I've been away on our Easter hols. We rented a house between 12 adults and 10 kidlets, so it was a bottle of milk in one hand and a bottle of wine in the other (not me of course although I couldn't resist a little glass of veuve cliquot - it tastes so fin de siecle in this economic climate). Had a fantastic time apart from when we took friend's dog for a walk and it streaked off across the countryside towards the road. I belted after it through rough fields until my asthma kicked with DP storming after me shouting 'it's only a dog think of the baaaaaaaaaby'. Bloody dog was waiting for us at home of course.

I'll catch up on your news when I have time to backread the pages I've missed (boy, we do TALK don't we?!), but you all sound pretty chipper. Tee I did find time to check out your new bump pic - blooming marvelous!

ah Tee (Ft being revoltingly patronising)welcome to the world of worry that is motherhood!...I honestly thought I'd return to the chilled human being Dh married once I finally got a sucessful pregnancy ...

....has everyone stopped laughing yet?

Once I put the doppler away and had my darling in my arms I started ocd checking his breathing ...I still can't let him nap for more than an hour or go to bed at night without going in to check him ...and once he started walking and climbing he started making my heart live almost permanently in my mouth....its a good job I left it so late to have my first or these wrinkles and grey hairs would be considerably more prolific a lot sooner.

...but even after a night that closely rivals JJs (deep sympathy JJ) I wouldn't have it any different, glutton for punishment that I am

lillibet great to hear from you

Peachycan't believe you went charging after someone elses dog!!!

bother...he wakes...got to go

yeah, the breathing thing...me too.

That was pretty patronizing, floria!! Baby has moved more now, so not quite so twittery!

peachy you are nicer than I am. I have a strict no running rule when I'm not pregnant!

JJ shall I offer my diabetic team a meerschaum pipe and a deer stalker hat?

I'm loving my doppler! I use it very quickly because the baby clearly doesn't appreciate the intrusion and flips off as soon as it can. I know I will be totally OCD a la Floria about breathing - I'm thinking of strapping a baby monitor to my head. When we were away one of our friends had a monitor with a little TV screen. We were hoping they'd leave it on when they went to bed but alas we were spared that sight...

Afternoon ladies. Ok, doc's cancelled the smear as the nurse is sick. Made the receptionist laugh though as I told her on the phone 'damn, I've put my best knickers on today as well'. Having it next week instead. As for neck/blood results, I have a local infection which showed elevated markers on my ESR. Doc said it'll go away on it's own in time. BIG PHEW!

Doc asked me how my bloods sugars were this morning. I was slightly puzzled but answered him anyway. Then he asked me how much insulin I was taking these days. ERRR none! Turns out his system is well out of date so we compared notes and brought it up to date. LOL.

Digital photo frame came today so I've been playing with it. Now I can bore the pants off any visitors with splendid pics of K, DSS, DH and my older 3. Even put the dog on there!

peachy I hired a doppler and K always moved away from it but I always knew where to find her as she rarely moved from one position. She's still the same now she's on the outside

floria I still check all of my children. Bear in mind the oldest is 23 I am in and out of K's bedroom before I go to bed though checking her breathing. I'm so glad it's not just me being peculiar.

Off to dentists soon with DSS for a small filling - him not me. He's dreading it so I've been chosen as the special one between myself and his father. A compliment I guess Oh what full and interesting lives us parents have! Talking of which, floria hope that your mum has recovered well and she's back on her feet

Gosh - why is looking after two kiddies under three so exhausting???!

heron not only did I have my morning cuppa but i had two coffees too !

peachy you ran after someone elses dog You're bonkers...hahaha you won't be doing that in a few months Glad you had a nice time though and get you with yer Veuve Cliquot Where did you rent the house?

floria my panic started with my lost waters at 26 weeks....and still it continues...if I'm not having a mini drama (albeit a calm one) then I feel I'm not embracing Motherhood full-on!

tee am PMSL @ the idea of the Sherlock Holmes'esque' outfits

I have zero energy today. I should be on my stepper but I'm just snarling at it instead. Don't think that helps with the weight loss though...ho hum....cranberry and white chocolate chip biccie anyone?

X-post - gosh MN is slow today.

jw BRILLIANT news...on all fronts neck and insulin!! That really is a big phew! ...*helps self to a celebratory biscuit on your behalf

Shame you had to waste a pair of clean knickers though!

Have fun at the dentist with DSS - you ARE the chosen one

LOVE my picture frame...hours of pleasure....hours of telling Iris not to pull it off the shelf!

good news jw! summat and nowt like we said

I was still diabetic too when I wnet to the docs the other week as they had my repeat prescription for the lances and strips still on the go.

just been to Marks ans S to get my fruit for lunch and examine the bread rolls to see which ones have low enough fat for me to be able to have with my soup tonight (oh the glamour). While there my cake radar went off and I discovered that they are doing fabby new cupcakes - some of which have only 6g of fat so even jw and I could have one at a push.

right. back to work.

JW great news on the neck! Bummer about the knickers...maybe DH would appreciate a peek?

I do not have a doppler as I think it would make me worry more if I couldn't find the heartbeat! I think I'm just a bit more anxious than usual due to the fact that I haven't been to see the OB/Endo in about a month thanks to the Easter Holiday.

You'll love this...coworker told me yesterday that she wants to train to be a midwife!! Took all my self restraint to not reply with 'oh, then you'd have to actually learn some stuff rather than giving your wrong opinion all the time. Do you think you could handle that?'

Tee you cowworker is the limit. Although there are quite a few that misinform - when I was about 4 weeks a mw told me using a hot water bottle was lethal because it would "quite literally cook my baby".

JJ I only ran after the dog because DP and his nephew and I had borrowed it for our walk - so I felt responsible. All i could think was that I would have to listen to the children wailing all night over their lost pet shivering in a ditch in some forgotten field... I won't be doing it again though, the blasted dog had the homing instinct of a pigeon!

Oh. My. God. peachy that would be hilarious if it wasn't so terrible! if it would literally cook the baby then wouldn't it literally cook the mother too though?

tee It's a vocation the woman has, clearly,

at least you wouldn't have to worry about admitting tothe odd glass of wine though, if she was your mw!

Thanks for the info, Iris. I'll look it all up. I'm going for a kneeling upright position in labour, using the bed for support. That's my first choice, anyway. Second choice? Unconscious .
Just out of interest, did the drips go further up your arm with DS2?
JW did you start the raspberry leaf tea at 36 weeks? I was reading on the web last night that a lot of people actually start it much earlier. I'm thinking of drinking it by the bucket load. .

Hi all. Tee2072 has kindly invited me to share my question with you, so here goes....

I'd really appreciate some advice from anyone who's faced a similar 'predicament' to mine.

I'm 40, have 2 lovely teenage daughters and got divorced 5 yrs ago. Happy with a new partner for the past 2 years and feeling desperately broody.

And so, to my dilemma. Logically, I can see that trying for a baby might not be the greatest idea. I'm the main breadwinner so, realistically, I'd have to go back to work soon after having a baby. Yet every time I so much as hear the word 'baby', I yearn for one!

Any words of wisdom please?
Lulu27

Lulu - go for it, do it and do it now!! (not literally now, you understand, unless of course he's nearby! )

Oh JW you've reminded me - I need a smear

lulu go for it! whyever not? you're only a spring chicken. does your partner want to?
going back to work can be a bummer but that's not an age thing.

Ladies I need some advice on a rather unpleasanr matter which has arisen at Boogie mansions...
The cat (full name: that Effing B*stard Cat!) the one which likes to chew holes in my jammies, is banned from our bedroom, principally for said pyjama eating offences, but is forever on the lookout for opportunituies to sneak in there. He has managed to get in there a few times lately, predictably enough coinciding with his first flea infestation of the year but before we could deflea the 'orrible bugger. Of course now there are fleas in our bed - at least I think there are, because me and OH have flea bites about our person. I have washed bedding etc to no avail as the things are probably in the mattress (yuk).

My question is how to I fumigate the mattress? I am not one to bother overly about chemicals but D sleeps in the bed and I don't want to use anything that might affect him. Anyway all the household flea sprays that I saw today say not to use on bedding.

Is there anything I can do or am I doomed to having itchy ankles and knees forever?

mrsb you should probably call an exterminator and see if they can recommend anything.

lulu I'm pregnant with my first baby at 40. Go for it!!

Hi there
Sorry long time no post but have been suffering from anxiety and depression and have only managed to keep up with my antenatal thread before crying (again). Hormones? Anyhooo the little bundles are moving around like mad now so i feel a bit better about actually having them. I am the size of a juggernaut but never mind. I am now 18 weeks pregnant with twins and will be 42 in July. And to all the midwives with their gloom and doom -yesterday I shifted 6 bales of hay and grappled with a lame horse so there! I can't stay in my bedroom forever. Speak soon....off to do more grappling..... Miss talking to you all.

lulu definately go for it. I had my first at 43 and would be pg again now if only Dh would agree ..I'm not the main bread winner, I teach from home but would have lost my client base if I hadnt returned to work before he was 4 wks old...

mrsb I'm sure the vet can reccommend a spray that should be harmless to D after airing the room. Failing that vac the bed, the carpet, every nook and cranny with a flea collar in the vac bag (mils suggestion, apparently that is what her vet reccommended years ago)but make sure that the cat has its drops on its neck regularly so that any eggs that hatch in her presence dont get to live long and continue the cycle.

JW fab news about the test results, what a relief. Mum is doing brilliantly thanks, stitches on one side mean she can't eat solids yet but shes knocking home made soup back like it is going out of fashion...such a shame she has lost them though..she is and has always been a fanatical flosser/ brusher/mouthwasher sort, just proves that some people just don't have strong teeth

neddie how lovely to hear from you - I was just about to put out an APB - as I believe they call it in US cop shows

Sorry you've been having a really rubbish time - hormones are indeed nasty, evil things. Good to hear you're feeling better about everything. Midwives...pah, what do they know? I reckon shifting all that lot AND grappling with a lame horse...twins will be a piece of cake ! mum41 certainly looks good on the twins diet (where are you Mum41?)

How is it going with DP? Are you guys getting much chance to be with each other? I do hope so. Anyway - sounds like a good heavy workload has lifted the spirits - glad to have you back x

lulu I'm with lilibet do it now
Seriously, if your DP likes the idea of a family with you then I wouldn't let having an older family worry you. There are many girls on here who've got much older ones and are having (or not long had) LOs...I'm sure they'll have pearls of wisdom as to how it all works. As for being the main breadwinner- well, I think that is the situation for many woman - older or not - it's modern life for you.

I didn't even get preggie till I was 40 - had DD1 at 41 and DD2 at 42...age wasn't even a consideration to me. Talk to your DP....and then get to work girl

floria good to hear your mum is on the mend. I shan't bother flossing in that case - never got the hang of it. BTW - did you ever get rid of the mink in her pond? If so - where are my skins?...I wanted to trim some gloves ....