Pregnancy After Miscarriage Part VIII - Knicker Checkers and Pad Patrollers welcome

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Is that ok?

Thankyou both. I didn't know there was still anything at Hemel, so that is good to know - far easier to get to than Watford.

I couldn't get a GP appt so am awaiting a callback from the duty GP. I guess there is still a glimmer of hope, as the bleeding hasn't got heavy - barely anything on a pad (but there probably would be if I wasn't visiting the loo every 20 mins !)

Jools Number is 01442287350 - I dont have the EPU one but it is all so small in there I think it would be the same one, i honestly dont know if they will take self referrals but might be worth a try. xx

Thanks Ashleigh

A lovely GP I've never heard of before has called me back and is "juggling" my LMP dates to see if she can get me a scan for tomorrow (they won't accept referrals under 6 weeks) She wants me in to see her at midday just to check things out and rule out ectopic (which I'm sure it is not)

Fingers still crossed - boobs haven't deflated and I still feel mildly nauseous and the bleeding isn't very heavy ....

I wouldn't have asked for a scan this early if I wasn't bleeding, but I go on holiday on Monday - it is DP's birthday treat and I'd really just like to know one way or the other so I don't ruin the holiday for him.

Am just debating now whether to tell my boss and just sign myself off sick - I've been so distracted yesterday, can't see me concentrating on anything today and I have deadlines to meet before the end of tomorrow

It sounds like she is fantastically helpful and its a good thing that she's juggling your dates (you'll know that if they say you're showing earlier than 6 weeks that you are actually earlier than that and its nothing untoward at least). I experienced the same and was due to be going on a long haul flight to Malaysia, it stopped just before we left and then started again 2 days before we came home. I hope its a positive outcome for you Jools, let us know how it gors at the GP's, and of course let us know how you get on tomorrow. xx

Joolsiam Good luck at midday, your GP sounds very helpful! I'm sure your boss will understand whichever way you decide to play it.

ashleigh I hope it happens soon - while I'm still in a good mood and the sun is shining preferably

Jools so glad you've got a sympathetic GP. Good luck at the appointment, I hope you get seen a.s.a.p.

I would let your boss know, work can either be a positive distraction or one pressure too many at a time like this. Make sure you put yourself first. Fingers still crossed for you x

Morning to all you lovely ladies

Jools thinking of you today and hoping for the best outcome. Hang in there.

Thanks for all the lovely birthday wishes. I had a nice day and went for a lovely meal in the evening. H and I also managed a bit of a chat and things have been aired which is good. He's started the wheels in motion to get the energy levels checked out (our major obstacle!) so am tentatively hoping that things will follow through this time, although we have been here before If not, then at least now I can be happy that the conversations were had and feelings were made quite clear.

So all in all, feeling a little brighter today. The mental fug I seem to have been living under for the past month or two seems to be lifting, and am hoping that a successful scan on Monday (stay positive is my latest motto!!) will help it shift even quicker. I can but hope

Scarlotti I'm so glad he didn't just dismiss it all and that you had a good day. You seem to know what you want now, and you're not going to put up with a token effort followed by more of the same, so you don't have to worry about giving it a chance IYSWIM I also managed to have a talk with my H about stuff last night (it was clearly a good day for it) and he seems very level headed and accepting of the work ahead. I am really hoping his new meds have kicked in and are giving him a bit of perspective.

ashleigh keep forgetting to mention your move (because I am a thicky) hope it all goes as smoothly as it can [wishful thinking emoticon]. My only advice when it comes to decorating nurseries is rather obvious, choose a colour that you not only think will be good for a baby's room, but that you actually find soothing! You'll be spending a lot of time in there (there are only so many bunny rabbits I can look at before the red mist descends ).

crunch glad to hear your talk went well too (was it the sunshine I wonder?!!) and in time for you to now relax a little and wait for trocodile princess to appear.
I am happy now that I've broached it all again, and should this prove to be another dead end feel more able to then stand up for me and the life I want. I have a rough timeline in my head so that helps, and hopefully the next few weeks will show proactive progress.

ashleigh hope you're coping ok still at your mil's, don't envy you that one at all. Do you know when you're likely to move? Have you got a house in mind?
My advice with the nursery would be paint a relatively neutral colour, then use those wall stickers to add some interest. That way you don't have to completely redecorate around a year or so later when Thomas/Peppa Pig/Iggle Piggle is suddenly the be all and end all of your lo's life!!

Just back from GP, who did an internal exam but couldn't see anything untoward. Given the relatively small amount of blood loss, she thinks there is still hope. I did up to recently as was still feeling nauseous, but my boobs appear to be deflating now ... The abdominal aching is now quite uncomfortable - like a nasty AF. I don't know how much blood and clotting you would see at under 6 weeks ?

Have got a scan - for what its worth - in Hemel at 10.10 tomorrw. Not sure they'll see anything conclusive anyway.

Lovely GP did put my July CP onto the computer today, so that I can go back to her and get referred to the recurrent MC clinic when this MC is confirmed.

Having told my boss and got a sympathetic response, I'm now off to put my feet up in the garden for a while ...

I hope there will be a new arrival on this thread by the time I pop back - and thanks for your calming comments today

Jools - fingers crossed for tomorrow. Try not to get too obsessive about sympom spotting""

Re the internal from the GP - I assume that she was checking whether your cervix was open?

Jools That does sound encouraging about the internal exam. Putting your feet up also a great bonus! Good luck for tomorrow!

Hi - she said she couldn't tell if cervix was open as it is too early ? I did ask, as that was the first thing I was told last time (but was a lot further on then)

She was really just checking for pain / swelling etc to rule out ectopic I think.

Jools your GP sounds so helpful and kind - very glad she's put the CP on the system and that you've managed to get a scan for tomorrow. Fingers will be thoroughly cramped by all this crossing but I'm still keeping them crossed for you

Feeling really shaky and nauseous and getting lots of BH but no real contractions. I've gone from obsessing over pregnancy symptoms to obsessing over labour symptoms overnight

I've got a horrible feeling I'm going to be overtaken by everyone due in May Where's Ladyhelen?

I do wish I could drown out that horrible little voice in the back of my head that says my baby isn't safe until it's born

Hi Girls,

Jools I am so pleased you have a scan tomorrow, very speedy and I am pleased you are coming to the Hemel one, it has been very very quiet both times i have been there and hardly anyone uses it anymore so you should get in and seen on time. Have a relaxing feet up afternoon.

Crunch & Scarlotti the move is going very slow, we have had an offer accepted on the house we want to purchase, this was 5 weeks ago. We are having problems with mortgage lender being OTT and problems with vendors solicitors getting contracts out, will probably be another 5 weeks or so! Not yet moved into the MIL, tomorrow night is the dreaded night. hmm I am trying not to think about it, and thanks for the tips regarding nursery decor.. I'll remember neutral colours.

Crunch You will be having your little one oh so soon - but i love you looking round for the other soon to be due ladies! It'll be strange on here when your little one has arrived and you're too busy with dirty nappies to come on here and update us!

Scarlotti how far gone will you be on Monday at your scan?

xx

Jools fingers crossed for you tomorrow and good that you made it over today's hurdle.

ashleigh I'll be 12+3 on Monday, it will be my first routine scan as opposed to a spotting/private one. Just hoping that the heartbeat will still be strong and growth will have continued along the right levels.
Fingers crossed the paper trail for your move starts to get sorted soon, it always seems to take so long and get so complicated.

Ahh i hope Monday comes round quickly for you Scarlotti I am sure all will be fine though, the 12 week scan was so detailed compared to the one i'd had at 9 weeks, I was shocked. When was your last scan? What time is your appointment on Monday? Well I may not get online tomorrow as we have a busy time at work, so if i dont then i hope all goes smoothly and you see a really big bean in there when you go. xx

Need a whinge if that's ok.

Got a phonecall from a work colleague of H's letting me know that H had, had to go somewhere and so would not be home in time to get DS2 from nursery. H is therefore not in the office and without his mobile for several hours.

Now, I'm not in labour, but just incase I were would it not make more bloody sense for him to have called me himself to double check before heading off?! What if I'd been sitting at home unable to get DS2 because my waters had broken/contractions were too strong and relying on the fact that H would be home as usual at 4?!

But I wasn't upset because I assumed it was an emergency of some kind and H was needed.

He just walked in and sheepishly told me it was because he had left a digital camera at one of the sites and so had to go and get it

There goes my good mood

Ok, rant over, he's gone out with the dog at my request.

Stupid twunt!

Sorry not important in the big scheme of things, and I'm not in labour, so academic really, but not a shining example of a loving husband trying to make amends for completely neglecting and emotionally abusing his pregnant wife.

Am over here crunch. Nothing doing here except a LOT of BH.

Men!! I know you and your H have a lot going on, but bloody hell, they can be so damn thoughless at times! The point is you COULD be in labour at any time. My DH had me in in tears this morning.MIxture of his thoughlessness, stress and my hormones. Not a good combination.

Grr men eh? Somtimes they really just don't think.

Crunch Man, that sounds annoying. The bit that riled me most was getting a colleague to ring for him. I can see how frustrating that would be.

Joolsiam I hope those feet are still up!

Thanks for the anti-man-empathy They are stupid!

Gentle I know, if he'd called himself there wouldn't have been an issue at all - since he could have checked I wasn't in labour.

Ladyhelen me too! I can't stand up without my whole stomach getting as hard as a football. It's the only time I've ever found myself wishing, "if only these hurt more!". In an odd way I'm glad my H isn't the only thoughtless one (commiserations on yours)

Scarlotti thanks, hope you're not stressing about Monday too much - will be thinking of you (even if I'm absent - please let me be absent!)

Jools good luck this morning, hope you've got lots of good RL support around you at the moment xxx

Thanks for the support ladies - very brusque sonographer cheerfully confirmed a complete MC and sent me packing with a letter to the GP, as there were apparently no EPU nurses available today - great service - NOT.

Still bleeding, but pain gone now thankfully as it kept me awake most of the night Don't feel too bad yet - either it hasn't yet hit me, or the hormone levels never rose high enough for them to come crashing down like they did last time - am just relieved that it is not another physical and mental bloodbath at almost 12 weeks - couldn't have coped with another experience like that.

Got some work to finish off this afternoon, may get gloriously drunk this evening, then am off on hols for a week.

I hope everyone else has fabulous scans and swift, painless deliveries. I hope to be back here soon

Jools have been watching out for your post I am so sorry for your loss. Make sure you don't push yourself to "feel better" too soon and take plenty of time for yourself. I wish there was more I could say. Don't work if you're not up to it - put yourself first. Loads of love being sent your way through the internet ether xxx

Oh Jools, I'm sorry. And sorry you had such a blunt woman to deal with. Why do such people go into such a sensitive specialism if they can't be civil?

But yes - as crunchie says, don't feel the need to 'be better', just have a wallow if you feel like it. Or, if you don't, go and get shitfaced!